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Opinion on a 50 year old woman and 18 year old man?

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TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 14:48

What do you think about a 50 year old woman having sex with an 18 year old? weird or okay?

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BauhausOfEliott · 21/10/2025 15:47

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:45

Its just my experience, i see it just as much as older men with young girls.Its not just sites but from people too

To be honest, you sound very young yourself and possibly like someone who spends an awful lot of time Googling a very specific type of content while typing one-handed.

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:47

Hoardasurass · 21/10/2025 15:45

Nope its not common, its gross and inappropriate.
Also I've never seen it in any movies other than the Mrs Robinson one. Perving after and trying to date a almost child 32 years younger than you is a male trait not really a female one

Trait?
You realise men who do that are in the minority? same with the women.

Theres no such thing as gender traits

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BnuchOfCnuts · 21/10/2025 15:47

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:43

No, but the boys do come and ask for advice about it.

If you take info on Reddit as gospel then you need to go and touch grass I’m afraid.

Newbutoldfather · 21/10/2025 15:46

Age gaps are the new taboo of the western world in the 21st century.

it’s sex, not torture, and they are both adults. Why do people care so much?

Historically and culturally it is a very niche taboo between two adults.

takealettermsjones · 21/10/2025 15:46

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:43

No, but the boys do come and ask for advice about it.

And when have 18 year old boys ever lied about their sexual conquests?

IcedPurple · 21/10/2025 15:45

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:42

Because everyone talks about older men but not older women and i see it happening just as often

Of course you do.

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TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:45

BauhausOfEliott · 21/10/2025 15:44

Just because you've seen some stuff on Reddit and 'other sites', that doesn't mean it's as common as men dating much younger women. That isn't how statistics work.

Its just my experience, i see it just as much as older men with young girls.Its not just sites but from people too

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Hoardasurass · 21/10/2025 15:45

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:18

Not true, tons of women like teen boys, that's why it happens so often and is used in movies too.Women are no different to men in their attraction towards the young.

Nope its not common, its gross and inappropriate.
Also I've never seen it in any movies other than the Mrs Robinson one. Perving after and trying to date a almost child 32 years younger than you is a male trait not really a female one

PinkyFlamingo · 21/10/2025 15:45

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:37

There are lot of cases about it on reddit, a good amount are true. If you look on other sites its the same, you can find many cases.

If you read them, youll see they are real.

You can't know something is definitely real just be abuse you read it online, surely you're not that naive?

BauhausOfEliott · 21/10/2025 15:44

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:37

There are lot of cases about it on reddit, a good amount are true. If you look on other sites its the same, you can find many cases.

If you read them, youll see they are real.

Just because you've seen some stuff on Reddit and 'other sites', that doesn't mean it's as common as men dating much younger women. That isn't how statistics work.

caramac04 · 21/10/2025 15:43

Utterly vile imo. Not acceptable.

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:43

IcedPurple · 21/10/2025 15:39

Reddit also skews very young, so it seems unlikely to be the sort of place where 'cougars' in their 50s are hanging out.

No, but the boys do come and ask for advice about it.

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Catwalking · 21/10/2025 15:42

Stealing the younger persons youth, so not even as nice as weird.

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:42

IcedPurple · 21/10/2025 15:38

How can you possibly know they are 'true'? Anyone can say anything on reddit.

And on this forum, for that matter.

Why are you hanging out on discussions about 'cougars' can I ask?

Because everyone talks about older men but not older women and i see it happening just as often

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BunnyLake · 21/10/2025 15:40

RafaFan · 21/10/2025 15:38

Gross. Didn't work out very well for Iris Robinson.

And Brigitte Macron is side eyed.

Cavello · 21/10/2025 15:40

Eastie77Returns · 21/10/2025 15:36

Is that you Mme Macron?

😂

Please bring back the laugh reaction button

elliejjtiny · 21/10/2025 15:40

That's just grim. That's the same age gap between me and my youngest son. I know he is an adult but it's wrong.

IcedPurple · 21/10/2025 15:39

Cavello · 21/10/2025 15:38

I see its half-term again. If this is genuine, which I highly doubt, the whole thought is absolutely disgusting.

Fwiw - people who go on reddit are not a true sample of the general population.

Reddit also skews very young, so it seems unlikely to be the sort of place where 'cougars' in their 50s are hanging out.

BnuchOfCnuts · 21/10/2025 15:39

Predatory.

As would be a:
18yo female and 50yo man
18yo female and 50yo female
18yo man and 50yo man

RafaFan · 21/10/2025 15:38

Gross. Didn't work out very well for Iris Robinson.

BunnyLake · 21/10/2025 15:38

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:35

I got it from Netmums where nearly everyone is supporting the woman

I’ve not been on that. I guess the question is, is it something she keeps a shameful secret or is she open about it to her family, friends and colleagues. Would she take him as her plus one to social events etc.

IcedPurple · 21/10/2025 15:38

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:37

There are lot of cases about it on reddit, a good amount are true. If you look on other sites its the same, you can find many cases.

If you read them, youll see they are real.

How can you possibly know they are 'true'? Anyone can say anything on reddit.

And on this forum, for that matter.

Why are you hanging out on discussions about 'cougars' can I ask?

Cavello · 21/10/2025 15:38

I see its half-term again. If this is genuine, which I highly doubt, the whole thought is absolutely disgusting.

Fwiw - people who go on reddit are not a true sample of the general population.

TheLoudJadeCritic · 21/10/2025 15:37

IcedPurple · 21/10/2025 15:35

Reddit is not 'research'!

It's an anonymous internet forum. I could say I'd had a threesome with Alexander Skarsgard and Chris Hemsworth on Reddit, and nobody could tell me otherwise!

And could you link to the 'stats' in question?

There are lot of cases about it on reddit, a good amount are true. If you look on other sites its the same, you can find many cases.

If you read them, youll see they are real.

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Eastie77Returns · 21/10/2025 15:36

Is that you Mme Macron?

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