I've been dating a guy for roughly about 4 months now and its been tricky to say the least. He isn't into labels or anything to do with emotions, theres been several red flags but i have been talked down from pulling away by saying i am being ridiculous, its not a big deal and tells me how he is falling for me, etc. This past week we have had the "exclusive talk" and feelings views but immediately after there has been some sketchy things happen that is making me question everything but also desperate to not let him leave.
Last week he was randomly told me about him arranging a coffee with some random he used to talk to (but never met) off tinder. I said that was a deal breaker for me and he twisted the narrative to blame me, saying i told him to explore things with others. I did not say this.
Last night he came over, repeated that he was falling for me, wanted us to work, how exclusivity would cement trust, etc. We slept together even though i wasnt fully emotionally invested in it and afterwards he proceeded to tell me he had been dating someone else for 2 weeks after we met and had slept with them 3 hours after meeting me. However in the same narrative said he instantly new i was the one he wanted that day. I threw him out my house and ive since recieved a load of abuse saying im unreasonable for feeling hurt by this and its none of my business what he did that first week as were nothing. Saying its over because im manipulative.
I do understand his points here but i feel i have been led on by false narratives this whole time. AIBU? Any advice on what to do here?