How to tell DH I don’t like flowers

i told my DH I hate carnations but it doesn’t stop him - he buys garish, cheap flowers often with the yellow sticker still on them. I don’t get it, he means well (they are never apology bunches) I buy lovely natural flowers - £1 daffs for example are much nicer. I sympathise OP

I adore being given flowers, even supermarket ones from a local shop!

I like flowers

But what would irk me is that he couldnt think for himself and only bought them after being told by his mum and sister

Thats ick inducing!

I’m exactly the same. One of the reasons I love them is because they’re ephemeral. My bloke buys me a bunch every week and they make me so happy.

When they die next week and your throwing them out can you do it in front of him and say something like “flowers never last long enough it seems such a waste, a plant would be better next time at least it lives longer”

I love flowers. In gardens.

I hate cut flowers.

You need to just tell him.

My mum is like you, she hates flowers and thinks they’re a waste of money.

I love them, probably for the exact opposite reason. They’re a totally indulgent gift that has no purpose other than make me smile when I look at them. And I never fail to smile when I have flowers!

Pretty easy to hate cut flowers. What's nice about flying, shipping or driving cut flowers thousands of miles then wrapping them in plastic?

“Thank you for the flowers, I appreciate the thought. Just for future reference when you want to get something nice for me, I’d really prefer x, y or z. But these are lovely this time.”

I don't like men giving me flowers because, iny experience, it's usually a sign that they're up to no good. Flowers growing are lovely but bunches of flowers are, somehow, seedy.

I don't hate flowers but I don't really appreciate them. I LOVE growing plants and would really like a plant that would live as a gift. Cut flowers seem a bit sad to me. I would not complain about receiving them obviously but I make a point of saying I prefer plants in company.

Please, please, please nip it in the bud. Pun intended 😂 my exH and I lived in different countries so he sent me flowers all the time. Initially I said there’s really no need, they’re lovely but no more etc. it fell on deaf ears. It went on for years and I really do not like cut flowers. I appreciate the artistry in arrangements - I had a lot - but I prefer flowers growing in the ground rather than dying on my table. I eventually told him and it was awful. I explained that I just didn’t want to hurt his feelings and it was so difficult to say anything once he’d sent so many 🤦🏼‍♀️ Tell him quick!

I told my husband I don’t like flowers, now he buys me Lego flowers instead. It’s a win win…. I get to watch what I want on TV whilst he builds them for me and they don’t die!

downside, we now have Lego everywhere!
(it’s progressed from flowers to cars and postcards and anything else my husband or son fancy building - neurodiverse household!)

Wait til they start to die and say, aw it’s a shame they don’t last, maybe get me a pot plant next time!

I get frustrated with these kinds of posts because men are fundamentally different to us. After 12 years I've learnt that if I want something I have to use my words. He doesn't have a crystal ball. At the end of the day he is just a man. Women are infinitely superior as we all know. Our girlfriends, sisters, mums will always buy us better gifts because they are women too. My relationship is a lot better now I'm not expecting him to read my mind.

It’s just a symbol of his apology.
At least he recognises his error and has apologised, that’s the main thing if he now makes the necessary changes.

It would be weird to hand over a face cream of your preference as a token of an apology, I think. But you could say you prefer a plant, instead of flowers. That feels ok. Or a box of chocolates / biscuits.

My ex used to bring home flowers, periodically..and on my birthday. I told him to stop wasting his money on cut flowers. That I didn’t appreciate them and I’d rather have a shrub for his garden, or nothing.

Fair enough. I do love them though.

It’s possible to hate a bunch of flowers as a gift, but still like flowers.
I hate being given cut flowers. They die. Drop petals, and if lilies, pollen.
Give me a plant for the garden, that will fulfil its lifespan and be better value for money, too.

Gently mystified. How is it possible to hate flowers?

I hate that about flowers as well. It's just another chore. Then you have to watch them die and drop everywhere.

I told mine I'd prefer something living than flowers. But he's not a thoughtless twat in general.

You could try shoving them the front of his jumper to get your message across.

Yes, just smile and be nice.🙄

If you can’t just tell him @otherlineeyes, maybe there are bigger problems in your relationship than you think.

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@Givenupshopping is absolutely right. Address the root cause which is communication.
Probably best to tell his mum and sister at some point as well as the idea will have come from them.
I do love flowers and I’m awful at keeping plants alive, not that I have anyone to buy me apology flowers though. I’m not sure I’ve ever told anyone what kind of flowers I like. I wouldn’t get them often enough to need to have that discussion!

I can't accept your apology without a bouquet. 😌