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To Think that Grad & Apprenticeships are now only for Diversity Candidates

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reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 10:34

Slight hyperbole but not far off.

Yes, of course I suppose my DS should be appreciative of his 'white privilege' (I do detest the term though), but he's been applying to over 100 x spring & summer internships and apprenticeships.

Invariably, he finds that lots of programmes are only open to black/female/social mobility/ND candidates. In one recent case - a global consultancy - there were NO openings for anyone outside of these categories.

And today, on LinkedIn, he forwarded me several links from leading banks reaching out about apprenticeships etc. In most photos, you might be lucky to spot 1-2 white males and in the video of one, there were not a single white male (or female for that matter).

I get that these firms need to do outreach to disadvantaged groups but if you look at the population level percentage of the various group categories, this really has swung too far the other way.

I get that many of these organisations have years to catch up with diversity hires but to try to rebalance in such an aggressive way and in a short space of time, makes it very difficult for young, white males (unless they have qualified for 'free school meals') to get a foot in the door which is especially tough in an incredibly tough grad market as it is.

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ainsleysanob · 21/10/2025 13:12

NancyJoan · 21/10/2025 12:54

Try JP Morgan Chase. The white, privately educated kid whose parents live next door to me is currently on the degree apprenticeship.

Does he not deserve to be?

Callie9 · 21/10/2025 13:10

pikkumyy77 · 21/10/2025 13:07

OP is rude—whining about her son’s job prospects and insinuating that others are less well qualified than he. That is quite rude.

She's entitled to be disappointed that her son is being barred from some opportunities because of his race and gender etc.

reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 13:09

EmpressoftheMundane · 21/10/2025 12:49

🙄 rude.

My two white children both have a clean sweep of A*s. They also competed in elite level sport. White people aren’t dullards.

True.

But an interesting point, I think, is that some cultures place so much emphasis on academics - crammer courses, not being allowed to socialise, talented at sport suddenly dropping out when it gets to GCSE/A-levels [we have a very large Indian/Chinese group of students ] - that they become quite unidimensional.

I think it's race to the top with ever more pressures for kids to keep up with those who have parents who expect their kids to focus solely on academics (and music is usually considered 'permissible' in this sense). It becomes unhealthy.

I'm sure we would all agree that IQ is on a bell curve and that certain people/cultures are not brighter than others, but it's more that some cultures emphasising working so hard on the academics (4-5 hours after school every day!!) but don't do the other things - i.e. the DofE, sports, socialising etc.

I also think - and this applies to everyone regardless of background, sex, colour etc - if you have been working so hard on academics, making sure to do all past papers multiple times etc and put in your all, for some people they will have reached their plateau.

For others, who perhaps have come from families where being more 'well-rounded' (I acknowledge perhaps this is a loaded term) is being encouraged, and these kids will not have reached their top level of performance at A-level or even at uni but might blossom at work and start racing ahead.

So maybe, it's right that not only Astar Astar Astar Astar candidates should get all the top grad jobs. It's about the stretch and ability to grow from where you are and diversity, as I mentioned before, comes in many more shapes and sizes than what you can see in front of you.

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Callie9 · 21/10/2025 13:09

1dayatatime · 21/10/2025 13:08

The diversity story that sticks out in my mind is from my daughter's school where pupils were being called out got class to approve particulars photos or have photos taken to be used in an external school promotional material.

Anyway there was a black lad who was very good in the school rugby team and sure enough he was called out of class and everyone assumed it was for a rugby photo approval

Anyway when he came back to class he was fuming. Apparently they already had "enough" diversity faces for sports photos but no black faces for the music photos, so they asked him to pose for a photo with a trumpet, when he had never picked one up before in his life.

His classmates thought that this was hilarious (as kids do) but he was genuinely pissed off for being used for the colour of his skin rather than his actual ability (in rugby) just to tick a diversity box.

How ridiculous! It's absurd that some people think this kind of thing is progressive!

ainsleysanob · 21/10/2025 13:09

Same as the Bar Council with their inclusive intern scheme that is only inclusive providing you’re not white.

1dayatatime · 21/10/2025 13:08

The diversity story that sticks out in my mind is from my daughter's school where pupils were being called out got class to approve particulars photos or have photos taken to be used in an external school promotional material.

Anyway there was a black lad who was very good in the school rugby team and sure enough he was called out of class and everyone assumed it was for a rugby photo approval

Anyway when he came back to class he was fuming. Apparently they already had "enough" diversity faces for sports photos but no black faces for the music photos, so they asked him to pose for a photo with a trumpet, when he had never picked one up before in his life.

