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To Think that Grad & Apprenticeships are now only for Diversity Candidates

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reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 10:34

Slight hyperbole but not far off.

Yes, of course I suppose my DS should be appreciative of his 'white privilege' (I do detest the term though), but he's been applying to over 100 x spring & summer internships and apprenticeships.

Invariably, he finds that lots of programmes are only open to black/female/social mobility/ND candidates. In one recent case - a global consultancy - there were NO openings for anyone outside of these categories.

And today, on LinkedIn, he forwarded me several links from leading banks reaching out about apprenticeships etc. In most photos, you might be lucky to spot 1-2 white males and in the video of one, there were not a single white male (or female for that matter).

I get that these firms need to do outreach to disadvantaged groups but if you look at the population level percentage of the various group categories, this really has swung too far the other way.

I get that many of these organisations have years to catch up with diversity hires but to try to rebalance in such an aggressive way and in a short space of time, makes it very difficult for young, white males (unless they have qualified for 'free school meals') to get a foot in the door which is especially tough in an incredibly tough grad market as it is.

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BoringBarbie · 15/02/2026 18:38

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WhatAboutThisUser · 15/02/2026 18:16

BoringBarbie · 15/02/2026 13:46

It is absolute nonsense to suggest that there is a different hiring process for white candidates vs non-white candidates. Years ago, Cheshire Police tried to hire a non-white candidate when the white candidate had done better at interview and were sued by the white candidate. What you are suggesting is complete and utter nonsense.

Have you not heard of DEI? I am not coming back to this thread, unbelievable gaslighting.

I looked up the Cheshire example you stated and the man was able to successfully prove he was the best candidate because his father already worked there. In other cases how could someone ever get the data to prove this?

“
It ruled that while positive action can be used to boost diversity, it should only be applied to distinguish between candidates who were all equally well qualified for a role.
The force's claim it had seen 127 candidates who were equally suitable for the role of police constable was a "fallacy", the tribunal ruled, and imposing such an artificially low threshold - assigning candidates a pass or fail rather than any kind of score - was not a proportionate response to addressing the force's lack of diversity.
Cheshire Police was among a number of forces criticised in 2015 for having no black officers, but has since taken steps to improve opportunities for those of different ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation and disability.
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Bambamhoohoo · 15/02/2026 13:49

WhatAboutThisUser · 15/02/2026 13:40

We certainly were told any ‘non-diverse’ candidate hires had to have the right ratio of ‘diverse’ interviews held for the same role, and then the justification for the hire had to go up through a two layers of MDs.

How do you think senior management strive to meet their diversity targets and what do you think they do if not meeting them?

As it stood we only usually got Indian CVs anyway as all hires were done through one of the big Indian IT consultancies.

I agree this is a lie.

you’re clearly not someone exposed to the whole hiring process either

BoringBarbie · 15/02/2026 13:46

WhatAboutThisUser · 15/02/2026 13:40

We certainly were told any ‘non-diverse’ candidate hires had to have the right ratio of ‘diverse’ interviews held for the same role, and then the justification for the hire had to go up through a two layers of MDs.

How do you think senior management strive to meet their diversity targets and what do you think they do if not meeting them?

As it stood we only usually got Indian CVs anyway as all hires were done through one of the big Indian IT consultancies.

It is absolute nonsense to suggest that there is a different hiring process for white candidates vs non-white candidates. Years ago, Cheshire Police tried to hire a non-white candidate when the white candidate had done better at interview and were sued by the white candidate. What you are suggesting is complete and utter nonsense.

WhatAboutThisUser · 15/02/2026 13:40

BoringBarbie · 15/02/2026 12:36

No it is not. For starters, it's highly illegal.

We certainly were told any ‘non-diverse’ candidate hires had to have the right ratio of ‘diverse’ interviews held for the same role, and then the justification for the hire had to go up through a two layers of MDs.

How do you think senior management strive to meet their diversity targets and what do you think they do if not meeting them?

As it stood we only usually got Indian CVs anyway as all hires were done through one of the big Indian IT consultancies.

