Opinion on a 50 year old woman and 18 year old man?

Bonnie Blue

Not ok at all extremely weird

It should not "hold the same weight in law as it currently does to have sex with a 15 year old". But it should still be illegal. As it is inappropriate.

To answer the original question, I'd find it grim and pathetic.

I don't think it's particularly widespread, but there is the phenomenon especially in the US of female teachers having sex with schoolboys, some of them extremely young.

beyond grim - 18 is a baby compared to 50 yo 🤮

Nonce

Link?

This would frankly be a ridiculous law.

That would mean a 26 year old and a 40 year old would become an illegal pairing. For that matter, so would a 26 year old and a 19 year old. See also a 50 year old and a 31 year old. See again 45 and 28 years

You may not like any of these age gaps, but to think it should hold the same weight in law as it currently does to have sex with a 15 year old is plainly absurd.

There's always an imbalance, or rather multiple imbalances, in any sort of relationship.

That doesn't mean to say that its necessarily abusive.

As for your friend, I obviously feel for her, but since we can never run the experiment where they didn't have the relationship it's hard to know how much the relationship messed with her versus how much she was already messed up versus how much she was messed up by her choice to be (hate the term) a sugar baby for a while versus how she was truly in love and was dumped.

At some point we have to take responsibility for the choices we make and legal adulthood would seem to be that watershed.

I can't handle the constant refrain of 16-21 are perfectly capable and fully rational when it's stuff they feel excluded from, but 18-25 are vulnerable and should be protected when it comes to bad choices they make.

Incidentally, the counter-argument might come from your one-time friend that (genuinely) he feels used because he thought it was love and feels conned after spending loads of money. Doubt he'd be getting much sympathy from most people though.

So, your anecdote is interesting, but not illuminating unless we hear both stories.

Sordid

18 year old boy

The Jagger Line

That's not any sort of 'rule'!

Half your age plus 7 is the rule (and it should be the law). So a 50 year old woman should not be having sex with anyone younger than 32. And an 18 year old man should not be having sex with anyone older than 22.

The only time I could understand this at all, is if the woman looked around forty or younger and he looked much older. Even then, I would expect a horrified shreik and an apology on finding out!

In dd's case it was 10. She is tall but quite clearly a child.
Very grim.

"Really? girls manipulating old men for money and blackmailing them is common and well known"

"LOL you think an 18 year old can take advantage of a 50 year old?"

These two statements you made sort of contradict each other.

In anwer to your Q, I'm mid 50s and not attracted to teenagers. None of the women i know are either, or perhaps they've been furtively posting on reddit about it 🤔

Its a myth perpetuated by hollywood. I hate tge term cougar. Mens fantasies, not womens.

The age 17. If you are a girl, regardless of if you are becoming interested in S.e.x. or not, the mere fact that you are 17 appears to be like a bat signal to a certain type of bloke.

Because 17

Womenare no different to men in their attraction towards the young.

Except they are. The vast majority of paedophiles are men.

The voting on your thread should tell you something. If you asked a male dominated forum ‘What do you think about a 50 year old man having sex with an 18 year old girl? weird or okay?’, you wouldn’t get such a high percentage of people telling you it’s not ok.

That's grim, but sadly not surprising.

As any who has ever been a teenaged girl knows, it's far from unusual for men to perve over them. Very few teenaged boys have had the same experience with women. It just doesn't happen on anything like the same scale, and it's insulting to women and girls to pretend that it does.

He was well into adulthood

I copied and pasted this from the internet.
"Cheryl and Quran first met in 2012 when he was 15 and she managed a fast-food restaurant where he worked. They reconnected romantically much later, on November 4, 2020, after seeing each other working at a convenience store."

They are now married.

It's not these lovebirds is it?

https://www.kentonline.co.uk/medway/news/benefits-couple-thank-taxpayers-for-38577/

She was 61 and he was 35. That is more realistic Cougar goals frankly. For their wedding she made her own sausage rolls

It still is a thing for teenaged girls sadly. There was a thread about how public libraries are practically no go areas for them now. I see men staring at mine every time we walk through town. I know I don't even notice teen boys unless they block my way or are being noisy in town. I certainly don't look at them in a sexual way. Girls still get harassed for sex more frequently when they are wearing school uniform.

Back in the mists of time when I was a teenager, it was just taken for granted that you'd be perved over by older men. We'd warn each other to look out for these men walking home from school, waiting for the bus, in the swimming pool, everywhere. It was just how life was for young girls. Probably still is, though perhaps it's no longer regarded as 'just the way things are' anymore. At least I hope not.

How many men look back on when they were teenagers and used to warn each other about that pervy middle aged woman who hung around waiting for the boys to be let out of school every day? I'm guessing zero.