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Trigger warning -To have told my friend her racist Facebook posts could cost her her new job

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greenishredblue · 22/10/2025 23:49

And I was told to mind my own business.

to be honest rethinking the friendship as our values are obviously completely different

she has just started a new job in a solicitors which I am guessing would cater to all different people from all different cultures, religions, believes etc. recently she has been posting some really well racist stuff such as “sink the boats” and “ban the burka” and “fuck off home” “Britain for the British” “Immigrants are pedos” “our children need to be protected not shot in their own school”
things like that.
tonight she has also posted a post saying “only nonces encourage children to believe they are in the wrong body”.

that last one I don’t believe the nonces part but I do have some options about children being transgender but I don’t post them all over Facebook.

if I were a boss of an organisation that deals with the public I would not be at all happy.

I even have another friend who is not as close to this person threatening to send her company the screen shots as she is so disgusted. I have said that is up to her and to leave me out of that one.

the thing is she has been done before in the her last job for writing horrible things about a colleague and was so close to the sack.

I just don’t think I can be in the same company as this friend now. It’s fair enough having different ideas and beliefs but it just goes too far

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Owlbookend · 23/10/2025 11:01

As an aside, my Year 9 DD's latest PSHE lesson focused on FGM. These issues are raised and challenged. The posts being discussed are not related to FGM.

Gruffporcupine · 23/10/2025 10:58

Cherry8809 · 23/10/2025 10:04

This.

It sounds like they’re both revelling in it, feeding off and encouraging each other.

OP posting “I’m right in thinking she can get sacked for this?”, then the second “friend” sending her employer the screenshots.

You both sound like gossips, who needs enemies eh.

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They are doing it because they enjoy it and want to luxuriate in feeling like a good person while being spiteful.

Her views may be unsavory or even racist. What does it achieve to get her fired? Nothing. She won't stop thinking what she does. This is about OP and her ego

Holluschickie · 23/10/2025 10:55

pusspuss9 · 23/10/2025 10:51

I genuinely don't care about the colour of people's skin.

As a woman I very much care about having to walk around covered up, enforced marriages, female genital mutilation, ,being of less worth than a man, etc, etc, It's lazy to call everybody who thinks the same as I as 'racist ' when in fact it gives a get out of jail card to those who believe in the subjugation of women and girls.
We need to be more honest about what precisely we object to, then we can place our misgivings in the places they belong.

I am not sure how you relate any of these to what the friend said. She didn't say " I am against FGM".

Owlbookend · 23/10/2025 10:55

Discussing women's rights isn't being referred to as racist. Suggesting immigrants are pedophiles is being called out as abhorrent and wrong.

pusspuss9 · 23/10/2025 10:51

I genuinely don't care about the colour of people's skin.

As a woman I very much care about having to walk around covered up, enforced marriages, female genital mutilation, ,being of less worth than a man, etc, etc, It's lazy to call everybody who thinks the same as I as 'racist ' when in fact it gives a get out of jail card to those who believe in the subjugation of women and girls.
We need to be more honest about what precisely we object to, then we can place our misgivings in the places they belong.

Owlbookend · 23/10/2025 10:47

It is easy to ignore these types of views when you are not part of the group being attacked. It is a lot harder when a group you belong to is on the receiving end of hatred.

Spookygoose · 23/10/2025 10:46

Karma’s a bitch, I’d stay out of it, if her company finds out then she deserves it. Why would you want to try and protect someone with such horrible views? I’d definitely be rethinking a friendship with such an ignorant racist

MO0N · 23/10/2025 10:42

So she's one of those 'facebook people'.
I'd say your best option is to accept that you won't get any sense out of her, avoid her where possible & humor her if you can't avoid her.

Owlbookend · 23/10/2025 10:42

For people who are questioning raising this issue with her employers, i think it is important to note that she works for a solicitors. She is involved with the administration of the legal system. I would hope that everybody would understand that holding and publicising views such as "immigrants are pedos" is entirely unacceptable for someone working in any capacity within the legal system.

These views aren't benign they are abhorrent. A non-prejudical legal system is essential for a free and fair society.

JHound · 23/10/2025 10:40

Sevenamcoffee · 23/10/2025 09:48

But you wouldn’t think that a police officer or a social worker, for instance, posting that people crossing the channel should be drowned is an indication that they could be harmful during their professional work?

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Not necessarily no. At least not enough for me to go to their employer.

But I would cut such a person out of my life.

Figgygal · 23/10/2025 10:35

I've an old school friend who doesn't post things but every conversation ends up in a migrant rant as she's fallen down a GB news blackhole. She's educated, very privileged, and living In an echo chamber with her partner and it's not easy to steer her away from the topic. It's very sadly damaging our relationship I don't share her values and views and whilst would be happy to just not go there they seem to have become an overwhelming part of her identity which seems common.

EasternStandard · 23/10/2025 10:26

CloudSky · 23/10/2025 09:51

OP’s post from last night: “I have removed her and blocked. I am right in thinking she could be sacked for this arnt I.”