His classmates thought that this was hilarious (as kids do) but he was genuinely pissed off for being used for the colour of his skin rather than his actual ability (in rugby) just to tick a diversity box.

pikkumyy77 · 21/10/2025 13:07

Fellontheground · 21/10/2025 11:38

God you are rude. ‘Not able to handle the competition’? The issue here is that the OP’s son isn’t even deemed eligible to enter the competition.

OP is rude—whining about her son’s job prospects and insinuating that others are less well qualified than he. That is quite rude.

BunnyLake · 21/10/2025 13:05

justnottinghill · 21/10/2025 11:37

OP will because she can’t accept that candidates like your son can be both higher achieving than her child AND brown.

I think a bit of background would be helpful in understanding your responses.

Devonmaid1844 · 21/10/2025 13:05

reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 11:50

Like someone upthread said, there are tick boxes. Some would say that it's HR who are merely monitoring intake but I have insider knowledge that it doesn't seem to be just for this. Might be wrong.

But, yes, there are lots of programmes closed to certain groups - you can see many listed here:

https://app.the-trackr.com/uk-finance/spring-weeks

Of course, that still leaves many opportunities but it just seems that it's swung a bit too far and the whole AI selection is very demoralising too.

A couple of senior people said they get so many applications that all successful applicants are high achieving, but that there is definitely less holistic candidates now - i.e. those with other interest outside of academia and made in their view for less diverse teams (not in terms of gender/colour etc) but in terms of experience and personality!

Have you checked though... This seems to be listed as for women only on that list but not on the company website...

https://nomuracampus.tal.net/vx/mobile-0/appcentre-ext/brand-4/candidate/so/pm/1/pl/1/opp/1294-2026-Global-Markets-Digital-Office-Summer-Internship-Quants-Strats-London-For-2027-Graduates/en-GB

Quick Check Needed

https://nomuracampus.tal.net/vx/mobile-0/appcentre-ext/brand-4/candidate/so/pm/1/pl/1/opp/1294-2026-Global-Markets-Digital-Office-Summer-Internship-Quants-Strats-London-For-2027-Graduates/en-GB

RubySquid · 21/10/2025 13:05

PlayWeather · 21/10/2025 12:58

Why should more than one of them be a white man though?

The thing is that white men can only apply to one of the jobs. Doesn't mean no one else can

By the look of that if you were an ethnic minority woman you can apply for all 4

Cloudeee · 21/10/2025 13:03

EmpressoftheMundane · 21/10/2025 13:01

I think this is very true. I work in London in a white collar job. The office is naturally diverse, and if you hire the candidates reflect the local population which is diverse. You’d have an impossible task to build a high performing team, especially in more junior roles, out of just white males. It would restrict your choice too much.

The sooner they quit categorising everyone and quit asking intrusive information about race, gender snd sexuality, the better. This stuff creates grievances. I am not a Trump fan. I think his election was in part a backlash against EDI.

There’s a big difference between London and the uk in general tbh

RubySquid · 21/10/2025 13:03

herbalteabag · 21/10/2025 12:56

My son is white and got an internship at an investment bank before graduating two years ago. Since then he's worked in finance/banking in the city at more than one place and gets contacted quite frequently on LinkedIn, it doesn't seem to have been an issue for him.

Is he also working class though? Those are the white boys that are left behind

EmpressoftheMundane · 21/10/2025 13:01

Rainbows12344 · 21/10/2025 12:51

UK is becoming more and more diverse and less and less white. In 20 years it will be like 50:50 or even more? So it might not necessarily be a diversity policy working here, just the statistics.

I think this is very true. I work in London in a white collar job. The office is naturally diverse, and if you hire the candidates reflect the local population which is diverse. You’d have an impossible task to build a high performing team, especially in more junior roles, out of just white males. It would restrict your choice too much.

The sooner they quit categorising everyone and quit asking intrusive information about race, gender snd sexuality, the better. This stuff creates grievances. I am not a Trump fan. I think his election was in part a backlash against EDI.

OneDivineHammer · 21/10/2025 13:00

EmpressoftheMundane · 21/10/2025 12:49

🙄 rude.

My two white children both have a clean sweep of A*s. They also competed in elite level sport. White people aren’t dullards.

Rude - or racist? FWIW, not many people of any hue get 4 A*s.

PlayWeather · 21/10/2025 12:58

2boysm · 21/10/2025 12:35

For another example, the new president of the royal college of physicians is female. She is vocal about the representation of women in leadership in medicine. Quite right too, you might say… but she was taking over from a woman.

In another medical leadership panel, there were four posts. Two were reserved for ethnic minorities and one for female candidates. So if you are a white man, you can only apply to one. It’s absolutely bonkers.

Why should more than one of them be a white man though?

