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To have done this to his clothes?

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Dockerty · 22/10/2025 14:11

Bloke im seeing - first time he stayed at my house he had a shower and then left all his clothes (work uniform etc) folded (in a fashion) and piled up on the toilet. I went in to use the toilet, picked up his clothes and moved them into the bedroom.

Second time he stayed, he did the same thing so I went in to use the toilet, picked up his clothes and shouted of him to come and move them which he did.

3rd time - same thing - this time I didn’t pick them up, I just shouted of him to come and move them and asked him to stop doing this as I don’t want to be moving his clothes everytime I use the bathroom. He made a sarky “ooo ok boss” comment but moved them. I was pissed off and told him it’s a bit ridiculous that a grown man would leave his clothes like that for someone else to sort out! He said I was making a mountain out of a molehill.

So last night he stayed over again - same thing happened so this time I simply swiped the lot onto the floor, used the toilet and then got a shower myself. Accidentally on purpose stood on his clothes as I got out of the shower so they were wet.

An hour or so later he went to use the toilet and came back asking how his clothes got wet. I said they were on the floor. He said no they weren’t, they were on the toilet so I said yeah but then I needed to use the toilet so they ended up on the floor”.

He went in a full on mood about it saying it was petty and disrespectful and maybe he should treat my clothes the same way. I said he could - but he’d have to take them out of the drawer or wardrobe to do it which would be a bit weird.

so, who is BU, me or him?

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BaconCheeses · 22/10/2025 14:16

End it.

You were cruel and petty and you'd be a fool to carry on a relationship woth someone who has demonstrated so early on that they don't give a fuck about creating a harmonious household.

Pointless to carry on.

Dockerty · 22/10/2025 14:16

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/10/2025 14:14

Once upon a time I met a man who, when he stayed over, would help with washing up if I cooked, always offer money for take aways, always bring something and never make a mess. I married him.

People wonder why they end up with piggy men. It’s because the man was clearly a pig and they carried on dating him. He’s pissed off because you aren’t behaving as a servant to him. Is he rich and phenomenal in bed?

No and no to both those questions. Very much the opposite on both

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Skiffster · 22/10/2025 14:15

Throw this one back. Find another who doesn't bring you down to his level.

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/10/2025 14:14

Once upon a time I met a man who, when he stayed over, would help with washing up if I cooked, always offer money for take aways, always bring something and never make a mess. I married him.

People wonder why they end up with piggy men. It’s because the man was clearly a pig and they carried on dating him. He’s pissed off because you aren’t behaving as a servant to him. Is he rich and phenomenal in bed?

ClickClickety · 22/10/2025 14:14

Just end it.

SkinnyOatFlatWhiteForMePlease · 22/10/2025 14:13

Honestly I would just stop seeing him.

Lilaclane · 22/10/2025 14:13

you don't sound as if you like him very much.

I'd be annoyed, too.