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Trigger warning -To have told my friend her racist Facebook posts could cost her her new job

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greenishredblue · 22/10/2025 23:49

And I was told to mind my own business.

to be honest rethinking the friendship as our values are obviously completely different

she has just started a new job in a solicitors which I am guessing would cater to all different people from all different cultures, religions, believes etc. recently she has been posting some really well racist stuff such as “sink the boats” and “ban the burka” and “fuck off home” “Britain for the British” “Immigrants are pedos” “our children need to be protected not shot in their own school”
things like that.
tonight she has also posted a post saying “only nonces encourage children to believe they are in the wrong body”.

that last one I don’t believe the nonces part but I do have some options about children being transgender but I don’t post them all over Facebook.

if I were a boss of an organisation that deals with the public I would not be at all happy.

I even have another friend who is not as close to this person threatening to send her company the screen shots as she is so disgusted. I have said that is up to her and to leave me out of that one.

the thing is she has been done before in the her last job for writing horrible things about a colleague and was so close to the sack.

I just don’t think I can be in the same company as this friend now. It’s fair enough having different ideas and beliefs but it just goes too far

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Fairydustand · 23/10/2025 00:24

Yes, she's not friend material.Block her and let her make her own way in life .You sound like a nice person, who will find better friends.

Velvet010 · 23/10/2025 00:22

greenishredblue · 22/10/2025 23:57

I have removed her and blocked. I am right in thinking she could be sacked for this arnt I.

pritty much its the whole brining the company into disrepute and any role thats omg ,

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SocksAndTheCity · 23/10/2025 00:11

greenishredblue · 22/10/2025 23:54

Exactly Emeraldroulette. I know I can’t get my head around it.

she is one of those people you would say is intelligent but has very little common sense.

I don't think she's one of the people anyone would say is intelligent 🤔

Greenwitchart · 23/10/2025 00:05

End the friendship & alert her employer of what she is posting.

The firm's clients deserve better and her bosses won't want her views to tarnish their reputation.

utamea · 23/10/2025 00:04

greenishredblue · 22/10/2025 23:59

It’s her husband I am concerned for really with the wanting to know if she could be sacked. He is going through a lot of horrible stuff heath wise and he is on the verge of being let go from work on medical grounds. He is not on Facebook so won’t see the posts

Not your problem

just delete, don’t contact and move on

MotherJessAndKittens · 23/10/2025 00:04

Sounds like her job is in danger and probably not suited to be dealing with vulnerable and anxious people during problems requiring a solicitor. If her employer knew she would probably be sacked (deservedly). I think I would distance myself from this person completely.

greenishredblue · 22/10/2025 23:59

It’s her husband I am concerned for really with the wanting to know if she could be sacked. He is going through a lot of horrible stuff heath wise and he is on the verge of being let go from work on medical grounds. He is not on Facebook so won’t see the posts

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greenishredblue · 22/10/2025 23:57

I have removed her and blocked. I am right in thinking she could be sacked for this arnt I.

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greenishredblue · 22/10/2025 23:56

As I said it’s only the last month the racist posts have started and ramped up. I have now removed her though I just can’t stay friends with someone like that. We have been mates since primary school- over 35 years

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Shutuptrevor · 22/10/2025 23:56

I couldn’t be friends with her.

Whether she loses her job or not is secondary.

OptiMumm · 22/10/2025 23:55

Lol

Do you think anyone's going to say YABU?

Apart from the obvious YABU to call her anything close to a friend and to have not blocked her from FB.

Holluschickie · 22/10/2025 23:54

I would just not speak to her again. Not waste my time telling her to not make racist posts.

zazazaaar · 22/10/2025 23:54

She will end up like my in laws, bitter angry and friendless

greenishredblue · 22/10/2025 23:54

Exactly Emeraldroulette. I know I can’t get my head around it.

she is one of those people you would say is intelligent but has very little common sense.

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zazazaaar · 22/10/2025 23:53

Why the hell would you stay friends with this sad, racist idiot? I would just block them and never see them again. I wouldn't spend a minute with a small minded bigot of my own choosing.
Get better friends.

CarpetKnees · 22/10/2025 23:53

Like pp, I am wondering why she is your friend ?

YANBU to include telling her she is risking her job, but YABU to still have her on Facebook, indeed, still want to have her as any sort of friend.

greenishredblue · 22/10/2025 23:53

she has only started doing it the last month with the racist posts and it has built up and built up. We have always had different political beliefs she quite right wing and me I would say left of centre. But we never discuss this. But this I can’t ignore

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EmeraldRoulette · 22/10/2025 23:53

Bit of a sidebar, but if she nearly got the sack in her last job, I'm puzzled that she's doing this.

Holluschickie · 22/10/2025 23:50

Why is she your friend exactly?