EvelynBeatrice · 15/02/2026 13:23

FitnessTrainer2020 · 14/02/2026 19:01

This with bells on. You're doing your son no favours by encouraging him to blame his lack of success on diversity hiring. That's a bitter choice and not based in reality.

He needs to be more resilient and learn to handle disappointments and setbacks more healthily.

I think it’s much harder for young graduates now and young people generally than it’s been for many years.
I’m more sympathetic for these kids who have worked their butts off through Covid, continue to work at uni possibly also working nights to support themselves, no nights out or fun, having to get top grades in everything even in 1st year, having to get internships etc from day 1 to have any hope of a job at end.. then, instead of one or two interviews where you actually get to interact with human beings, days of online tests, essay questions and AI interviews before they even make it to an assessment centre..,,

It’s really tough. Most fully fledged adults struggle with repeated rejections. What a mess we’ve made of our economy. .

BoringBarbie · 15/02/2026 12:36

WhatAboutThisUser · 15/02/2026 11:27

This is 100% true.

No it is not. For starters, it's highly illegal.

WhatAboutThisUser · 15/02/2026 11:27

BoringBarbie · 15/02/2026 01:00

Liar.

This is 100% true.

BoringBarbie · 15/02/2026 01:00

WhatAboutThisUser · 14/02/2026 14:28

White males were not allowed to be hired in my last job without going through a lengthy senior exceptions process (large banking IT department).

I think US firms had to stop DEI legally, so perhaps worth looking at US multinationals?

Liar.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 14/02/2026 19:14

reallyreallycrazy · 14/02/2026 18:30

Already happening for uni applications though, isn't it?

Thought you were complaining about your PFBS not being good enough to get himself an apprenticeship or internship?

FitnessTrainer2020 · 14/02/2026 19:01

justnottinghill · 21/10/2025 11:29

I work in finance - there is a huge problem with getting disadvantaged students in. Plenty of places for white men and women.

There is no issue here - your son just isn’t able to handle the competition.

This with bells on. You're doing your son no favours by encouraging him to blame his lack of success on diversity hiring. That's a bitter choice and not based in reality.

He needs to be more resilient and learn to handle disappointments and setbacks more healthily.

5128gap · 14/02/2026 18:54

reallyreallycrazy · 14/02/2026 18:32

Of course they wouldn't have to be white, doh!

But these programmes tend to have the following 'options' for spring weeks:

  • BAME
  • BAME Women
  • Socioeconomic status
So, yes they already look at race tbh.

I don't know what the 'doh!' is for unless it's directed at yourself for not being clear. You specifically suggested targeting poor WHITE boys. So naturally I assumed you meant targeting poor boys who are white.
Schemes targeting 'poor' people of all ethnicities already exist. They go off postcode to identify deprived areas and parental income. What do you think they mean by 'socio economic status' if not 'poor' as you call it?

reallyreallycrazy · 14/02/2026 18:32

5128gap · 14/02/2026 14:21

Why would the poor boys have to be white to qualify? Their disadvantage is their poverty, not their race. So surely the target should be boys from families disadvantaged by poverty? I'm sure such schemes exist in fact. And that people complain about those too because they feel it disadvantages their own sons.

Of course they wouldn't have to be white, doh!

But these programmes tend to have the following 'options' for spring weeks:

  • BAME
  • BAME Women
  • Socioeconomic status
So, yes they already look at race tbh.
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reallyreallycrazy · 14/02/2026 18:30

NeverDropYourMooncup · 14/02/2026 14:40

There is no way on earth Admissions Law will be changed to enable discriminating towards children on the basis of ethnicity. You cannot ask the question prior to offer and acceptance for bloody good reason and even the names are removed from applications when rankings are finalised by the admissions authority, so there is absolutely no way of knowing an application is in respect of a white child, a black child, a Polish child, a child with one Han Chinese parent and one Korean or whether the child's family have been agricultural workers in Lincolnshire for the last 400 years.

Already happening for uni applications though, isn't it?

