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To Think that Grad & Apprenticeships are now only for Diversity Candidates

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reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 10:34

Slight hyperbole but not far off.

Yes, of course I suppose my DS should be appreciative of his 'white privilege' (I do detest the term though), but he's been applying to over 100 x spring & summer internships and apprenticeships.

Invariably, he finds that lots of programmes are only open to black/female/social mobility/ND candidates. In one recent case - a global consultancy - there were NO openings for anyone outside of these categories.

And today, on LinkedIn, he forwarded me several links from leading banks reaching out about apprenticeships etc. In most photos, you might be lucky to spot 1-2 white males and in the video of one, there were not a single white male (or female for that matter).

I get that these firms need to do outreach to disadvantaged groups but if you look at the population level percentage of the various group categories, this really has swung too far the other way.

I get that many of these organisations have years to catch up with diversity hires but to try to rebalance in such an aggressive way and in a short space of time, makes it very difficult for young, white males (unless they have qualified for 'free school meals') to get a foot in the door which is especially tough in an incredibly tough grad market as it is.

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JustSomeWaferThinHam · 25/02/2026 15:26

Everlore · 25/02/2026 13:41

I have been severely disabled since birth, having been born without eyes and with multiple joint deformities. I had an excellent education, largely due to my wonderful parents fighting tirelessly for me to have access to the resources and support I required. I did very well at school and received a first class degree from a top university.
However, despite my excellent academic qualifications, it is extremely unlikely that any workplace would have taken me on had it not been for graduate schemes aimed at disabled people. The equipment and support I require to do my job make employing me more complicated and expensive than someone without my disability so, if a company were not making an attempt to make their workplace a welcoming and accessible place for disabled people, they would be much more likely to hire someone without my extra support needs, even if they were less qualified.
If it weren't for 'positive discrimination' I would almost certainly be unemployed and become one of the 'work-shy disabled benefits scroungers' that the delightful posters on this thread objecting to diversity initiatives and whinging about reasonable adjustments probably also moan about on the countless benefits bashing threads that appear on MN every week.

I’m not sure anyone would try and characterise you as a ‘work shy disabled benefits scrounged’ with your level of disabilities and I applaud you and your parents for pushing ahead regardless.

Please don’t try and out words in our mouths and please understand that the issue here is actually discrimination against and exclusion of a section of society on grounds of race or economic background.

A company being rightly required to provide appropriate support for you to participate fully in employment is not the same as racially discriminating against the kids OP and others have mentioned in some quest to fulfil arbitrary EFDI targets.

5128gap · 25/02/2026 15:16

MarcoRubio · 25/02/2026 15:04

The working class aren't going to have the same career trajectory as people in the middle class.

No, indeed they don't. Being born into a less advantaged socioeconomic background is a very important factor influencing a person's life chances. That's not really up for debate. The point of discussion is whether this is ok, or whether something should be done to break through down barriers so that more working class people achieve their potential and contribute at a higher level.

nearlylovemyusername · 25/02/2026 15:11

EmpressoftheMundane · 25/02/2026 14:19

This is relevant. Looking at who is in power now isn’t. Executives now reflect the demographic makeup of the UK 35 years ago.

Looking at the racial makeup of academic high achievers today makes sense. From these numbers, if a graduate scheme has 20 places, 7 of those places should go to white men and 3 to BAME men.

Looking at who is in power now isn’t. Executives now reflect the demographic makeup of the UK 35 years ago.

Absolutely, people miss this point completely.

Looking at the racial makeup of academic high achievers today makes sense. From these numbers, if a graduate scheme has 20 places, 7 of those places should go to white men and 3 to BAME men.

It's actually a bit less than 3, but we don't even have this representation. The entire reason for this thread is that there are no places for these 7 white men.

MarcoRubio · 25/02/2026 15:04

5128gap · 25/02/2026 14:54

I think you're partly struggling because every time I say white MIDDLE CLASS men, you change it to white men, missing out the very important words I've put in capitals and thus significantly changing the meaning and getting yourself muddled.
You also swap and change between white men and white people. So, lets be clear:
80% of people in the uk are white.
40% of people in the UK are white men.
15% of people in the UK are white middle class men.
Its the last group, the 15% I'm talking about.
A representative society would expect this 15% to be roughly reflected in the positions of power and privilege in our society. Yet 73% of roles paying over £100k are occupied by white men from middle class backgrounds. So 15% taking 73% of the top roles. Not representative.
Make sense now?

The working class aren't going to have the same career trajectory as people in the middle class.

