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To Think that Grad & Apprenticeships are now only for Diversity Candidates

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reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 10:34

Slight hyperbole but not far off.

Yes, of course I suppose my DS should be appreciative of his 'white privilege' (I do detest the term though), but he's been applying to over 100 x spring & summer internships and apprenticeships.

Invariably, he finds that lots of programmes are only open to black/female/social mobility/ND candidates. In one recent case - a global consultancy - there were NO openings for anyone outside of these categories.

And today, on LinkedIn, he forwarded me several links from leading banks reaching out about apprenticeships etc. In most photos, you might be lucky to spot 1-2 white males and in the video of one, there were not a single white male (or female for that matter).

I get that these firms need to do outreach to disadvantaged groups but if you look at the population level percentage of the various group categories, this really has swung too far the other way.

I get that many of these organisations have years to catch up with diversity hires but to try to rebalance in such an aggressive way and in a short space of time, makes it very difficult for young, white males (unless they have qualified for 'free school meals') to get a foot in the door which is especially tough in an incredibly tough grad market as it is.

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EmpressoftheMundane · 21/10/2025 12:49

Holluschickie · 21/10/2025 12:24

Maybe ethnic minorities are overrepresented because certain professions are now so in demand that they need 4 A stars. Which few white people get.

🙄 rude.

My two white children both have a clean sweep of A*s. They also competed in elite level sport. White people aren’t dullards.

Zebedee999 · 21/10/2025 12:48

ExtraOnions · 21/10/2025 11:18

I’m in the Civil Service, just checked our Apprentices for this year … and I can only base this on a picture.

7 white men
5 white women
2 Black / Asian Women
2 Black / Asian Men

Not sure about Disability, or Demographics … but, having been part of the process, there were no “targets”

It’s a competitive market … I just advertised a lower graded role, and got 250 applications

Our local council always state BAME candidates will be prioritised. I've seen that in CS jobs too. The jobs ads used to explicitly state that, they are a little more measured nowadays but the intent is still there.Some remain explicit like the Bank of England 'Black Future Leaders Sponsorship Programme'.
As well as two tier justice the government and local government operate two tier recruitment.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 21/10/2025 12:48

We recently had an email from a white male candidate who was unsuccessful in our recruitment process. He complained that he had been a victim of our "woke diversity hiring" practices. I'm not sure what gave him that impression, unless it was the fact that we do blind shortlisting. But he got through to the interview stage regardless, so I can't really see why he would have had an issue with that.

The successful candidate was in fact an Asian female, but that had fuck all to do with any non-existent diversity targets and everything to do with the fact that she was by far the stronger candidate.

This guy was just another entitled white male who assumed that he should be given a job despite the fact that he didn't demonstrate any aptitude for it. He would do better to focus on addressing his own weaknesses instead of railing against the unfairness of it all. Ironically, his email merely confirmed to us that he was totally unemployable.

Cloudeee · 21/10/2025 12:48

Bambamhoohoo · 21/10/2025 12:31

Did you bollocks 😂

I did, how do you think they would prove I wasn’t bisexual? Even “mixed race” is pretty ambiguous and could mean half British half polish. The definition is in the eye of the beholder.

Anyway MAYBE it was just a coincidence I finally got a job after I started lying despite having a non existent cv. Maybe

EmpressoftheMundane · 21/10/2025 12:46

Bambamhoohoo · 21/10/2025 12:20

I think the mistake (white men usually) make in these discussions is it’s about THE BEST THE BEST THE BEST

employment rarely needs the (subjective) best. There are many, many young people who could equally smash the shit out of a grad scheme at Deloitte’s/ slaughter and may/ Tesco/ Royal Mail etc etc.

they don’t need to be the best in their school or attending the best university. There are thousands of 22 year olds who could be brilliant future employees

companies are allowed to access those people.

what you’re really pissed off about what the the social contract as you perceptive it has been broken.

4A* tick, oxbridge tick, DofE tick and yet those bastards have the grad scheme to some care leaver from Cardiff WTF?!? It wasn’t worth all the hard work after all

the documentary “try harder” is a perfect demonstration of this- Asian kids hyper achieving then finding that Ivy League doesn’t want them because they’re over
achieving asians

the issue is commonly exaggerated but maybe rooted in some truth, or at least perception of truth.

This is a good insight.

If getting good grades, participation in community stuff, volunteering, etc. are not relevant for securing future opportunities, what should white boys being doing to show they are worthy of a chance?

marryescargatoire · 21/10/2025 12:45

reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 11:44

Yes this. He can definitely handle the competition but a lot of opportunities are closed.

Of course I'm not saying that people from diverse groups can't be top of the class and the best, not at all, but I've heard some banks saying they want 20% diversity hires which is an awfully high number given the fabric of the population.

I know lots of white males with 4A*s and even masters (with both degrees from 'target' unis) who have not managed to get into any spring or summer internships.