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NeverDropYourMooncup · 14/02/2026 14:40

reallyreallycrazy · 14/02/2026 13:39

No, of course not. But certain cultures are very happy to let their children work all hours to ace the exams. I'm just saying, that perhaps there needs to be outreach programmes to poor, white boys as these are often the least likely to progress. Unless you're arguing that Indian and Chinese children have higher IQs? That would be quite contentious...

There is no way on earth Admissions Law will be changed to enable discriminating towards children on the basis of ethnicity. You cannot ask the question prior to offer and acceptance for bloody good reason and even the names are removed from applications when rankings are finalised by the admissions authority, so there is absolutely no way of knowing an application is in respect of a white child, a black child, a Polish child, a child with one Han Chinese parent and one Korean or whether the child's family have been agricultural workers in Lincolnshire for the last 400 years.

WhatAboutThisUser · 14/02/2026 14:28

White males were not allowed to be hired in my last job without going through a lengthy senior exceptions process (large banking IT department).

I think US firms had to stop DEI legally, so perhaps worth looking at US multinationals?

5128gap · 14/02/2026 14:21

reallyreallycrazy · 14/02/2026 13:39

No, of course not. But certain cultures are very happy to let their children work all hours to ace the exams. I'm just saying, that perhaps there needs to be outreach programmes to poor, white boys as these are often the least likely to progress. Unless you're arguing that Indian and Chinese children have higher IQs? That would be quite contentious...

Why would the poor boys have to be white to qualify? Their disadvantage is their poverty, not their race. So surely the target should be boys from families disadvantaged by poverty? I'm sure such schemes exist in fact. And that people complain about those too because they feel it disadvantages their own sons.

reallyreallycrazy · 14/02/2026 13:39

NeverDropYourMooncup · 14/02/2026 13:36

You think that schools ask the ethnicity of the child as part of the application process and make decisions to offer places on that basis?

No, of course not. But certain cultures are very happy to let their children work all hours to ace the exams. I'm just saying, that perhaps there needs to be outreach programmes to poor, white boys as these are often the least likely to progress. Unless you're arguing that Indian and Chinese children have higher IQs? That would be quite contentious...

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reallyreallycrazy · 14/02/2026 13:37

BlackCatDiscoClub · 12/02/2026 23:34

Its not my experience. When a company focuses on diversity, it means they've had too many white wealthy men through the door and they need balance. Women make up 50% of the world, and yet still dont make up 50% on a company board. I work in a global company, and we have some great representation of different nationalities, but still not enough to be representative of the company's global reach. As things get more fair, people like your son will feel like they are missing out, when really the plauing field has been levelled. No bank is going to hire someone just because they are a Black disabled woman. But, if that Black, disabled woman is as good as your son, she will get the job over him because too often in the past she will have lost out because she was Black, disabled and a woman.

So, I worked as a first woman in my role within the company I stayed with for 10 years. There were plenty of women in the associate roles, but not as consultants.

However, I did not pursue my career as I chose to set up as an independent because I wanted to spend more time with my children. My choice.

I'm totally for women having the same opportunities (and salaries!) as men, but a lot of the time, women still make other choices for themselves.

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NeverDropYourMooncup · 14/02/2026 13:36

reallyreallycrazy · 12/02/2026 12:37

As an update, the big consultancy firms etc didn't in the end open up their spring insight weeks to outside that of diversity (gender, race) and SES applicants.

Many of the top grammar schools now have a very diverse hiring - or maybe you should say it's not diverse, with only 1-2 white students accepted this year.

I'm all for making sure underrepresented groups come to the fore, but I also think the market needs to be sensitive when they may have to dial back.

