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Boss keeps contacting me while on leave?

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wetlettuce41 · 23/10/2025 09:02

AIBU to want to be left alone to enjoy my leave?

Only on my second day of leave, and both days I have had missed calls from my boss at 8am…

Then he got a colleague to text me and ask for a call back.

Yesterday I did phone back, thinking it was urgent.

It really wasn’t. To do with my flexible working arrangement not having its yearly review back in June. This was supposed to be done by previous boss. I logged on yesterday as requested by new boss and sent through all the paperwork, forwarded the emails from June to show that I did send old boss the paperwork… I don’t know why it hasn’t been done. He said HR is on his back about it.

Not my problem is it?

I’ve done what was asked yesterday and this morning I’ve had another 8am phone call when I am trying to relax and text messages asking me to call back.

I work in the public sector. Never had this before. Boss is newly promoted.

OP posts:
Lurkingforalaugh · 23/10/2025 21:03

DisplayPurposesOnly · 23/10/2025 09:06

Hi boss, I'm on holiday so won't reply to any more messages. Unless the building has burned down, there's nothing that can't wait til I'm back.

And if it had burnt down not very much op could do about it 🤣 I used to tell my team even if the building was on fire don’t bother calling me as I don’t work for the fire brigade so pretty pointless calling me as I couldn’t do much about it, I never got calls or messages on my hols lol

wetlettuce41 · 23/10/2025 19:27

Hyperfix8d · 23/10/2025 19:11

Have you said anything about the fact you are on annual leave? I think it’s time you remind him when you are due back at work and that you can catch up then.

Not acceptable and absolutely grievance territory!

Sincerely,
Public Sector HR

He knows I’m on leave. He apologised yesterday for disturbing me on leave… then did the same again today. He has said in an email he will “give me the time back”. I don’t want the time back, I just wanted to have a break from work and not worry about it.

I get along with my colleagues really well so I feel bad for the one that has text me as I’ve totally ignored, I feel a bit rude. He shouldn’t be asking them to do that, I know.

Some of the comments on here have made my spidey senses tingle a little bit. Quite a few people on the team were very upset at his comments about reviewing everyone’s arrangements to see if we are in the best place… I have reasonable adjustments to help me yes, but I’ve been there a long time and not been told there is any issue with my work, nor am I aware of issues with anyone else’s work. We all do the same role. It’s a good team everyone is very hardworking I would say, overworked if anything. Not sure if because he’s newly promoted he’s trying to prove something? Am I’m not in any sort of management, I’m bottom of the pile.

OP posts:
Tiggermad · 23/10/2025 19:11

This is unacceptable.
I manage staff and I’d never contact them whilst on Leave unless absolutely very urgent.
What you have described can wait.
Id have a chat to him and ask you aren’t contacted unless it’s relevant to when you next log on. For instance if it was a shift change for example.
Anything else must wait for your return.

Hyperfix8d · 23/10/2025 19:11

Have you said anything about the fact you are on annual leave? I think it’s time you remind him when you are due back at work and that you can catch up then.

Not acceptable and absolutely grievance territory!

Sincerely,
Public Sector HR

Furnitureeurniture · 23/10/2025 19:05

Just put a block on all work related numbers until you go back. Or tell them you're on a secluded island for a while and unable to be contacted!

HelplessSoul · 23/10/2025 18:24

wetlettuce41 · 23/10/2025 16:50

Oh and I can’t remember if I mentioned this either, but I also had another phone call yesterday evening when I was at my child’s school in a meeting, after I already did what was asked in the morning and sent the paperwork.

This is absolutely GRIEVANCE territory.

If you dont do that, then you cannot complain afterwards if things do not change.

What this is, is harassment. Straight up.

BellaTrixLeStrange1 · 23/10/2025 18:13

I’m an HR Director in a public sector organisation, and your boss is being totally unreasonable. He absolutely should not be contacting you unless it’s an emergency or there’s a major issue that all employees are being notified of at the same time. Over the past couple of years my own boss has contacted me twice while I was on leave: once when a senior colleague was killed in an accident and a second time when there was a huge flooding issue and the building was being closed. This is not ok, and I think it’s important that you raise it with him and keep your own records of everything that happens. Good luck!

Mumstheword1983 · 23/10/2025 17:57

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 23/10/2025 09:04

“I’m on leave. I’ll respond when I’m back.”

Then stop responding. You’re enabling this shitty behaviour.

This.

PixieandMe · 23/10/2025 17:54

Your new boss is on a power trip, OP. I hope they don't bother you again but if they do, email (don't call) them to say that you are on AL. Put it in writing.

Friendlygingercat · 23/10/2025 17:51

I would have simply not responded to any of the messages. For the record I was away and took a different phone/left it behind. I would take some pleasue in seeing the messages pile up and wondering how long before the penny dropped. I am a past mistress in making myself unavailable.

QueenClinomania · 23/10/2025 17:49

You really need to send an email to him, cc in hr and say that you are on annual leave and to please hold calls until you are back.