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Yep I hear you.

Timeforabitofpeace · 23/10/2025 10:24

@cobrakaieaglefang I have people in my wider family who also believe that what they say on this subject shouldn’t apply to them and their lives and children. It’s completely wrong.

BeardofHagrid · 23/10/2025 10:23

She thinks children should be protected? That’s disgusting!!!

Terrytheweasel · 23/10/2025 10:19

cobrakaieaglefang · 23/10/2025 06:50

Know of a woman that worked for HR and posted that shite, without considering who she had in her friends list, a senior manager, who is also mixed race, she got a written warning. She left shortly afterwards. I also see a lot of others posting but they don't have employment details on their posts and aren't in jobs with any responsibility so nobody cares. Scroll on and just clock them as idiots.
I did get blocked by a relative who posted Australian versions of the same stuff. On one about 'send them back' I asked when they are coming back to the UK then, as they are British born, having gone to Aus in the 70s, and I agree that Australia should be for original Australians. Funny that I got blocked for agreeing...🤔😉😂

😂😂🤣 very good!

leporello · 23/10/2025 10:18

'Quite right wing', gawd, what counts as very right wing then?

MrsSkylerWhite · 23/10/2025 10:16

EmeraldRoulette · 22/10/2025 23:53

Bit of a sidebar, but if she nearly got the sack in her last job, I'm puzzled that she's doing this.

She’s clearly not the sharpest tool in the box, is she?

Terrytheweasel · 23/10/2025 10:16

BaffledAndBemusedToo · 23/10/2025 08:26

I agree. We are turning into China, where we are being actively encouraged to grass people up. What happened to just accepting your friends sometimes have different opinions to you? It happens.

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There’s holding different views and political beliefs that are measured and there’s being a nazi.

Terrytheweasel · 23/10/2025 10:14

Quite right wing? She’s a full on racist in plain sight. Do not associate yourself with this person if you have any credibility - which it sounds like you do or you wouldn’t be concerned.

Hoppinggreen · 23/10/2025 10:14

The only unreasonable part is the fact that you are friends with her.
I know people can't change sex and I think we do need to tackle illegal immigration (even if only for the safety of those involved) but her views are disgusting and even if they aren't illegal I would want nothing to do with someone like her

LizzyEm · 23/10/2025 10:11

playstupidgameswinstupidprizes · 23/10/2025 02:38

Yep. but you will never convince the thought police mothers of mumsnet that anyone is allowed any opinion they find offensive - they cannot seem to quite grasp that unless it is illegal, it is not their place to police it. Ever. There was a woman here last week who wanted to report a whatsapp chat for people saying words she didn't like - and then she herself was horrifically vile to another commenter and said the world would be better off without her in it.

People like the OP and her fan club never understand that THEY are offensive, deeply deeply offensive, to millions of other people. They do not grasp the fundamentals of free speech which has never ever meant the right to incite violence or break other laws - but has ALWAYS meant and continues to mean the right to offend other people.

I find the thought police disgustingly offensive, just awful, terrible, bullying, frightening, disturbing and very very worrying people - but I would never try to have them reported for speaking their vile thoughts They are allowed their ugly, hateful opinions.

And now they will assume I am a racist. Absolutely not. Not remotely, no matter their claims. But a person making racist comments is much, much safer to be around than one of the OPs types.

And of course the OP cannot be trusted, not remotely to make a call about what is a racist comment anyway.

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Exactly, 100%, this.

Wishimaywishimight · 23/10/2025 10:08

Leave her to it, let her get fired.

Brefugee · 23/10/2025 10:06

Anyway the other friend has decided to send screenshots to her employer and she does not give a fuck if she is found out.

it is a dick move to be racist, so let's get that out of the way.

It is also a dick move to send screenshots of a private SM account to someone's boss if you don't work there too.

Spookyspaghetti · 23/10/2025 10:06

EleanorReally · 23/10/2025 05:45

i work with people who post dreadful stop the boats on their facebook
but if it is not to do with their actual job, why should it matter?

Usually because it will bring the company into disrepute. Businesses have to treat everyone they deal with the same just as there are laws to protect against discrimination.

Facbook and ‘Twitter’ are very depressing places nowadays. I only use MN and Instagram if I can help it as the others are particularly bad for mental health. You end up believing that everyone is a racist monster when in reality it’s just that we have a more public platform for our views now and the people who work hard for their communities aren’t as vocal as those who want to tear everything and everyone apart.

Cherry8809 · 23/10/2025 10:04

Gruffporcupine · 23/10/2025 07:28

I even have another friend who is not as close to this person threatening to send her company the screen shots as she is so disgusted.

What is the goal of this on the reporting friend's part, seriously? It won't change the friend's views. If anything it will entrench them. Convincing and persuading with argument is what changes people's minds

This.

It sounds like they’re both revelling in it, feeding off and encouraging each other.

OP posting “I’m right in thinking she can get sacked for this?”, then the second “friend” sending her employer the screenshots.

You both sound like gossips, who needs enemies eh.