OhDear111 · 21/10/2025 12:58

Internships are about getting some experience and insight into the career you want. Employers should be even handed in their selection processes. Working at the local cafe isn’t the same.

It’s certainly been the case in some areas of work (law) that the tiny number of apprenticeships are being used to boost the disadvantaged employee stats for those companies. However the standard jobs are open to all. However the jobs are ludicrously competitive! These openings are being manipulated to boost the diversity stats - no doubt about it!

RhaenysRocks · 21/10/2025 12:57

reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 11:44

Yes this. He can definitely handle the competition but a lot of opportunities are closed.

Of course I'm not saying that people from diverse groups can't be top of the class and the best, not at all, but I've heard some banks saying they want 20% diversity hires which is an awfully high number given the fabric of the population.

I know lots of white males with 4A*s and even masters (with both degrees from 'target' unis) who have not managed to get into any spring or summer internships.

But if in "diversity" you include ethnic background, disadvantage markers, ND then actually I would think 20% of the population might well come under it, so it would be representative?

herbalteabag · 21/10/2025 12:56

My son is white and got an internship at an investment bank before graduating two years ago. Since then he's worked in finance/banking in the city at more than one place and gets contacted quite frequently on LinkedIn, it doesn't seem to have been an issue for him.

Cloudeee · 21/10/2025 12:55

Bambamhoohoo · 21/10/2025 12:50

It’s nothing to do with wither they can prove it or not. It’s because you don’t get jobs for just being bisexual so this information wouldn’t make you any better at the selection process and the fact that at the level you’re talking about no one gives a crap about diversity hires

Sure whatever, they just ask for “monitoring purposes” I’m open to it being a big fat coincidence although after countless rejections while being honest about being straight and white it was a pretty big coincidence.

My contribution to the thread is for anyone in the ops son’s situation to just lie, be the mixed race gay man, they can’t prove you’re not. This is sadly the world we live in and we must adapt hate the game not the player 👌🏻

Egregiousabsolute · 21/10/2025 12:54

EmeraldRoulette · 21/10/2025 11:34

As a non-white woman, I objected to these things 25 years ago

I never applied for any of them because I did not want to be the diversity hire

Unfortunately, these things have become entrenched. I was even greeted with surprise recently when I explained to someone - who really should know me better - that I would never apply for those things.

It's really annoying for me because I find it reinforces a stereotype on two levels in my case

As for what happens to the next generation, I'm sorry to say I don't know. There will be stuff that your son can apply for hopefully? So places who expressed that they will give preference on a DEI basis but they won't be exclusive about it.

I am definitely not the only person who thinks it's got ridiculous but it's the kind of view you won't hear expressed very often. I worry about typing it out on here! People have been trained to shout "prejudice" at everything from school. And it gets worse at university from what I can see. It's batshit.

I suspect it will get worse because it takes organisations about 20 years to catch up with what everyone else is thinking. Especially if they're following government!

I wish your son all the best in his job hunting 💫

LOVE THIS! 👏 👏 👏

NancyJoan · 21/10/2025 12:54

Try JP Morgan Chase. The white, privately educated kid whose parents live next door to me is currently on the degree apprenticeship.

PlayWeather · 21/10/2025 12:51

If your son doesn't qualify under the "social mobility" category he probably doesn't need the kind of internship being offered. Traditionally people with parents with money have the advantage of being able to work for low or no wages, whereas others without this opportunity won't be able to access certain kinds of careers or work experiences. If these are paid internships that are for people from a more disadvantaged socio-economic background, they exist to give some young people opportunities they otherwise would not have.

Rainbows12344 · 21/10/2025 12:51

UK is becoming more and more diverse and less and less white. In 20 years it will be like 50:50 or even more? So it might not necessarily be a diversity policy working here, just the statistics.

Bambamhoohoo · 21/10/2025 12:50

Cloudeee · 21/10/2025 12:48

I did, how do you think they would prove I wasn’t bisexual? Even “mixed race” is pretty ambiguous and could mean half British half polish. The definition is in the eye of the beholder.

Anyway MAYBE it was just a coincidence I finally got a job after I started lying despite having a non existent cv. Maybe

It’s nothing to do with wither they can prove it or not. It’s because you don’t get jobs for just being bisexual so this information wouldn’t make you any better at the selection process and the fact that at the level you’re talking about no one gives a crap about diversity hires

Rosesfornoses · 21/10/2025 12:50

@Codyrhodesisaheel
Thank you. So many supposedly 'lefty' posters on here who haven't got a clue about the most disadvantaged in our society. As you rightly say it is feeding the rhetoric of the far right.
Something tells me that these 'lefties' won't be campaigning for better educational opportunities for poor white boys.
Sorry, Wes Streeting, I know you feel that this group is deserving of more support.