You think that schools ask the ethnicity of the child as part of the application process and make decisions to offer places on that basis?

reallyreallycrazy · 14/02/2026 13:25

BlackCatDiscoClub · 12/02/2026 23:34

Its not my experience. When a company focuses on diversity, it means they've had too many white wealthy men through the door and they need balance. Women make up 50% of the world, and yet still dont make up 50% on a company board. I work in a global company, and we have some great representation of different nationalities, but still not enough to be representative of the company's global reach. As things get more fair, people like your son will feel like they are missing out, when really the plauing field has been levelled. No bank is going to hire someone just because they are a Black disabled woman. But, if that Black, disabled woman is as good as your son, she will get the job over him because too often in the past she will have lost out because she was Black, disabled and a woman.

I agree with making sure you get underrepresented groups to apply. But in Finance, at least, there is a fairly set trajectory that includes spring weeks, summer internships and these then often convert to grad roles.

Most companies seem to have several schemes including a mainstream one.

Here is the list. I won't mention the company but you can probably work it out for yourself:

https://app.the-trackr.com/uk-finance/spring-weeks

Trackr (Formerly Bristol Tracker)

Leading Application Trackers and Exclusive Opportunities - Welcome to the Start of Your Career

https://app.the-trackr.com/uk-finance/spring-weeks

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FairKoala · 13/02/2026 15:30

BlackCatDiscoClub · 12/02/2026 23:34

Its not my experience. When a company focuses on diversity, it means they've had too many white wealthy men through the door and they need balance. Women make up 50% of the world, and yet still dont make up 50% on a company board. I work in a global company, and we have some great representation of different nationalities, but still not enough to be representative of the company's global reach. As things get more fair, people like your son will feel like they are missing out, when really the plauing field has been levelled. No bank is going to hire someone just because they are a Black disabled woman. But, if that Black, disabled woman is as good as your son, she will get the job over him because too often in the past she will have lost out because she was Black, disabled and a woman.

I work in some places where I am sure I am the diversity hire. 😂

BlackCatDiscoClub · 12/02/2026 23:34

Its not my experience. When a company focuses on diversity, it means they've had too many white wealthy men through the door and they need balance. Women make up 50% of the world, and yet still dont make up 50% on a company board. I work in a global company, and we have some great representation of different nationalities, but still not enough to be representative of the company's global reach. As things get more fair, people like your son will feel like they are missing out, when really the plauing field has been levelled. No bank is going to hire someone just because they are a Black disabled woman. But, if that Black, disabled woman is as good as your son, she will get the job over him because too often in the past she will have lost out because she was Black, disabled and a woman.

TunnocksOrDeath · 12/02/2026 23:18

My last job was in a global bank that had an apprenticeship program for school leavers with high grades in the right A-Level subjects from a state school which is very near to the London office, and which is sponsored by that bank. In the borough where the school is based, only 44% of the population are white British. So the starting point would be an expectation that white boys are about one in five of the intake (22%).
HOWEVER... 47% of children in the borough live in low-income households, and white boys on free school meals are consistently the poorest-performing group at GCSEs - which means they're even less likely than their peers to even go on to A-Levels. So I would therefore adjust the expectation down and assume that significantly fewer than one in five of the intake to that particular scheme would be white British boys, just because of the local demographics, and nothing to do with any bizarre social-engineering project by HR.
The bank has all the usual grad schemes, and apprenticeships open to everyone, but the scheme for local kids is the one that gets the most publicity because it's good optics for any business to invest in the local community.

CopeNorth · 12/02/2026 22:48

Bluebottlerecycling · 21/10/2025 11:48

I work at the kind of organisation you are describing.

I can put your mind at rest - our offices are still full of white men.

And though happily our HR are focused on increasing diversity, there are still plenty of white men (and women) coming through our grad schemes.

I have a very ambitious son, he happens to be white. I have no concerns about his future.

If a minority women gets a place ahead of your son I can guarantee she’ll be better qualified than him.

I fully agree. I also work in an organisation OP describes and don’t worry we are very much full of white men of all ages.

I think some of the targeted opportunities you’ve described are for short summer internships, not jobs. And where they exist there is also a main stream to apply to. The targeted schemes exist for a reason, clearly, given the actual statistics. I did think we’d gotten over the diversity hire myth…

It would be interesting to see the organisation you mention that excludes white men entirely, can you post it OP?