Ultrasound childcare

No, it’s not hard not to dwell on it at all. People’s lives are different, we are all coping with various things, some serious, some less so. Better to focus on our own stuff than waste time thinking others have it easier. You’ll be happier.

I hope your scan goes well.

Sorry you have this worry op, at such a late stage it must be stressful .

People can be weird. Your parents having workmen in their in house is obviously bothering them for reasons that seem unfathomable to you or I.

If they are usually attentive and supportive just shrug it off or it will damage your relationship at such a crucial time.

As pp said dh just waits in the waiting room with ds if you can't find a friend to have him for a couple of hours.

I'm so upset about the lack of support here

You mom watches your son at your home while you work; I assume that's on a regular basis? It seems like you're getting plenty of support. Reschedule or go on your own.

Others have suggested a babysitting agency, my DD is a performing arts after school teacher so enhanced DBS and first aid trained. She is registered with an agency and does a lot of these emergency babysitting day time gigs.
This would seem your solution.

Maybe OPs parents realised that OP is prioritising her weekend away instead having a scan earlier, so don’t think that they should have to rearrange their own plans.

There could be any number of reasons such as GP knowing that her husband might try and move furniture alone and hurt himself or not know what was wanted when asked by decorators. Redecorating is a once in a decade event in our family and a day to be a team as a couple…much like OP and DH sadly on the same day

If you don't want to go alone then you need to make other arrangements.
Sulking about your otherwise helpful parents not being available on this one occasion isn't going to help.

I think you are getting a hard time here OP by all those asking why your DH needs to be there.
At my first growth scan at about 26 weeks they found a significant anomaly which led to lots of investigations and suggestions of whether to continue with the pregnancy. Unfortunately my DH had stepped out to put more money in parking meter when I was called in, and i had to listen to this on my own, and he came back in to building to me coming out of scan room in floods of tears. The sonographer had a medical student with them who they described in great detail all my babies brain abnormalities too in medical language, I presume assuming that I wouldn't know what they were saying. However as a paediatric specialist I knew fully what they were saying.
It may be that he can't, and you have to have your older child in wait room with him if needed, but those who are suggesting you are unreasonable in wanting him there are being a bit unfair I think.

Unfortunately I agree that with a second child you need to sometimes manage without your partner.
Surely the grown scan should have been prioritised over the weekend away (and could you not have asked for a time early in the day so you could still get away after?). The receptionist may have come across as rude as maybe they were told to get you in soon, but you then wanted to delay it.

As others suggest, ask DH to wait in the car and if it's bad news you can ask a staff member to fetch him. Please check before taking your child into the hospital as some hospitals have rules regarding bringing children to appointments for very good reasons and even having them in the waiting room could cause distress to other patients.

What's your plan for when you have the baby? What if your parents aren't available then either?
I feel like you have expected to have parents on hand but not really thought things through in terms of who will look after your eldest.

Yes but you said you’re worried about the scan so need your DH there. Either you’re too worried to go alone, in which case you should be prioritising that over a weekend away, or you’re not worried about the scan as you’ve had one recently and therefore fine to go alone. I would prioritize the scan if it were me, things can change in a day and there may be an issue or you wouldn’t have been told to have a scan.

Yabu you knew she wasn’t available, you’ll have to go without your husband unfortunately if you cannot find a babysitter.
Also just to point out that you said in your OP that you don’t ask a lot of them but you said they have your child every Monday? That’s quite a lot in my book!

@Momofboys97

i think your friends are very fortunate, most people get very little help, occasional babysitting maybe but certainly not weekly. Envy of what others have is always a mistake because your don’t know what strings are attached or favours being banked!

It doesn't matter if you don't understand their decision. They told you they were busy, at which point when you realised your mistake, you should have rebooked.
For whatever reason - decorators, or anything else they maybe can't move/won't tell you about - it isn't fair to behave how you are, especially when they already provide free childcare every week.

Your dh drives you to the hospital with your older dc and stays in the public area, if there is an issue I’m sure the hospital will allow him to come to you