Cancelling First Date Help?!

When I met DH he had a very high paid, high profile glamorous job. I worked in a greasy spoon. We've been married 30 years and I've earned more than him for some time.
He SO didn't want a love island type.

Go on the date and enjoy his company.

Why do you say this? You don’t know the man. Op has hardly shared anything about him, just that she thinks she’s not his type

He wouldn't be my cup of tea, but if that's the sort of relationship you're looking for then go for it!

Why does that matter? You're just being nosy.

What’s the restaurant?

I met my second husband through a dating agency 24 years ago. He is very wealthy. I was a Primary school teacher with 2 young children and very little money. He had more money than he knew what to do with. He didn't care that I didn't have any. Wear something nice and have a lovely time.

Oh for gods sake, why don't you just say you're a little nervous and would like to chat on the phone for five mins before meeting. Any normal bloke will understand.

This is totally bizarre you can’t decide you are not someone’s type, that’s up to them. Makybe work on your self esteem. Everyone’s saying the same thing but you seem set that your right that your not his type. You’re also being judgemental.

Absolutely! I feel sorry for the poor guy. What awful judgments you have made.

If you don’t feel comfortable with a meal as a first date then don’t go.

You are making a lot of assumptions about him before even meeting him face to face. Of course you might be right so the best thing to do is just be authentically you.

Wear whatever you would normally wear to go to a nice restaurant. Don't worry about the future. This might be the first and only date you have with him so make a plan to make the most of it and really enjoy it!

Worst case scenario - he's terrible company, you can still have a lovely meal, you both go your separate ways asap.

Mid case scenario - he's lovely company but you both don't really 'gel', you have a lovely meal, you both go your separate ways.

Best case scenario - he's lovely company, you have a fantastic time, you arrange a second date.

He's seen your pictures - he knows your current style. He's asked for a date.

If he makes any comments about changing your look, style or appearance in any way, just give him a big smile and let him know you're not the woman for him.

@ManchesterGirl2this is my opinion too. I would also find it a bit controlling and show off ish

Agreed. I find this thread a bit exhausting tbh.

Stupidest thing I’ve read on here lately !

Just go what's the worst that can happen? You don't like him so you never see him again. But you may really like him and wanting to splash the cash isn't such a bad thing in a date.

Have a word with yourself! Stop overthinking. You're coming across as precious and that's not attractive. Just wear something you feel good and confident in and go and see if YOU LIKE HIM! Not does he find you attractive. That's his call, not yours to worry about!

Going against the grain here but I'd hate this as a first date with a stranger. I like something simple like coffee so I can leave soon if I don't like them, and extend the date if I do. And I always offer to go halves because I don't want a man to feel entitled to more of my time, or even sex, based on having paid for my meal.

He might be lovely, but I'd keep an eye out for any signs he's trying to manipulate you with his "generosity" and make sure you have your own independent transport to get home again, in case things don't feel right.

Honestly, my neighbour (tiny 2 bed bungalow/semi detached) was going out with an LA rockstar (can’t say who as it would be outing). He loved her normality and would be putting the bins out on a Wednesday! All is good if you gel. Xxx you’ve got this!💕

When is your date ? I’d get dressed up so you feel confident and just go, what have you got to lose? Absolutely nothing at all.

Stop making assumptions about him, it's a bit bizarre you keep doing so.

FWIW, my husband is a "business type" and I look like I've been dragged through a hedge backwards 90% of the time. Personality and chemistry are what counts.

You can’t go wrong with a simple black dress.

You are making so many judgements and assumptions about him- he might like this kind of girl, he might have dated this body type before. Yes it is natural to feel a bit nervous about whether someone will like you or not. He has seen your pics and clearly interested. Have any of your conversations given you an idea that he is pretentious? If not, then why are you being so negative? If there's one thing that's inferior, it's your mindset, sorry.

You’re just coming across really shallow. And honestly, if you’re going to go on about it this much then you’re just going to be exhausting for him to deal with. He knows what you look like, and wants to go on a date. But you’re applying your own standards to him, and you’re going to be one of those girls who needs constant reassurance when he hasn’t done anything to deserve this sort of judgement.

Just go

You’re being really daft. If you’re not ready to date, fine. But don’t blame it on him or make assumptions about him!