Neighbours request

Live your life as you see fit. I would politely acknowledge but ignore.

She sounds unhinged. Ignore

Switzerland does not have a law that prohibits showering, but taking a shower after 10 p.m. is strongly discouraged due to noise concerns and is sometimes restricted by rental contracts. The reasoning is that the sound of running water is considered too loud and can disturb neighbors, and while some landlords may ban it, it is not a nationwide legal ban. Taking a shower is generally considered a short-duration noise, unlike running a bath, which is a longer and louder activity.

Noise concern:
Showering after 10 p.m. is discouraged because the sound of running water can be too loud and disturb neighbors.

Not a legal ban:
While there is no law prohibiting showering, some landlords include rules against it in rental agreements to prevent noise complaints

This reminds me of the time my batshit neighbour came running into my house and up my stairs, screaming at me for using my hairdryer at 5.55pm. apparently because it was dark outside it was still the “middle of the night”. She also tried demanding I don’t use my washing machine OR watch tv at any volume, after 6pm!!!! She even went as far as to get Environmental Health to put recording equipment in to try ‘catch me’ daring to use my hairdryer after dark……

Some people don’t see the gigantic difference between hearing your neighbours existing and actual noise nuisance.

I’d actually hold out and let her continue making the noise. She will be the only one that comes out of it looking bonkers! And plus, it’ll annoy her much more to get no reaction. You know she’s already prepared a response to whatever you would say to her, I’d never give her the satisfaction!

No. She does not dictate how you live. She can pay for cavity wall insulation and sound proofing and or get noise canceling ear muffs should it bother her

She's doing this because she wanted to be your friend and you've made it clear you don't want that.

Let her get on with it. I doubt you're make enough noise for her to take it to the council, from what you say you're just making normal household noises. Loads of people work shifts - what would she say if you asked her not to have a shower or slam her car door while you were sleeping?

Exactly.

She’s welcome to soundproof her side of the wall. That would help her. But no toilet flushing?! Hahaha

Perhaps you should mention that your ear plugs mean you don't hear a thing even when the school run is going on, and would she like to bulk buy with you? It might make her realise that it's not going to work to try and be noisy when she thinks you're asleep.

You are legally permitted the enjoyment of your property and she is interfering with that. My first instinct would have been to tell her she’s batshit and to fuck off, but that’s not going to help you, given what happened this morning. I think she’s getting ready to make your life hell if you don’t comply with her requests so I think your best move is to make sure you’re acquainted with the law in respect of what’s reasonable and what’s not. As far as I know, the normal noise levels associated with everyday living apply from 7am to 11pm, after which time care should be taken with anything excessive.

If you know you’re not being excessively noisy I would keep a log of the times of day or night she is making excessive noise herself and when you have enough evidence report to the council. If you can, try to video anything designed to cause a nuisance, such as what happened this morning - security cameras might be a good idea, and upload and keep the footage. I have a horrible feeling you’re headed for all out war as she sounds unhinged.

Here comes my standard respose to all these bonkers neighbours, they should try having my lot who have:
Wrecked the communal entry gate
Damaged the gate I then paid for to replace the wrecked gate
Messed about with the drainage from their bathroom so that their dirty bath water was flooding into my back yard
Deal drugs
Broke into my yard and pinched my wheelie bin
Called me a "mother fucking cunt" when I asked them to keep the noise down and by noise I mean shouting, yelling and fighting!
Fly tip
Chuck rubbish out on the pavement
Blocked the communal entry with rubbish
Someone who moans about a hairdyer doesn't know they are born and must be leading an empty and deeply unfulfilling life to even notice such a thing let alone start moaning about it. Ignore her

Ffs she can’t tell you when to wash or flush your toilet! It’s hardly antisocial noise. Maybe you should recommend your ear plugs to her since she’s so oversensitive to minor sounds

Can't say I've ever fancied Switzerland, and this is one reason why. Don't they have laws about hanging out the washing on a Sunday or something too?
It only seems to be affecting the neighbour's quality of life now, which is weird after three years. I think she's just suddenly decided she's got a problem with it.
There's 'consideration' – no loud music or telly at 3am, say – and then there's just using your own shower and flushing the loo.

Your body doesn’t stop sweating when you sleep. People need to shower in the morning or they smell. They may think they don’t but they do.

She can shower before going to bed. Presumably she isn't burning the candle at both ends.

I wouldn’t be able to stop myself from innocently liking that post lol

I live in an apartment with a no noise rule 11pm - 7am
we are still allowed to flush the toilet, dry hair, shut the doors etc because that’s reasonable noise

blaring music, washing machine, banging about then no but you have to tolerate some noise from other people

i wouldn’t sing in the shower and have music on but I would shower

So you think op shouldn’t shower before going to work? That’s ridiculous and gross.

The only thing I wouldn't do of those things is the hairdryer early in the morning. I feel like you can probably plan to wash & dry your hair so you're not making noise. But using the toilet etc you have to do those things. And the extractor fan? Unless it's a superstrength one I can't see how on earth she can hear that.

I’m up at 5am or coming home in the early hours.

I feel that if you are having showers, flushing the loo or using a hairdryer at those hours you are being unreasonable. There are countries - Switzerland comes to mind - where this would be prohibited by law.

Would it really affect your quality of life - as much as it clearly affects your neighbour's - to show a little consideration? In my view, 11 pm to 6 pm should be 'no noise', or at least 'as little as humanly possible' hours.

Agree, your life is going to be made a misery I think, she's a nut job, I can hear my neighbours every move because we live in a shitty newish build, it is annoying but I know I can't control it so wear earphones, you're obviously doing nothing wrong so keep on keeping on, and steer well clear of her.

What?? How ridiculous.
Yes, I have fine shoulder-length hair and it needs to be dried every morning. I've had no problem "living like this" for 50 years.

Don’t be ridiculous. It’s perfectly normal to wash your hair and use a hair dryer in the morning.