EmpressoftheMundane · 25/02/2026 15:03

5128gap · 25/02/2026 14:54

I think you're partly struggling because every time I say white MIDDLE CLASS men, you change it to white men, missing out the very important words I've put in capitals and thus significantly changing the meaning and getting yourself muddled.
You also swap and change between white men and white people. So, lets be clear:
80% of people in the uk are white.
40% of people in the UK are white men.
15% of people in the UK are white middle class men.
Its the last group, the 15% I'm talking about.
A representative society would expect this 15% to be roughly reflected in the positions of power and privilege in our society. Yet 73% of roles paying over £100k are occupied by white men from middle class backgrounds. So 15% taking 73% of the top roles. Not representative.
Make sense now?

The problem with you 15% is that it is not an objective measure that we can consistently trace.

Cloudeee · 25/02/2026 15:01

5128gap · 25/02/2026 14:54

I think you're partly struggling because every time I say white MIDDLE CLASS men, you change it to white men, missing out the very important words I've put in capitals and thus significantly changing the meaning and getting yourself muddled.
You also swap and change between white men and white people. So, lets be clear:
80% of people in the uk are white.
40% of people in the UK are white men.
15% of people in the UK are white middle class men.
Its the last group, the 15% I'm talking about.
A representative society would expect this 15% to be roughly reflected in the positions of power and privilege in our society. Yet 73% of roles paying over £100k are occupied by white men from middle class backgrounds. So 15% taking 73% of the top roles. Not representative.
Make sense now?

Any job earning over 100k makes anyone of any race “middle class” or even upper class at that point. And btw I’ve heard all this before about Jews in Hollywood and Indians in doctoring. From actual racist people

Locutus2000 · 25/02/2026 14:58

MasterBeth · 25/02/2026 13:39

I'm sorry, whaaaaat?

It's the textbook definition of casual racism and rooted in ignorance.

Won't somebody think of the poor white people.

Cloudeee · 25/02/2026 14:58

5128gap · 25/02/2026 14:42

There is socio economic criteria used to define working class based on income and occupation. It's a little more measurable than self identification. Doesn't matter what you consider yourself to be. What you do for a living and how wealthy you are will be the criteria used to define you by society. No one cares what class you call yourself but if your DC get FSM they'd be considered eligible for the diversity scheme in the OP on the grounds of socioeconomic disadvantage.

Train drivers were once considered working class they now earn something like 80k and teachers earn half that. Working/middle class is bullshit in these days.
My kid gets fsm but is actually advantaged because they have me who makes them brush their teeth and do their homework. Dosent sound like a big deal but I can think of plenty of families that don’t get fsm but their children have rotten unbrushed teeth and can’t read because they’re never made to practice. Now that is the real disadvantage in this day and age

5128gap · 25/02/2026 14:54

Cloudeee · 25/02/2026 14:37

what do you think it means? You seem adamant that’s it’s unfair white men “dominate” many fields despite having it explained to you that

a. This country is majority white
b. Men don’t have to deal with the career interruption of pregnancy and breastfeeding
and c. “Working class” in all those studies is worked out by looking at who gets fsm of which the household income needs to be sub 7.4k, making the vast majority of people middle class.

and still you insist white men are 15% of the population and it’s unfair.

I remember seeing someone try to do the same with Jews in the American film business and Indians as doctors and it was called out (personally I’m of the mind that it’s good for them if they work hard and that’s what they want to do) but what gets me up is it’s apparently fine to do it about white men

I think you're partly struggling because every time I say white MIDDLE CLASS men, you change it to white men, missing out the very important words I've put in capitals and thus significantly changing the meaning and getting yourself muddled.
You also swap and change between white men and white people. So, lets be clear:
80% of people in the uk are white.
40% of people in the UK are white men.
15% of people in the UK are white middle class men.
Its the last group, the 15% I'm talking about.
A representative society would expect this 15% to be roughly reflected in the positions of power and privilege in our society. Yet 73% of roles paying over £100k are occupied by white men from middle class backgrounds. So 15% taking 73% of the top roles. Not representative.
Make sense now?

MarcoRubio · 25/02/2026 14:45

Cloudeee · 25/02/2026 14:37

what do you think it means? You seem adamant that’s it’s unfair white men “dominate” many fields despite having it explained to you that

a. This country is majority white
b. Men don’t have to deal with the career interruption of pregnancy and breastfeeding
and c. “Working class” in all those studies is worked out by looking at who gets fsm of which the household income needs to be sub 7.4k, making the vast majority of people middle class.

and still you insist white men are 15% of the population and it’s unfair.

I remember seeing someone try to do the same with Jews in the American film business and Indians as doctors and it was called out (personally I’m of the mind that it’s good for them if they work hard and that’s what they want to do) but what gets me up is it’s apparently fine to do it about white men

I looked at the data and men and women actually earn the same.....until the first child is born.... because the woman has a career interruption.

