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Kids in care

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Marie299 · 22/10/2025 00:57

My daughter is 9 and does not want to see me I don’t know what reason is but I have been told that it’s due to different reasons. It’s been two years since I’ve proper seen her and she’s on a SGO with grand parents and theys a court order stating my contact with her should be every 6 weeks which has not been happening.

When I have been on the phone to her she’s been asking when she can see me and then a few weeks down the line she does not want to speak to me or see me. Just finding things very strange I have spoken to her grand parent about this and they not really saying much other then my daughter is doing therapy play but how can my bond with her even build when I am not invited to these things either.

I don’t know what to do I’m in the middle on going to court or just waiting it out but it’s been two years and worried that if I do nothing then my bond with her will never be fixed.

need advice

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Marie299 · 22/10/2025 02:05

How is it all about me ? I’m simply breaking done with what’s beeen happening and surely not seeing her parent may effect her more I’m not saying all this for my benefit it mostly hers as he could effect her well being plus her grand parents are not doing much to support her

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Baital · 22/10/2025 01:58

Parenting is about putting your child's needs first in your life.

Your posts are all about you, not your child

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Marie299 · 22/10/2025 01:24

My post wasn’t about what happened before hand it’s about the contact issues I have now 7 years on

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Marie299 · 22/10/2025 01:22

If soical think it’s in the best interest of the child they will remove and that’s how easy it was they was on my back through out my pregnancy and having my first to having my second they breathed down my knack and was looking for every small fault and even said that my kids as risk of emotional abuse due to me losing my mum to cancer when I was 8 even though I had mental health help so please dont tell me that soical wont remove kids for nothing because they use “the kids best interests” as a weapon and theys loads of reports i have where they’ve lied in court papers and no one’s done nothing about it even though we took it to stage 3 with complaining

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Baital · 22/10/2025 01:16

Marie299 · 22/10/2025 01:02

Due to me being care and having a bad childhood

That isn't a reason to remove a child. The only reason is because you can't parent them adequately.

That might be the reason you can't parent them adequately, if you haven't had good parenting yourself.

It must be very painful to have your child taken away. But you need to put your child first. Take on board why they needed better parenting. Deal with the issues you have.

I hope you can get the help you need and can rebuild your relationship with your DD. That may include, and may not, coming to live with you.

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Marie299 · 22/10/2025 01:02

Due to me being care and having a bad childhood

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LetsFlyHighAway · 22/10/2025 01:00

Why was she removed?