I cancelled overseas work trip for my wife’s fake 'wedding'… & still made to do the school run today?

......and I hate to say it but we had the best time without her picking me apart. I hate it.

It's time to get out, OP.

If you're happier without her around it says A LOT.

She sounds like a selfish user with very little respect for you.

🐂 💩

It's frustrating because in theory I don't have any problem with men being here. It's not a designated female space and there's no check in place to even try to ensure it's all women.

It's just that in practice, it's so rare for men to be here in good faith. It's almost always to correct or chaperone us in some way.

Definitely chat GPT , im not wasting anymore time on this garbage.

She went away for 5 days and didn't want to speak to her children at all?!

Yup.

Another weird sounding thread. Men are always martyrs despite having zero reason to be ie they aren’t being left pregnant, shafted through having kids ( physically mentally or financially) or on account of body clock versus career opportunities.

Mate, you're twisting yourself into all kinds of weird shapes to understand and excuse this prat while she stomps all over you. It's a hallmark of Stockholm Syndrome.

I bet things were a lot more equably balanced and mutually considerate at first. She's slowly turned into a big, hungry ego pushing you this way and that; you've slowly turned into a boiling frog.

If you believe change can happen, it's past time to force it. Say No, take your daughters on holiday by yourself or with your dad, organise more relationship counselling, make it clear you will not be boiled!

If you've had enough already - reasonably, from what you've shared - start divorcing.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boiling_frog#As_metaphor

OP, I’m having trouble understanding the way you express yourself. I am a champion of plain speaking, so I interpret your posts in the following way:
Your wife went through a bad time for a number of years and didn’t treat you well during that time.
She is now past that and has selective memory of how it affected you.
She lied about her reason for going away, has not acknowledged your sacrifice in allowing her to do that, and is manipulating you into doing the school run ( her meeting being supposedly more important than yours)
Your emotional energy levels are low and you can’t continue like this.
Have I got it right?
What are you going to do to change things?

Op, if it is exactly as you have described, I feel sure that she went 'dark' on you and the children during the time away because unfortunately, she was with a lover, not a wedding party.

When people go away with their affair partner, they often fall into total silence because anything more is too difficult and emotionally challenging.

How she behaved when she came back is also frequently the behaviour of someone who wants to cause a disagreement so that they can genuinely fall out with their spouse, therefore making themselves feel better about the emotional and sexual betrayal they have just committed with someone else.

I was thinking the same thing about a few things. Its a red card 'leave him' offence if a man lied about a wedding to go on a lads holiday!

Why don't these men who seek out female spaces to complain about their wives trouble to hide their contempt for women just for the duration of their threads?

Assuming this is even real, this is the mask slip where we see you don't actually want an objective response to this scenario, since you've already decided we aren't capable of giving one since we're women. You just wanted to give us a situation in which you'd already decided we would be unfair to a man and try to get us to do the same with a woman. Clearly you don't value our views so why are you asking for them?

I mean, the situation itself sounds plausible. But it's the inability to hold off on the "u wimmin wd tear a man apart for this" stuff for 30 seconds that makes it sound reverse engineered and insincere.

I don’t get all the hate, loads of blokes write weirdly on here, most of them in fact seem to be particularly verbose and flowery in a slightly nonsensical way.
I’ve never understood why but have learned to recognise the distinctive style of ‘man writing to a large audience of women’.
I don’t understand what swallow concrete means though @Daddydog ?

I'd feel that my husband had zero respect for me and sort out a life without him

Well this is weird. I don’t think so OP.

I had to laugh at the last post from OP 😂😂

Amusing

Don't encourage him

With regards to lying - There is a lot of guilt from some past events shes dealing with so it's on another level.

Is the guilt from cheating in the past?

I don't know what to think about the last post. Is it a reverse or boredom?

It feels like a reverse, definitely.

I’m sorry this is happening. I stuck a marriage very similar for 23 years. It was always, ‘I still love him’ or ‘he’ll get better’. It doesn’t, and not only do the consequences of this sort of trauma being inflicted upon you, affect you, if has a massive impact on your children. I stayed to long, dd2 has tried suicide three times because of him. I don’t me 20 paracetamol, I mean 40 diazepam. You need to get away from this. You love a shell, the person you love is no longer there and you’re a punchbag.
Im really sorry.

Did she really not call her kids for 5 days?.

Tell her you're going to the clinic for an STD test. You don't know what she was doing. You have small children do you want them in harms way if you was to get sick. What is she teaching her children how to be a player and lie to your partner. Your parents now kids talk at school teachers know more than you think. You both need to grow up and take responsibility for your decisions. It will affect your children.