I went to Oxbridge. Lots of candidates with straight As (before A*s) from my cohort weren't getting onto these internships when I was at university. It was nothing to do with them being white males (in fact many weren't). It's always been ridiculously competitive and there have always been candidates with top grades and even masters who haven't gotten places.

It's nothing to do with diversity hires.

Bambamhoohoo · 21/10/2025 12:40

2boysm · 21/10/2025 12:35

For another example, the new president of the royal college of physicians is female. She is vocal about the representation of women in leadership in medicine. Quite right too, you might say… but she was taking over from a woman.

In another medical leadership panel, there were four posts. Two were reserved for ethnic minorities and one for female candidates. So if you are a white man, you can only apply to one. It’s absolutely bonkers.

It’s depends. What is a medical leadership panel? It’s presumably not a job, but an advisory or guidance board?

In which case, who would suffer from two less white males? Only the white males who want the role. Who would benefit from more representation, in terms of the panels impact? Arguably everyone who isn’t a white male.

Codyrhodesisaheel · 21/10/2025 12:39

Rosesfornoses · 21/10/2025 12:05

Ever since I started teaching we were taught that the worst achieving children with the poorest outcomes were poor white boys.
https://committees.parliament.uk/committee/203/education-committee/news/156024/forgotten-white-workingclass-pupils-let-down-by-decades-of-neglect-mps-say/
I did hear a Labour MP recently on Radio 4 explaining that this is the real issue in education today.
Most London Grammar schools are dominated by minority ethnic groups.There is no such representation from poor white boys. There are influential people now fighting to change this. Wes Streeting is one such campaigner.
I remember one pupil from an ethnic minority who had six brothers and sisters. All went to Oxbridge. None of them were startingly clever. His male classmates from ordinary and poor backgrounds did not stand a chance.
Look up the proportion of poor white boys in Higher Education compared to ethnic minority students. Don't take my word for it. There has to be a campaign to recruit more students from poor white backgrounds. Otherwise you have significantly disadvantaged groups who are the feeding ground for far right groups.

I was going to say the same thing.

there is a significant issue that white boys/young men are constantly being told they are the problem with society, it’s why the likes of Andrew Tate have grown in such prominence. It’s also feeding through to the rise of the far right and the growing levels of racism.

I don’t know what the solution is, but equally denying that there is a growing issue isnt going to help anyone.

DareMe · 21/10/2025 12:38

2boysm · 21/10/2025 12:35

For another example, the new president of the royal college of physicians is female. She is vocal about the representation of women in leadership in medicine. Quite right too, you might say… but she was taking over from a woman.

In another medical leadership panel, there were four posts. Two were reserved for ethnic minorities and one for female candidates. So if you are a white man, you can only apply to one. It’s absolutely bonkers.

The vast majority of NHS CEOs are white males. Ambulance services in particular have a long way to go.

2boysm · 21/10/2025 12:35

For another example, the new president of the royal college of physicians is female. She is vocal about the representation of women in leadership in medicine. Quite right too, you might say… but she was taking over from a woman.

In another medical leadership panel, there were four posts. Two were reserved for ethnic minorities and one for female candidates. So if you are a white man, you can only apply to one. It’s absolutely bonkers.

Holluschickie · 21/10/2025 12:35

Plinkers · 21/10/2025 12:30

It’s not about whose fault it is. It’s about who needs extra help and how that help should be given. For many organisations it’s much easier to focus on ethnicity because it’s easier to measure than social class. Social class is a far bigger cause of disadvantage though.

You know what, that's fair enough. I do think social class should be looked at.

That said, it's very frustrating being viewed as a diversity hire when you have spent 6 years hardly going out, not dating, not drinking, not being distracted from your academic goals.

ilovesooty · 21/10/2025 12:35

Cloudeee · 21/10/2025 12:29

I learned to lie on applications not only am I straight and white but also a teen mum drop out who at 20 when my child started school had zero qualifications or work experience (some cv!)

After many rejections I began to say I was a mixed race bisexual (how do they prove otherwise?) and got a job straight away

Really? The diversity monitoring form for most jobs is separate to the application form.

DareMe · 21/10/2025 12:34

Most of our apprentices (ambulance service) are white, fairly even split male/female.

Bambamhoohoo · 21/10/2025 12:31

Cloudeee · 21/10/2025 12:29

I learned to lie on applications not only am I straight and white but also a teen mum drop out who at 20 when my child started school had zero qualifications or work experience (some cv!)

After many rejections I began to say I was a mixed race bisexual (how do they prove otherwise?) and got a job straight away

Did you bollocks 😂

user927464 · 21/10/2025 12:31

Bambamhoohoo · 21/10/2025 12:26

Didn’t you point out that their process was illegal? I can’t imagine not doing this as a responsible leader

It isn't illegal. It's permissible in a tie break situation where current work population doesn't reflect the make up of society.

It's still ridiculous. Even though it worked to my advantage.