5128gap · 25/02/2026 14:42

Cloudeee · 25/02/2026 12:33

there Are not as many men who are not white as there are men who are white in this country.

And as I said the majority of men are statistically middle class as in all these studies they use fsm status to determine who is working class.

Someone calling themselves Working/middle class is as relevant as what gender a teenager identifies as my kid gets fsm but I don’t go around describing my family as working class but people on the internet will call themselves working class because their grandad worked in a mine 80 years ago.

I apologise for overestimating you too I don’t think you know what over representation means

There is socio economic criteria used to define working class based on income and occupation. It's a little more measurable than self identification. Doesn't matter what you consider yourself to be. What you do for a living and how wealthy you are will be the criteria used to define you by society. No one cares what class you call yourself but if your DC get FSM they'd be considered eligible for the diversity scheme in the OP on the grounds of socioeconomic disadvantage.

Cloudeee · 25/02/2026 14:37

5128gap · 25/02/2026 14:28

What do you think representation means?

what do you think it means? You seem adamant that’s it’s unfair white men “dominate” many fields despite having it explained to you that

a. This country is majority white
b. Men don’t have to deal with the career interruption of pregnancy and breastfeeding
and c. “Working class” in all those studies is worked out by looking at who gets fsm of which the household income needs to be sub 7.4k, making the vast majority of people middle class.

and still you insist white men are 15% of the population and it’s unfair.

I remember seeing someone try to do the same with Jews in the American film business and Indians as doctors and it was called out (personally I’m of the mind that it’s good for them if they work hard and that’s what they want to do) but what gets me up is it’s apparently fine to do it about white men

MarcoRubio · 25/02/2026 14:31

I remember in 2015 some friends of DC going to a girl's only coding bootcamp

LadeOde · 25/02/2026 14:28

Fellontheground · 21/10/2025 11:37

Excuse me? Yes - in many cases, these are the stated eligibility requirements. She ticks one box (state school) and that’s it. She’s not black, not a refugee, not a traveller, not disabled, not estranged from us, etc etc etc etc

They said specifially 'black' or is that just short hand for ethnic minority?

5128gap · 25/02/2026 14:28

Cloudeee · 25/02/2026 12:33

there Are not as many men who are not white as there are men who are white in this country.

And as I said the majority of men are statistically middle class as in all these studies they use fsm status to determine who is working class.

Someone calling themselves Working/middle class is as relevant as what gender a teenager identifies as my kid gets fsm but I don’t go around describing my family as working class but people on the internet will call themselves working class because their grandad worked in a mine 80 years ago.

I apologise for overestimating you too I don’t think you know what over representation means

What do you think representation means?

nomas · 25/02/2026 14:23

Invariably, he finds that lots of programmes are only open to black/female/social mobility/ND candidates. In one recent case - a global consultancy - there were NO openings for anyone outside of these categories.

This is utter, utter bullshit. Have you provided even one example? No.

EmpressoftheMundane · 25/02/2026 14:19

nearlylovemyusername · 25/02/2026 13:48

@Holluschickie
it's certain that you have a very bright son who works very hard and will make an outstanding career and you should be very proud of him.

It is equally possible that there were many white middle class candidates with four A stars and Oxford 1st who were equally good, so when it came to the final choice your son's skin color was a deciding factor.
E.g. it's well know fact that Oxbridge prioritises diversity candidates.

Look at this stats:

Ethnicity | University of Oxford
ediinformationreport_2022-23.pdf (page 45, UK domicile students)

% of BAME across 19-25 yo UK population is 23.6%
% of BAME students amongst those who achieved AAA or better at A-levels is 27.2%
% of BAME students at Oxford is 30.8%
% of BAME students at Cambridge is 30.4%

This difference in representation in the same cohort of achieving AAA or better is not statistically insignificant.

This is relevant. Looking at who is in power now isn’t. Executives now reflect the demographic makeup of the UK 35 years ago.

Looking at the racial makeup of academic high achievers today makes sense. From these numbers, if a graduate scheme has 20 places, 7 of those places should go to white men and 3 to BAME men.

Cloudeee · 25/02/2026 13:55

MasterBeth · 25/02/2026 13:39

I'm sorry, whaaaaat?

What’s got you shocked? Surely nothing I’ve said? I haven’t even said I disagreed with these points but there’s a sizeable number of people that say every white person who does well is privileged and every white that dosent do well is lazy and useless including little kids who are apparently lazy losers on the fifth generation of lazy whiteness.

Then white people also get blamed for black kids who do badly at school (racist teachers) and knife crime.

You denying there’s people that think this way? Or has me pointing it out upset you?

nearlylovemyusername · 25/02/2026 13:48

Ace56 · 25/02/2026 13:18

I mean it’s possible, yes. If he was white with the same qualifications would he have been looked at as favourably? Hard to tell.

