I did a childish thing, but it felt good! AIBU?

You understand there's a difference between keeping the house clean and stocked, and tidying up another adult's mess, yes?

The former is one of the OP's contributions to the household. The latter should not be necessary. Even if that adult is the breadwinner.

Genius move @fuckhimintheear

This is the most reasonable thing I’ve ever read on here. Bravo OP, that’s hilarious! Plus, Greggs sausage rolls are the best food ever!

He is disgusting for expecting you to clean up his beard trimmings by the way. That is showing you zero respect. How would he like it if you left a used tampon for him to throw away?

My baby 👶 is now 16 and my DH and I are having the same arguments about housework we had when they were a 👶

Maybe this will help him learn- my DH hasn't 😞

Well done OP, that would give me satisfaction and a giggle for weeks. I totally relate to your situation. I get my own revenge with DH as he folds his dirty socks up into a pair. I refuse to un-fold them and assume they are a clean pair and put them back with the clean pairs.

Yes, he's the sole earner of money earned outside the home. But his wife's work in the home/with the family enables him to go to work and not have to pay for childcare or domestic help.
And yes I know he does work in the home as well. But I meant not pulling his weight when he's looking after the kids or doing dinner or whatever, as in, he's not doing the whole job if he leaves some of it for his wife to do.

Calm down Meryl Streep.

You were probably a little bit of a dick. I like you and wish we were friends.

Not pulling his weight? He's the sole earner in a family of seven.

He's not really pulling his weight if he doesn't clean up after himself and the kids.
Tell him he has to clean up as well as 'supervise', he has to clean up his own beard clippings, and if he cooks he has to clear up too (unless you have an arrangement of 'I cook, you clear up', but it doesn't sound like you do).
If he calls you a nag, tell him clearly that that's not acceptable language. I had to do this with my DP; I told him – calmly – not to use that word about me any more because it's sexist and misogynistic. It worked.

😂😂😂

Yes, same here. My dh is so fucking messy. I have asked him time and time again, but now, yes I just sound like a nag. Its boring.

I have SO much time for this level of petty, passive aggressive action!!

The only way men will learn is if we inconvenience them.

I would do this every time he leaves his beard trimmings out. I bet he will stop shortly after.

I wouldn’t do that ..but I’m laughing 😂
He sounds careless rather than deliberate and it’s great that he cooks , minds the kids .
But that constant cleaning up after him would drive me batty .
My husband leaves kitchen mess ☹️ while making sandwiches or whatever , but elsewhere is ok .

A grown woman going out of her way to vindictively ruin someone's new car for pure spite. And dragging the kids into it.

Have you ever tried to get grease stains out?

If he's a shit dad/husband then she ought to leave. But she states in her OP that he earns all the money (enough to keep five kids and his wife) and does all the cooking. All she has to do is the cleaning. She doesn't want to leave because she's got it too good but thinks it's acceptable to behave in that way?

This the same man you had a thread about last month who calls you a loser, won't buy a drink for you when you are out and you were recognizing as potentially abusive?

Satisfying as that must have been, you now need a grown-up conversation about why you did it, and how if he can clean the car he can clean the house.

This is the kind of pettiness I can get behind, made me laugh 😂

I think this was an excellent way of making your point @fuckhimintheear . It may seem petty to some, but sometimes you just have to show somebody in the most obvious way why their actions are causing you to get annoyed -hit 'em where it hurts so to speak.
I hope he now realises how frustrating it is when somebody treats something you keep so clean in such a dismissive way.

Oh bore off, love. We’re all blinded by the glare off your halo. And your user name tells us everything we need to know about you.

I mean, yes, you were a bit of a dick. I'd probably feel like being a bit of a dick too. Probably still coming down slightly on the side of yabu because you dont want kids to get in the habit of eating flaky food in the car, it might be a bit of an own goal.....

I’m right with you OP - that’s exactly the type of thing I’d have done! Ignore the pearl clutching from all those who apparently deplore passive aggression while polishing their halos. Sometimes it’s the only thing that works. More power to you!

Yeah, you're a dick.

There is more to life than having a clean orderly home and taking revenge on your husband

Oh don't be so dramatic. He works full-time to provide for OP and 5 kids, runs them around and cooks for them. There is nothing to suggest he doesn't respect OP or has disdain for her.