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My friend is going to end their life by assisted suicide and I'm struggling to tell people

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MegsDancer · 22/10/2025 15:08

What I mean is that I am struggling with the reality because:

  1. I didn't get to say goodbye before they started the journey to do this
  2. There is a safeguarding worry that relatives are pressuring the person into it
  3. I want to be able to tell my friends and relatives that this is something happening in my life but don't know how

So for example one of my oldest friends contacted me the other day asking how I am and I said 'fine' but I'm not fine at all. And somehow I feel awkward about telling him. Or other friends. Should I keep it to myself/just my therapist? I just don't have the words although I need some support.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 22/10/2025 15:12

MAID is very common in Canada right now. I lived there for many years and hear about it all the time.

Can you start the conversation saying that you're not fine because your friend is very ill?

onceuponatimeinneverland · 22/10/2025 15:11

If you've got safeguarding concerns then you need to report to relevant authorities in Canada.

PuckingDespair · 22/10/2025 15:10

If there is a chance that they are being pressurised then ring the police as that is definitely a crime and you shouldn’t stand by and let it happen

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MegsDancer · 22/10/2025 15:10

@Maisieandmia He is Canadian. He's been living in Europe for years but flew back just to do this.

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Maisieandmia · 22/10/2025 15:09

I'm so sorry that sounds really difficult. What country is this in?

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