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Bonfire Night - sums up why life is worse now.

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Arrrrrrragghhh · 21/10/2025 21:41

Clearly shows how we have lost touch of real life experiences in favour of some weird commercialised version.

Bonfire night always was finding a house/ family/ venue with enough space for a bonfire on November 5th. Point of the bonfire was to be close enough to keep warm on a cold November night. Sounds, sights and smells of a big wood fire
People would bring fireworks. Everyone knew the name and type of the firework involved. Always the element of danger. Sparklers were a must. Numerous safety films at school and on TV so few injuries but enough to make you be respectful.
You would enjoy some specific bonfire foods - potatoes cooked in thd fire, posh black toffee, cheap hot dogs.

Gradually morphed into local organised events.Ok not so many people have big/any gardens. Still community led volunteering to help build or man a stall etc.

Now my local village is a ticket only event - no sales on the day. The day is a Saturday not the 5th. Food is commercial sellers from out of town and the same ones at every fair or event throughout thd year. No one allowed near the fire. Firework is a showy display away from the bonfire
. LED lights for kids as sparklers discouraged. Basically it’s a pointless organised fireworks show rather than a specific festival for November 5th.

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TheNightingalesStarling · 22/10/2025 01:28

In the "good old days" people didn't wear seatbelts, drove home from the pub after a few pints, smoked while holding a baby... and while most of ours were "fine" some weren't and lessons were learnt

You don't need to endanger like to have fun.

(I've been a feeder at the last few village bonfires... let's put it this way, we are in boots, trousers, tshirts and gloves due to the heat... so yes the children are kept well back!)

RubyMentor · 22/10/2025 01:00

AngelsWithSilverWings · 21/10/2025 22:44

I loved bonfire night as a child in the 70's.

The whole street would gather on the piece of waste land behind the houses and light the fire. The guy would go on top having previously been sat in an old push chair outside the local shops for a around a week while us kids took it in turns to asked for "a penny for the guy" (money to pay for the fireworks)

There would be baked potatoes hot dogs and treacle toffee. Sometimes there were toffee apples.

Each family donated a small box of fireworks. They were very low key compared to the ones we have today.

It was always freezing cold - much colder than November ever is now.

I have such lovely memories of those evenings.

The next day you could still see and smell the smoke from all of the different bonfires.

I can't remember when all of this stopped but I was around 16 when I last went to an evening like this so that would have been 1986.

My kids have never experienced anything like this - the nearest they got to it was the rugby club fireworks display. No bonfire but a hot dog each.

My memories too

Cushionseams · 22/10/2025 00:49

What I remember about the 70s and bonfires is all the local kids building one on some spare land, everyone and his dog buying some cheap fireworks from the local shop and knocking on people doors with a guy.
And everyone knew someone who'd lost fingers or other body parts through mishandling fireworks.
On the whole I'd prefer organised displays, and thankfully the meathead next door no longer seems to bother. Gormless wazzock once had one on his wooden decking.

HoppingPavlova · 22/10/2025 00:47

@Arrrrrrragghhh People would bring fireworks. Everyone knew the name and type of the firework involved. Always the element of danger. Sparklers were a must. Numerous safety films at school and on TV so few injuries but enough to make you be respectful.

I’ll give another perspective. I’m so glad it’s stopped, was a complete nightmare. Treated many, many people with severe injuries from fireworks, fire and minor sparkler issues with kids who would grab the top hot part as soon as the sparkler went out. Now, a drunken idiot who tripped and fell onto a fire, or an idiot adult who shot themselves in the face with a firework is bad enough, but seeing children who’d blown fingers off or facial injuries, losing eyes etc from idiot adults letting a 4yo ‘help’ for example is appalling. I was glad and relieved when it was recognised that there were so many idiots out there, and these things became supervised, organised community events.

Creepybookworm · 22/10/2025 00:46

You don't get youths doing penny for the guy in a slightly menacing way like you did in the 1970s. Don't miss that.

ArmySurplusHamster · 22/10/2025 00:38

mids2019 · 21/10/2025 23:12

assisnation

Still nope 🤣

Still remember the letdown when the bandage-swathed child shoved in front of us in infant school assembly as an Awful Warning turned out to be uninjured. It was P— M— ( I recognised her fat smug legs and her stupid socks) and I was hoping she’d lost at least one eye.

