To have done this to his clothes?

If he's "very much the opposite" of rich and good in bed, and he can't comply with a simple request, is sarcastic at being asked not to inconvenience you, why exactly has he been invited to stay at least 4 times?

As for those saying give him somewhere to leave his things, really don't do that. Surely he can workout for himself that a corner of the bedroom floor or a chair is a good solution, he doesn't need to be given a permanent home for them. If it's really that difficult for him to identify a more suitable spot, he could ask.

It’s not a huge deal to move them though, is it? Or tell him to ‘oi, come shift these please’.

Swiping them on the floor then standing on them making them wet is the kind of thing you’d be forgiven for doing after 15 years of marriage when you’re sick of his shit, not 4 sleepovers in when you’re supposed to be in the ‘honeymoon’ stage. That’s a very extreme reaction.

I think @MrsTerryPratchetsorted this one out for you near the beginning of the thread.

The first year is the honeymoon phase - if they're showing that they're messy, inconsiderate, slobby, rude or just in any way incompatible with you in the first year - get rid. Working on a relationship has its place, once it is actually a relationship and you're mutually invested, but so many things, so early on - throw him back.

I think you have wildly overreacted by shooting and been petty by intentionally standing on his clothes. Context is key here. Usually a parter or housemate leaving their belongings lying about would be very irritating but in this case, he’s simply visiting you and presumably doesn’t have a proper place to keep his things. If you’re that bothered give him a drawer or space in the wardrobe.

😂😂😂 omg. Don’t waste any more of your time on this specimen.

Why has he not yet learned his lesson?!

It was petty to step on them on purpose, but if you've asked him three times and he's clearly not listening, I can understand why.

Is there anything positive about your relationship, as you've only mentioned negative things.

You are not unreasonable @Dockerty you asked three times and he still ignored you. I'd have thrown the clothes out of the window and he would have followed them out of the door never to return.

Yet he’s the one who leaves his stuff everywhere and expects op to act as a maid…

I really like your style OP. Good for you

I’d end it. If he’s happy to ignore something you’ve asked him politely not to do three times then he’s shown you his true colours. He doesn’t respect you or your home. The fact that you felt the need to resort to something so petty to make a point shows he’s not bringing out the best in you either.

I'd just lift the lid up without touching the clothes. See what happens to them.

But ultimately he's a twat so I'd get rid of him.

He deliberately does things to annoy you in your own home, AND the sex is bad.
Why are you wasting your time with him?

He's unreasonable to not remember to leave things folded on the toilet seat.

You're wildly unreasonable to throw them on the floor and deliberately get them wet. How ridiculous.

Dump him; you clearly aren't suited.

So, out of interest, what space have you given him for the tidy storage of his clothes that he has then ignored??

Dump him now. This is the mildly annoying tip of a festering lifetime of being expected to tidy up after a useless man.

No. You tell him to leave and not come back.
Doing petty is not becoming.

Tell him you’ve had the convo before, if he’s unable to take care of his things, he needs to go. You are not his housemaid.

I voted YANBU, because if someone asked me not to do something in their home, I wouldn't do it again.

Having said that, did you tell him where he could put his clothes? He should have asked, but you also could have said, "please don't put your clothes on the toilet, you can set them on top of the dresser," instead. Or wherever you would prefer.

It feels a little like you're both being difficult about something that doesn't need to be difficult.

Isn't there a hook on the bathroom door?

Does he live alone and isn't used to sharing the bathroom?

How was OP meant to compromise when she'd already asked him 3 times? Piss through them?

But I'm really intrigued as to how you actually compromise on 'i want to use toilet as a shelf Vs I'd like to use the toilet as a toilet and not have it used as a shelf.' what's the middle ground there?

'Cruel' is a bit of a strong word!

But yes, get rid of him OP; he's an arse. And will probably only get worse.

Pretty awful to leave your clothing piled up on the toilet seat, it would have annoyed me too. he's lucky Op didn't wee on them. And yes get rid, OP.

Weird to leave his clothes on the toilet and weirder still to keep seeing him?

Give him a place to put his stuff, a hanger or two is enough if he's only round now and then.

Poor bloke not realising clothes don't live on toilets