@Holluschickie
it's certain that you have a very bright son who works very hard and will make an outstanding career and you should be very proud of him.

It is equally possible that there were many white middle class candidates with four A stars and Oxford 1st who were equally good, so when it came to the final choice your son's skin color was a deciding factor.
E.g. it's well know fact that Oxbridge prioritises diversity candidates.

Look at this stats:

Ethnicity | University of Oxford
ediinformationreport_2022-23.pdf (page 45, UK domicile students)

% of BAME across 19-25 yo UK population is 23.6%
% of BAME students amongst those who achieved AAA or better at A-levels is 27.2%
% of BAME students at Oxford is 30.8%
% of BAME students at Cambridge is 30.4%

This difference in representation in the same cohort of achieving AAA or better is not statistically insignificant.

Quine0nline · 25/02/2026 13:47

Does he have a disability?
Does he travel - travellers are a very much underrepresented group.
Does he identify as male?
Just asking....

Everlore · 25/02/2026 13:41

I have been severely disabled since birth, having been born without eyes and with multiple joint deformities. I had an excellent education, largely due to my wonderful parents fighting tirelessly for me to have access to the resources and support I required. I did very well at school and received a first class degree from a top university.
However, despite my excellent academic qualifications, it is extremely unlikely that any workplace would have taken me on had it not been for graduate schemes aimed at disabled people. The equipment and support I require to do my job make employing me more complicated and expensive than someone without my disability so, if a company were not making an attempt to make their workplace a welcoming and accessible place for disabled people, they would be much more likely to hire someone without my extra support needs, even if they were less qualified.
If it weren't for 'positive discrimination' I would almost certainly be unemployed and become one of the 'work-shy disabled benefits scroungers' that the delightful posters on this thread objecting to diversity initiatives and whinging about reasonable adjustments probably also moan about on the countless benefits bashing threads that appear on MN every week.

MasterBeth · 25/02/2026 13:39

Cloudeee · 25/02/2026 13:11

I don’t see many people saying what about the whites. What I’ve seen is every white person who does well getting called privileged and every white person that does badly getting called lazy or the product of generations of lazy white parents.

But when a black person does badly white people are blamed for that too, when a black man kills another black man people blame whites.

I'm sorry, whaaaaat?

MasterBeth · 25/02/2026 13:37

reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 11:26

In banking it is the reality, same in insurance, at least what I've heard from people I know who work in global, top UK banks/insurance.

Not everyone, obviously, but these people - very senior - commented on how out of 12 and 15 intake, only 1 and 2 males respective. All others diversity/females.

What does this last bit even mean?

How many white men out of 12 candidates should a bank recruit?

JustSomeWaferThinHam · 25/02/2026 13:32

5128gap · 25/02/2026 11:40

I understand that. And I get the frustration. I also acknowledge there has been some clumsy and flawed implementation of EDI policies.
The point I'm making is that the principle of EDI, to try and level the playing field so disadvantaged people can compete for roles is not to blame.
Young graduates from the group you are describing are not failing to get jobs because there's a few schemes open to people who are not them. It's because we've flooded the market with graduates, particularly in some sectors, and there's simply not enough graduate positons to go round. Law being a prime example, where there's 19k graduates competing for 5k available positions.

The point I'm making is that the principle of EDI, to try and level the playing field so disadvantaged people can compete for roles is not to blame.

Agreed that the ‘principle’ is not to blame but the execution of that IS to blame when it addresses discrimination against one group by discriminating even more deliberately against another group.

I agree that there are too many graduates chasing jobs due to Blair’s ridiculous and arbitrary 50% target but there are also many organisations engaging in active discrimination against young white males that causes a big problem. The organisations that I linked to earlier (MI5, MI6, GCHQ, the RAF and Aviva are the tip of the iceberg.

If government organisations have sanctioned the level of discrimination that is proven by an inquiry or court cases, you can bet there is vast amounts more that hasn’t yet been proven or the victims have not had the resources to take them to court as it is so stressful and expensive.

I also think that DEI targets are often arbitrary and ill informed. There was a really good podcast on this with Tanya De Grunwald where they were discussing how and why these targets are not always reasonable.

nearlylovemyusername · 25/02/2026 13:25

grammargran · 25/02/2026 13:11

You need a third group:

  • those that want equity.

Equality doesn't mean fairness as we are not all equal in the first place. Equality would not help the white working class boys as they are behind the starting line in the first place.

that's exactly the point. We are not equal, have never been and will never be. Our skills, abilities and attitudes aren't equal.

By the time there is a competition for unis and jobs some groups, incl white working class boys, are so behind that rejecting other candidates to give them an opportunity is simply stupid, there needs to be some intervention and support starting at nursery.