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To Think that Grad & Apprenticeships are now only for Diversity Candidates

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reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 10:34

Slight hyperbole but not far off.

Yes, of course I suppose my DS should be appreciative of his 'white privilege' (I do detest the term though), but he's been applying to over 100 x spring & summer internships and apprenticeships.

Invariably, he finds that lots of programmes are only open to black/female/social mobility/ND candidates. In one recent case - a global consultancy - there were NO openings for anyone outside of these categories.

And today, on LinkedIn, he forwarded me several links from leading banks reaching out about apprenticeships etc. In most photos, you might be lucky to spot 1-2 white males and in the video of one, there were not a single white male (or female for that matter).

I get that these firms need to do outreach to disadvantaged groups but if you look at the population level percentage of the various group categories, this really has swung too far the other way.

I get that many of these organisations have years to catch up with diversity hires but to try to rebalance in such an aggressive way and in a short space of time, makes it very difficult for young, white males (unless they have qualified for 'free school meals') to get a foot in the door which is especially tough in an incredibly tough grad market as it is.

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PermanentTemporary · 21/10/2025 13:56

I suppose I am bound to feel a bit sick reading this as my ordinary white son has just got a job, doing what he wants to do, at a London firm, having got 4 A*s, internships every year and an oxbridge degree. His skin colour and sex don’t appear to have held him back. He got several jobs in fact, but picked the one that suited him.

If a job at the top end firms appears to be out of reach, because an organisation has decided to recruit in a particular way or because you’ve missed out on that application round (my son obviously applied for multiple things he didn’t get as well as those he did) then go and get a job somewhere else. If you were in the running for those very high end jobs, you will get something else. Based on my son’s experience, a lot of this is hot air. If someone tells you ‘it’s pointless to apply for X’ have a good look at who is saying it, their real experience and why. What they may mean is ‘I didn’t get in’ or ‘it took me six months to get something’ but it’s much more exciting to say that female doctors from families of Indian origin aren’t good enough (I’ve heard that said) or various vapid statements about ‘diversity’.

MaeTeekay14 · 21/10/2025 13:56

This is likely due to all the years of minorities being excluded from many professions due to unconscious and conscious bias. I am a mother to a mixed race son who got fantastic results in his GCSE's last year. He has been trying for the last 8 months to get an apprenticeship with no success. He's not come across one application that states it is for black/female/disabled applicants only though. That's discriminatory in itself. Due to the industry that I am in, I am aware that many businesses have pledged that they will hire a certain amount of ethnic groups and other marginalised groups, as for so long they have been overlooked. I would encourage your son to continue to look for things and the right thing will come along at the right time.

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 13:56

There is a problem for white working class boys, that is absolutely true and it should be tackled. Hence newer schemes looking at social mobility.

They ignore physical mobility - that white working class boys cannot afford the travel and rent to move away to university or to do an internship in a city they have no contacts with. Or that they are not even aware of these opportunities because companies do not set up in their area or move away from it in order to promote ‘diversity’.

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 13:52

Whyherewego · 21/10/2025 13:50

Indeed and an article published today said the NHS management training scheme more likely to reject minority ethnic applicants. Given the high percentage of NHS workforce that are from ethnic minority backgrounds, I think it's reasonable to expect that the leadership should in some way reflect the workforce. And it does not. Really does not

Does it reflect the workforce of thirty years ago though? Because surely that is the relevant workforce against whom the current group of senior management competed?

And why does the NHS workforce not reflect the UK population?

ScholesPanda · 21/10/2025 13:51

These schemes are imperfect, but I still support their existence. The internship schemes at not designed to exclude white males, they are supposed to encourage people who would never have applied in the first place, rather than people like your son who are already applying in their first year of Uni.

Similarly, if he's applying anyway, why does your son need to see people like him in the (stock) photos? He must know already that people like him get these jobs, or he wouldn't have thought to apply.

