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Are all bad sleepers breastfed?

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sharkstale · 22/10/2025 09:54

DD, breastfed until 18 months. Horrific sleeper until we stopped.

DS, combi-feeds, but wants to be glued to my boob all night every night. Even worse sleeper.

Due to the fact that sleep improved instantly when I stopped bf DD, it makes me want to stop bf DS now at 8 months, believing breastfeeding is the issue.

What are your experiences please?

Yabu - bf is not the issue
Yanbu - stop bf and get some decent sleep.

OP posts:
ComfortFoodCafe · 22/10/2025 14:39

What a strange question, no.

Ellerby · 22/10/2025 14:34

DD was a brilliant sleeper, to the point I couldn't let any other sleep-deprived fellow mums know 😆

Fully breastfed until 6 months.

Osmarch · 22/10/2025 14:29

AnneLovesGilbert · 22/10/2025 09:57

What an odd question. Breastmilk is what human babies are supposed to have, it’s the biological norm.

This is a misguided view. Just because something is 'natural' doesn't mean it still applies. Breastfeeding evolved to be the way our ancestors fed their babies, that's about all you can say about it - there is no perfect plan.

Evolution takes hundreds of thousands of not millions of years, our modern life doesn't. Way back in history we didn't live a life where we are awake all day and asleep all night. Babies would have been fed little and often all the time, including by other lactating women. We are trying to cram a square, historically set, peg into a modern, round hole and still claiming it's somehow akin to the divine.

I'm not saying it's not a good thing, it's just that being 'natural' doesn't mean anything.

Digdongdoo · 22/10/2025 14:18

Made no difference with mine. And if they are waking at night, it's far easier to roll over and shove a nipple in their mouth, than to go and make a bottle. All of mine were awful sleepers as babies, all sleep like logs now.

Crispynoodle · 22/10/2025 14:13

From someone who worked in a maternity ward I can concur that the most restless babies were breastfed

GregoryFluff · 22/10/2025 14:09

Both of my girls were breastfed
Dd1 via bottle, she couldn't latch, and I pumped
Dd2 straight from the nipple
Dd1 was a horrendous sleeper, just turned 5 and shouts us awake generally at least once a night still
Dd2 bloody loves her sleep, goes straight through most nights from like 6 weeks old
It's the kid, they're all different

Parky04 · 22/10/2025 14:03

Both of mine were exclusively bottle fed and were excellent sleepers. There is no link IMO.

icallshade · 22/10/2025 14:01

Exclusively formula fed my first, exclusively breastfed my second.
Both slept through at 10 weeks.
Think it's just luck, or lack of unfortunately 🤷🏼‍♀️

Osmarch · 22/10/2025 13:58

FF all 3 of mine, all excellent sleepers. But I don't know if you can pick FF as the cause as there was no comparison. The only thing FF impacts if you ask me was having my husband / mum do the feeds if necessary so it wasn't all on me - made me a lot happier and so we all were.

You could try formula at night if you think it'll make a difference but honestly, if you're struggling and not sure it's helping them it's ok to stop, whatever your reason. Other people can do night feeds for a bit if he's fussing for bf at night and you can see how it goes?

hallomynameisinigomontoya · 22/10/2025 13:56

formula is heavier so it can make them sleep a bit longer before they're hungry and wake up.
it's possible that something the mum eats might might cause some wind or something for the baby which might make them sleep less well? but equally, some formula ingredients disagree with some babies.
I think some just sleep better than others, the same as adults.

I did combination feeding and carried on bf mine at bedtime until they were 4, never did sleep training, they've generally been an amazing sleeper.

Parker231 · 22/10/2025 13:47

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 22/10/2025 12:48

It’s also the biological norm for babies to wake often in the night. Op doesn’t want this to happen she wants her baby to sleep for longer stretches! Understandably.

We did sleep training at five months - bottle fed. They were already pretty good at sleeping through the night but the training and moving them to their own rooms definitely helped. Times it for when I was going back to work and needed good sleep

WaltzingWaters · 22/10/2025 13:45

My DS was breastfed til 22 months. He slept very well. But we did do some sleep training and didn’t just feed on demand constantly during the night after 6 months.

Hohumdedum · 22/10/2025 13:42

Random in my experience.
My BF baby slept about 9 hours a night at 3mo. Then regressed at 5mo. Then slept through the night from 1.5-2.5yrs. Then stopped sleeping through the night again (arggghh!) and still only sleeps through the night about 1/4 of the time at 4.

SugarBrown · 22/10/2025 13:30

Breastfed both mine. First was an awful sleeper and still at nearly 6 will 9/10 end up in my bed at some point. Second is a great sleeper.

Mobley52 · 22/10/2025 13:27

My bf baby was an awful sleeper but ff baby slept well but looking at the comments it seems as this is coincidence

BigPurpleBookQueen · 22/10/2025 13:26

Breast fed all three of my boys & they were all sleeping through night at three months.

Don’t think it’s a breast/bottle thing- think all of the little ones are their own person & we are all different 😀

Witchyandtwitchy · 22/10/2025 13:24

BF both of mine for a year. They both slept through by 6 weeks. I didn’t dare have a 3rd!
I think it’s just luck really.

Lavender14 · 22/10/2025 13:21

I think statistically breastfeeding mothers actually get more sleep on average than their formula feeding counterparts.

Every baby is different. Ds was a good sleeper outside of one night feed waking and was ebf. Personally I found it super handy being able to have him in the next to me and bring him in to my bed for a nurse when he needed one while I dosed. If I had to get up and sort bottles etc I think I'd have found it much harder to get back over.

What I do think is important is ensuring any issues that can contribute to colic are addressed like tongue tie or cmpa etc.

Soaps52 · 22/10/2025 13:19

My 2 month old is breastfed and she’s a great sleeper, she only wakes up once around 3am (granted we only go to bed about 11/12 and get up at 7 as she dozes in the evening while we watch tv). During the day she won’t let me put her down and I get nothing done but that’s a different story lol.

JillMW · 22/10/2025 13:19

AnneLovesGilbert · 22/10/2025 09:57

What an odd question. Breastmilk is what human babies are supposed to have, it’s the biological norm.

It is natural for babies to sleep little and often. Breast milk generally facilitates optimum sleep for the baby. Mumsnet seems to be dominated by those who advocate sleep training but it is a fairly new US and UK led activity that focuses on US on mother being able to get to work early.
I think this NCT paper is good as it does contain references
www.nct.org.uk/information/baby-toddler/caring-for-your-baby-or-toddler/should-i-sleep-train-my-baby

CardiBTEC · 22/10/2025 13:18

DS was formula fed. Still a bad sleeper and he’s 4 🥴

Parker231 · 22/10/2025 13:16

AnneLovesGilbert · 22/10/2025 09:57

What an odd question. Breastmilk is what human babies are supposed to have, it’s the biological norm.

But parents have a choice. Thankfully!

BinNightTonight · 22/10/2025 13:15

Mine is an awful sleeper, always has been. Hes formula fed.

BabyToothbrush · 22/10/2025 13:14

I breastfed all of mine initially and their sleep was different from the get go. DC1 the best down to DC3 the worst!

Fupoffyagrasshole · 22/10/2025 13:05

no i sleep trained both my exclusively breastfed babies at 6/7 months and both went on to be brilliant sleepers