Hoardasurass · 22/10/2025 00:32

YoudonemessedupAyAyRon · 21/10/2025 22:57

So we celebrate it by blowing stuff up, setting fires and putting people and animals in danger. That’s logical.

If your really interested in the history of bonfire night it goes back to Henry the 8th and the reformation which his daughter queen Mary (bloody Mary) reversed and then started burning heretics (prodistants) for refusing to convert to Catholicism followed by queen Elizabeth 1st of England reverting the country back to the prodistant faith and the anti Catholic laws she brought in that persecuted them which were made tougher by king James VI. Under James VI catholics were fined into destitution for not going to prodistant church services.
This is what was behind the plot and it was a gift to King James as it allowed him to demonise the catholics (even more than they were) and by decreeing that it must be celebrated every year its still remembered today

Chinapattern · 22/10/2025 00:31

I'm on the west coast of Scotland and there aren't many big organised displays now. It's Halloween that is massive up here with a big street festival and loads of events. I quite like fireworks but have never set them off myself, we used to go to the local council display but the bonfire was the best bit and that is now long gone, it must be 20 years since I saw a big bonfire at an event and the bonfire was the real magic.

We do have lots of people letting off fireworks locally for weeks around Nov 5th, there were some tonight when I was putting the bins out.

ShowDownTime · 22/10/2025 00:22

I totally agree with the OP. I loved Bonfire Night as a child. For us it was a real extended family occasion. All the cousins at my granny’s house, jacket potatoes from under the bonfire, everyone bringing fireworks, the dads lighting them and the mums handing round treacle toffee. We didn’t bother with Halloween it was all about Bonfire Night. I really have tried to keep it going a bit with my own children but nothing compares to Halloween nowadays. 🤷‍♀️ and you’re made to feel like a criminal for letting off fireworks in your garden. Mostly because everyone is obsessed with their animals - and we must all worry about the pets above all else - even when the same pets are crapping on pavements and peeing in flower beds!

EconomyClassRockstar · 22/10/2025 00:16

I'm 50 and, other than sparklers and a few half arsed fireworks set off by my Dad, it was always a massive bonfire and firework display in the village. With a sausage and a baked potato. Yum!

Coldtoesinthebed · 22/10/2025 00:08

And to all those saying risk is part of the excitement, yes I get it, but I want both myself and DH to return from work in the state we left

DoinFineIThink · 22/10/2025 00:07

GirlBottle · 21/10/2025 23:56

Well this never happened but nice story

Why? Sounds like the kind of Bonfire nights I remember too. Just because it's not your experience, doesn't mean it didn't happen for anyone else.

Firefightress1 · 22/10/2025 00:06

Coldtoesinthebed · 22/10/2025 00:01

Well to go against the grain…as an NHS worker with a DH who’s a fire fighter imo the general public should 110% lose the right to purchase any sort of fireworks due to the (albeit small) population of absolute idiots who go out their way to cause harm with them…e.g. putting them through peoples letterboxes and that one person who flung one at me when there was no reason other than me trying to help someone😑

I posted the same 3 pages back... 100percent

Offloadontome · 22/10/2025 00:05

Oh I so miss the days when I was a kid, and bonfire night we'd spend at our local organised bonfire, we could get as close as we wanted and half the fun was taking things off a big pile of logs/ sticks / wood and throwing them on the bonfire! We used to light the ends of sticks and swish them like sparklers. It was so much fun. We'd never be allowed near it now. People are too stupid, and can't be trusted to use basic common sense not to burn themselves or other people.

Coldtoesinthebed · 22/10/2025 00:01

Well to go against the grain…as an NHS worker with a DH who’s a fire fighter imo the general public should 110% lose the right to purchase any sort of fireworks due to the (albeit small) population of absolute idiots who go out their way to cause harm with them…e.g. putting them through peoples letterboxes and that one person who flung one at me when there was no reason other than me trying to help someone😑

GirlBottle · 21/10/2025 23:56

SeaAndStars · 21/10/2025 22:04

My parents loved throwing a party and Bonfire night was the biggest party of the year.

Friends, extended family and neighbours would all come around, I reckon over 100 people were there every year. The kids in the street would build a big bonfire during half term and make a guy to sit on top of it in an old chair. Masses of fireworks, roaring bonfire, a huge buffet of brown food and toffee apples laid out in the garage. Everyone in bobble hats and mittens and the adults all got drunk and silly.