Discrimination in actual recruitment for paid work is illegal, so if your son has proof of that he should see an employment solicitor.

There is a problem for white working class boys, that is absolutely true and it should be tackled. Hence newer schemes looking at social mobility. These schemes are very hard to get right and they also cause upset, it's difficult to ensure the right metrics are used. Free school meals and benefits claims may well be insufficient as metrics, they might well exclude children whose parents have had better paid blue collar jobs but wouldn't otherwise apply. Is a working class boy in Tower Hamlets more likely to apply for a job in banking because he has some idea of what it involves, as opposed to a working class boy in Consett who doesn't? Likely, yes.

Do schemes for women and ethnic minorities attract a greater proportion of these groups from more affluent backgrounds? Yes, almost certainly.

So, these schemes are imperfect. But perfect shouldn't be the enemy of good, and we shouldn't default back to a system of 'white, middle class men must know best because otherwise they wouldn't have these jobs in the first place'; just because designing good schemes is hard.

Whyherewego · 21/10/2025 13:50

DareMe · 21/10/2025 12:38

The vast majority of NHS CEOs are white males. Ambulance services in particular have a long way to go.

Indeed and an article published today said the NHS management training scheme more likely to reject minority ethnic applicants. Given the high percentage of NHS workforce that are from ethnic minority backgrounds, I think it's reasonable to expect that the leadership should in some way reflect the workforce. And it does not. Really does not

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 13:46

Cloudeee · 21/10/2025 13:37

Free school meals are for kids whose parents earn less than 7.4k.
please check your privileges with that hefty 8k salary you bigots

Families don’t live on £7.4k though, at that salary they also get universal credit and possibly housing benefit. They could have a lot more to live on than a family on a higher salary - for example if they had a mortgage on a home in negative equity that needs repairs. Check your own privilege before deciding other people are bigots for understanding more about how difficult financial circumstances can work.

Cloudeee · 21/10/2025 13:37

MaturingCheeseball · 21/10/2025 13:35

Now this makes me fume.

Just because you didn’t have free school meals you are not living a life of luxury and privilege. Ridiculous.

There’s this very nasty narrative (indeed seen on this thread) that white boys are entitled, have had their time and goody if they’re sidelined.

As for white working-class boys - who needs them? They’re somewhere vague outside the M25 anyway…

Free school meals are for kids whose parents earn less than 7.4k.
please check your privileges with that hefty 8k salary you bigots

ScholesPanda · 21/10/2025 13:37

Crikeyalmighty · 21/10/2025 12:29

Personally I think if people want equality then it should be a genuinely totally level playing field - at the moment in some quarters it’s becoming like apartheid in reverse- don’t bother applying if you are white and/or straight etc - and I say this as a centre left voter - see also today on news in our industry that someone had opened a ‘black artists only’ record shop or the’MOBO awards ( music of black origin) - can you imagine the absolute hoo ha if someone had set up ‘the music of white origin awards’ , or a white artists only record shop ?? No wonder we end up with a ton of people with Reform type views - it’s not as if black artists and music are totally under represented in the industry -they dominate in some sectors.

White artists have won MOBO awards. The music has to be of black origin , the winning artists can be of any colour. They're awards for a particular style of music.

People can open shops to sell whatever they want- bookshops that only sell female authors; bars that cater to gay men. If No-one is interested the business will close again.

MaturingCheeseball · 21/10/2025 13:35

PlayWeather · 21/10/2025 12:51

If your son doesn't qualify under the "social mobility" category he probably doesn't need the kind of internship being offered. Traditionally people with parents with money have the advantage of being able to work for low or no wages, whereas others without this opportunity won't be able to access certain kinds of careers or work experiences. If these are paid internships that are for people from a more disadvantaged socio-economic background, they exist to give some young people opportunities they otherwise would not have.

Now this makes me fume.

Just because you didn’t have free school meals you are not living a life of luxury and privilege. Ridiculous.