Zempy · 23/10/2025 17:29

I would block him and anyone else likely to contact you from work.

Beeinalily · 23/10/2025 17:29

Time every call and claim overtime.

seratoninmoonbeams · 23/10/2025 17:10

my DH has a work phone that is his personal phone too. He has set up a ‘do not disturb’ that allows calls and messages from everyone he knows personally and in a non work capacity. Family/friends and things like dentist or whatever. Simple as ticking all the people you don’t mind contacting you when you’re not at work. Do this. Every time you’re on AL switch on your AL do not disturb. FWIW I wouldn’t have answered the first call as, with my role in the public sector, I know nothing could be that urgent and I didn’t get paid enough 😆🤣

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 23/10/2025 17:03

wetlettuce41 · 23/10/2025 16:49

He hasn’t just emailed me… I’ve been phoned repeatedly early in the morning… AND emailed… and had colleagues texting me asking me to call him… again multiple times. For something that isn’t an emergency and something that I’ve done my bit for months ago.

The only undertone is that my workplace procedures can be rubbish, I’ve had many a manager loose paperwork before, or not follow policy.

Write all of this in an email to HR and ask them to send a reminder to your boss that you are entitled to be left alone when you are on annual leave.

BellissimoGecko · 23/10/2025 17:01

Tell him not to contact you, you are on annual leave and will respond on your return.

silly twat.

i hope you have a good week!

Wreckinball · 23/10/2025 16:59

OP change your user name - it’s as if you regard yourself as a wet lettuce, 🥬 choose something else even if it’s salady like massive cucumberbatonwatch out! Be empowered!

SezFrankly · 23/10/2025 16:54

It’s harassment. Block the number whilst you’re away.

wetlettuce41 · 23/10/2025 16:50

Oh and I can’t remember if I mentioned this either, but I also had another phone call yesterday evening when I was at my child’s school in a meeting, after I already did what was asked in the morning and sent the paperwork.

OP posts:
wetlettuce41 · 23/10/2025 16:49

DirtyDancing · 23/10/2025 15:52

“Not my problem” is an interesting undertone from OP. Should your boss email you on AL? No. Is there more to this? I suspect there is.

He hasn’t just emailed me… I’ve been phoned repeatedly early in the morning… AND emailed… and had colleagues texting me asking me to call him… again multiple times. For something that isn’t an emergency and something that I’ve done my bit for months ago.

The only undertone is that my workplace procedures can be rubbish, I’ve had many a manager loose paperwork before, or not follow policy.

OP posts:
MissScarletInTheBallroom · 23/10/2025 16:45

DirtyDancing · 23/10/2025 15:52

“Not my problem” is an interesting undertone from OP. Should your boss email you on AL? No. Is there more to this? I suspect there is.

Of course it shouldn't be the OP's problem if HR are hassling her boss for something the OP already provided months ago.

Boss needs to say to HR, "@wetlettuce41 is on annual leave at the moment and as you know I shouldn't be contacting her unless it's an emergency. Is it an emergency? If yes, can we double check to make sure we don't already have these documents before we bother her?"

FullOfMomsense · 23/10/2025 16:37

If you raise this with HR, then lose your job then you have a case against the boss. Especially if the reason he might get rid of you is due to your disability.

TaylorNation1998 · 23/10/2025 15:58

I bet you work in the police dont you Op? You dont have to say but it sounds exactly lole the shit I had to deal with in the past. You need to be firm regardless of where it is you work and if they dont listen log it all and grievance.

DirtyDancing · 23/10/2025 15:52

“Not my problem” is an interesting undertone from OP. Should your boss email you on AL? No. Is there more to this? I suspect there is.

Pherian · 23/10/2025 15:42

wetlettuce41 · 23/10/2025 09:02

AIBU to want to be left alone to enjoy my leave?

Only on my second day of leave, and both days I have had missed calls from my boss at 8am…

Then he got a colleague to text me and ask for a call back.

Yesterday I did phone back, thinking it was urgent.

It really wasn’t. To do with my flexible working arrangement not having its yearly review back in June. This was supposed to be done by previous boss. I logged on yesterday as requested by new boss and sent through all the paperwork, forwarded the emails from June to show that I did send old boss the paperwork… I don’t know why it hasn’t been done. He said HR is on his back about it.

Not my problem is it?

I’ve done what was asked yesterday and this morning I’ve had another 8am phone call when I am trying to relax and text messages asking me to call back.

I work in the public sector. Never had this before. Boss is newly promoted.

You need to address it in your next 1 to 1. Outline the boundaries you have for being contacted outside or work.

Make sure you check company policies when you get back regarding out of hours contact.

Ensure your out of office is on and it has contact details of which of your colleagues can be contacted in your absence regarding work matters.

Make it clear in your out of office you are not reachable from day y to day z.

From there if it continues you have to go down HR route. Which in that case you may as well look for another job. Look up “employments rights bill 2026” depending on how long it takes that situation to progress and yours at work - and what becomes of challenges through employment tribunal after - they may want to get out of that habit now.