That cordite bonfire smell takes me right back there with my mum in a pinny handing round sausage rolls and my dad in overalls lighting fireworks with a fag in his mouth. Bloody loved the 1970s.

Now I sit in my upstairs window watching the fireworks and hoping all the kids are having as good a time as we did.

Well this never happened but nice story

Hoardasurass · 21/10/2025 23:49

Arrrrrrragghhh · 21/10/2025 21:54

Yes of course it’s safety. The point being it’s all too safe so less important. One night of being close to danger is the literal point of Bonfire Night.

Remember Remember the 5th of November gunpowder treason and plot
The reason bonfire night is important is it celebrated the foiling of the Catholic plot to murder King James VI (1st of England) and the entire parliament by blowing them up along with a large part of London. Not some danger fest that is your imagination

NameChangeForThisQuestionOnly · 21/10/2025 23:41

Arrrrrrragghhh · 21/10/2025 21:54

Yes of course it’s safety. The point being it’s all too safe so less important. One night of being close to danger is the literal point of Bonfire Night.

Well no, this is not true. The very literal point is the opposite, to commemorate being safe from danger! Guy Fawkes and his mates plotted to kill the King and failed. The next day, 5th November, people lit bonfires to celebrate the King’s survival, and we’ve celebrated it every year since. And actually these bonfires were not lit at people’s homes but in communal spaces.
These days, people don’t use bonfires for celebratory purposes, we use other things. It’s no surprise bonfires are less popular.
I can’t imagine Guy Fawkes or King James ate a jacket potato or a hot dog on that day either.

freedo · 21/10/2025 23:39

When was this?

When I was a dc nobody did their own bonfire, there was the odd neighbour having a fireworks party. What I remember is each of my local commons doing free fireworks with huge bonfires. Now there is really only one event per borough & it's not free.

ToeJob · 21/10/2025 23:39

Bloody hell - what a load of old whinging.

Dutchhouse14 · 21/10/2025 23:37

As kids we used to go to an organised display by the rotary club at our local park. Big event, bonfire, fireworks, fun fair etc
With my own kids we've had a couple of displays in back garden but usually have gone to an organised event.
What I insist on is one with a bonfire as so many don't have a bonfire nowadays, also avoid any that link it halloween - Halloween is nothing to do with bonfire night.
Also get fed up of all the complaints on my village WhatsApp about traumatised animals, ptsd for veterans and any other reason for guilt tripping people for celebrating bonfire night I think it's an important tradition, part of British culture and long may it continue

Stressedoutmummyof3 · 21/10/2025 23:36

Arrrrrrragghhh · 21/10/2025 21:54

Yes of course it’s safety. The point being it’s all too safe so less important. One night of being close to danger is the literal point of Bonfire Night.

It really isn't the point of Bonfire night. I would rather people were safe instead of being burned or seriously injured by fireworks.
It's hardly new having an organised Bonfire night on a weekend either. More people will turn up then. If it really bothers you so much make your own Bonfire and do your own fireworks and invite people round. Nothing stopping you.

DoinFineIThink · 21/10/2025 23:33

There's a mix of both round here - the bigger, more organised ones and the smaller ones at local pubs.
As for LED lights instead of sparklers, well pfffft to that 😁 I've always had sparklers as a kid, my kids have had them too and you just need to teach them safety.
Outstretched arms and hands, don't wave near people and keep your distance, and a bucket of cold water to put the used ones straight into afterwards.
We'll all be having sparklers, me included as I still love writing my name with one 😁

usedtobeaylis · 21/10/2025 23:32

I never really cared for standing down by the scout hut while a handful of men ran in and out of the adjoining field trying to light the fireworks that felt about a fortnight apart in going off.

Handeyethingyowl · 21/10/2025 23:28

I too have lovely memories of bonfire night for the neighbours in my parents’ garden when very little. But I was also: terrified that my Dad would get injured by the fireworks he was letting off, terrified of that advert where the child had a burnt hand from a sparkler, scared of the noise, worried for my pets, didn’t like the Guy Fawkes story (felt sorry for Guy Fawkes), didn’t like the weird penny for the guys, felt sorry for them when they were burnt, didn’t like the balloon face popping, didn’t like getting close to the bonfire. Despite my otherwise fairly fuzzy warm memories of those nights most of it was fear tbh and I am happy to take my kids to an organised display now.

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