There’s this very nasty narrative (indeed seen on this thread) that white boys are entitled, have had their time and goody if they’re sidelined.

As for white working-class boys - who needs them? They’re somewhere vague outside the M25 anyway…

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 13:32

pikkumyy77 · 21/10/2025 13:21

But he’s not. The whole field of all jobs isn’t (possibly) available to him but so what? The previously disadvantaged, outsider, applicants havd for once in history been given a slight advantage so that massively white top heavy groups can try to rebalance their books now as they face an increasingly muced population. Maybe the nonwhite, female, disabled customer base would like to see beanch managers snd financial counselors who look like them? Maybe they want an international (refugee) representative because those candidates have more to offer than mr standard type. Thats a business decision. Why are you complaining about it. You didn’t complain when the old boys club simply delivered your jobs to you directly by shutting outsiders out. You thought it was merit but it was based on artificial exclusion just the same.

Discrimination against white people is ok in your books?

Whatsthatsheila · 21/10/2025 13:31

reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 11:44

Yes this. He can definitely handle the competition but a lot of opportunities are closed.

Of course I'm not saying that people from diverse groups can't be top of the class and the best, not at all, but I've heard some banks saying they want 20% diversity hires which is an awfully high number given the fabric of the population.

I know lots of white males with 4A*s and even masters (with both degrees from 'target' unis) who have not managed to get into any spring or summer internships.

question:

if two males -maybe your son or maybe not and a.n.other guy - were up for the same post - final 2 - exactly the same demographics (white male same age same social-economic backgrounds hell even same accent hair and eye colour) qualifications /grades / scores etc -

both exceptional at interview… really nothing between them …

except the other person has a disability that whilst it doesn’t affect his abilities and he’s equally capable of doing the job as the other candidate - means the employer has to make a set of adjustments - (he can’t just slot into a normally equipped desk for example)

Who do you think the employer would choose?

PlayWeather · 21/10/2025 13:31

We are talking about industries here that are very much dominated by white men, and rely heavily on "old boys" networks. In my opinion, some of these schemes are quite performative or tokenistic, so employers can be seen to address the issues that exist in the industry. I expect that white, male dominance is still prevelant, though - regardless of a couple of photos. If anyone does receive a genuine opportunity that they otherwise would have been excluded from though, I am all for it.

Noeasyanswer · 21/10/2025 13:31

YANBU. It is important that schemes are open to all, and that underrepresented groups are encouraged to apply, but not allowing others to apply because they are the wrong skin colour is just racial discrimination. Racial discrimination is wrong in any form.

I used to think that this was just privilege-complaining until my previous workplace had a new CEO. She was determined to change our balance to be more reflective of society. As a result, experienced white males were managed out and replaced by candidates chosen with at least as much emphasis on race/gender than their knowledge of our industry. When I was recruiting at that organisation, we were told to turn down a suitable young white male and readvertise the position as otherwise we would not hit our targets. And yes, the female candidate we eventually hired underperformed in the role.

So yes, it does happen and it is much worse at entry level positions.

Callie9 · 21/10/2025 13:31

pikkumyy77 · 21/10/2025 13:21

But he’s not. The whole field of all jobs isn’t (possibly) available to him but so what? The previously disadvantaged, outsider, applicants havd for once in history been given a slight advantage so that massively white top heavy groups can try to rebalance their books now as they face an increasingly muced population. Maybe the nonwhite, female, disabled customer base would like to see beanch managers snd financial counselors who look like them? Maybe they want an international (refugee) representative because those candidates have more to offer than mr standard type. Thats a business decision. Why are you complaining about it. You didn’t complain when the old boys club simply delivered your jobs to you directly by shutting outsiders out. You thought it was merit but it was based on artificial exclusion just the same.