Plinkers · 21/10/2025 12:30

Holluschickie · 21/10/2025 12:26

Also those articles linked by PP say white boys do not achieve because of the breakdown of marriages and absent dads

That is hardly the fault of minorities, is it?

It’s not about whose fault it is. It’s about who needs extra help and how that help should be given. For many organisations it’s much easier to focus on ethnicity because it’s easier to measure than social class. Social class is a far bigger cause of disadvantage though.

Beedeeoh · 21/10/2025 12:29

Bambamhoohoo · 21/10/2025 12:20

I think the mistake (white men usually) make in these discussions is it’s about THE BEST THE BEST THE BEST

employment rarely needs the (subjective) best. There are many, many young people who could equally smash the shit out of a grad scheme at Deloitte’s/ slaughter and may/ Tesco/ Royal Mail etc etc.

they don’t need to be the best in their school or attending the best university. There are thousands of 22 year olds who could be brilliant future employees

companies are allowed to access those people.

what you’re really pissed off about what the the social contract as you perceptive it has been broken.

4A* tick, oxbridge tick, DofE tick and yet those bastards have the grad scheme to some care leaver from Cardiff WTF?!? It wasn’t worth all the hard work after all

the documentary “try harder” is a perfect demonstration of this- Asian kids hyper achieving then finding that Ivy League doesn’t want them because they’re over
achieving asians

the issue is commonly exaggerated but maybe rooted in some truth, or at least perception of truth.

This is a really good point, and there is also a lot of evidence that diversity in itself improves organisational performance because you access a wider range of approaches and perspectives, leading to greater flexibility and creativity. I have seen this for myself working in teams that are made up entirely of certain demographics - there's nothing wrong with anyone's individual performance but a monoculture quickly develops and makes it harder for anyone "different" to join, and particular ways of doing things become entrenched regardless of whether there is a better way. So what does "best" mean in that context anyway?

Crikeyalmighty · 21/10/2025 12:29

Personally I think if people want equality then it should be a genuinely totally level playing field - at the moment in some quarters it’s becoming like apartheid in reverse- don’t bother applying if you are white and/or straight etc - and I say this as a centre left voter - see also today on news in our industry that someone had opened a ‘black artists only’ record shop or the’MOBO awards ( music of black origin) - can you imagine the absolute hoo ha if someone had set up ‘the music of white origin awards’ , or a white artists only record shop ?? No wonder we end up with a ton of people with Reform type views - it’s not as if black artists and music are totally under represented in the industry -they dominate in some sectors.

Cloudeee · 21/10/2025 12:29

I learned to lie on applications not only am I straight and white but also a teen mum drop out who at 20 when my child started school had zero qualifications or work experience (some cv!)

After many rejections I began to say I was a mixed race bisexual (how do they prove otherwise?) and got a job straight away

Tanya285 · 21/10/2025 12:29

I would imagine that all the photos your son forwarded you will just be stock photos pulled off the internet 'to show a diverse work force'. The reality is probably very different.

I think the difficulty for many white males is that they assume coming out of a decent uni with a decent degree will be enough to get them a very good job - when actually they are going to need examples of teamwork and leadership skills that they probably won't have got from their academics. They need to have had a job, volunteer, relevant work experience, lead a society, organise events, be part of a sports team, have amazing examples of relevant projects done out of their own interest, have completed other short courses on the side - in other words they have to stand out beyond their academics as they can't answer every question at interview based on the degree they did.

DS is doing a degree apprenticeship and is ND but is working with lots of white m/f apprentices. A lot of the apprenticeships he applied for he didn't even say he has ASD because he had such a bad experience with some where he had said it - even ones that were supposedly disability confident (obviously just a tick box exercise). He never came across a single apprenticeship though that was aimed purely at minorities. DS had a lot of extracurriculars and projects of his own which were of much more interest at interview than his academics and these were what got him his apprenticeship.

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 21/10/2025 12:27

What is he looking for and where is he looking? I work in the finance sector and our grad schemes are live now. The majority of applications are from white male candidates but we hire based on the person being the best person for the role.

Idrinklotsofcoffee · 21/10/2025 12:27

Rosesfornoses · 21/10/2025 12:12

@Idrinklotsofcoffee
Please indicate the research that shows this in relation to poor white boys. For the last fifty years they have been at the bottom of the pile in terms of educational achievement and in relation to other determiners of success. Most don't stand a chance. There is no equality for them.

Where did I say white?

tripleginandtonic · 21/10/2025 12:26

Fellontheground · 21/10/2025 11:31

YANBU - my DD is a high flying maths A level student in a state school who has proactively sought out various maths schemes for state school students. However she hasn’t a hope of getting in - indeed many she’s been told not to even bother - as she is not black/a refugee/school meals/pupil premium etc etc Such a shame that smart kids like this miss out.

But they don't.

Holluschickie · 21/10/2025 12:26

Also those articles linked by PP say white boys do not achieve because of the breakdown of marriages and absent dads

That is hardly the fault of minorities, is it?