Thats unnecessarily rude and you are making a lot of assumptions about me. I'm a woman and mixed race, so presumably I would be eligible for some of these schemes, but I don't think they're a good idea. They just cause resentment and push more people towards reform and other right wing groups, which I'm very worried about. Plus I don't think current discrimination is a very fair remedy for past discrimination. I would much prefer places just did some kind of blind hiring. I think the line about wanting people who look like them is rather odd, when I go to the bank I personally couldn't care less if the person I am dealing with looks like me, I care if they can do their job well.

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 13:30

Not sure doing the internship gives much advantage as her cohort is still very white

Why wouldn’t it be? The UK is an overwhelmingly white population.

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 13:27

My cousin’s national employer moved a most of its large local section from his very deprived area with only a small black/asian community, to the midlands in order to increase the ‘diversity’ of its recruitment (their target was 40% BAME despite this being much higher than the UK population). His very deprived area is now missing one of its few large employers, and even fewer local employers of graduates.

Funny how they don’t include white British under ‘BAME’ in areas like London where they are now a minority….

Funny how they also do this despite positive discrimination being illegal unless there are justified reasons for a specific sex or race (eg sex of carers needed, or actor playing a Chinese character).

GreenSweeties · 21/10/2025 13:25

Has he really applied to 100? What feedback has he had. Maybe needs to make less but higher quality applications (and worry less about not seeing anyone who looks like him on recruitment materials).

My employer switched to only offering widening access internships as previously all the spots were taken up by existing members of staff family and friends who generally didn't need the insight to the industry or a leg up. No restriction on who can apply for the actual jobs on graduation.

DDs grad scheme has a diversity internship (but takes anyone if spaces not filled). Not sure doing the internship gives much advantage as her cohort is still very white and middle class.

All for the workforce being more representative of the communities they serve.

Holluschickie · 21/10/2025 13:25

So now what you are complaining about is that even the Indians and Chinese who had better grades than your son don't deserve it because they are not well rounded; according to your definition?
You would be wrong.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 21/10/2025 13:24

reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 13:09

True.

But an interesting point, I think, is that some cultures place so much emphasis on academics - crammer courses, not being allowed to socialise, talented at sport suddenly dropping out when it gets to GCSE/A-levels [we have a very large Indian/Chinese group of students ] - that they become quite unidimensional.

I think it's race to the top with ever more pressures for kids to keep up with those who have parents who expect their kids to focus solely on academics (and music is usually considered 'permissible' in this sense). It becomes unhealthy.

I'm sure we would all agree that IQ is on a bell curve and that certain people/cultures are not brighter than others, but it's more that some cultures emphasising working so hard on the academics (4-5 hours after school every day!!) but don't do the other things - i.e. the DofE, sports, socialising etc.

I also think - and this applies to everyone regardless of background, sex, colour etc - if you have been working so hard on academics, making sure to do all past papers multiple times etc and put in your all, for some people they will have reached their plateau.

For others, who perhaps have come from families where being more 'well-rounded' (I acknowledge perhaps this is a loaded term) is being encouraged, and these kids will not have reached their top level of performance at A-level or even at uni but might blossom at work and start racing ahead.

So maybe, it's right that not only Astar Astar Astar Astar candidates should get all the top grad jobs. It's about the stretch and ability to grow from where you are and diversity, as I mentioned before, comes in many more shapes and sizes than what you can see in front of you.

But lots of kids from all ethnicities manage to get straight A*s while also engaging in extracurricular stuff and socialising etc. It isn't the case that v you have to choose between being "well rounded" and being "academic" - many families will encourage both. Perhaps those are the kids who are hoovering up all the job opportunities?

pikkumyy77 · 21/10/2025 13:21

Callie9 · 21/10/2025 13:10

She's entitled to be disappointed that her son is being barred from some opportunities because of his race and gender etc.

But he’s not. The whole field of all jobs isn’t (possibly) available to him but so what? The previously disadvantaged, outsider, applicants havd for once in history been given a slight advantage so that massively white top heavy groups can try to rebalance their books now as they face an increasingly muced population. Maybe the nonwhite, female, disabled customer base would like to see beanch managers snd financial counselors who look like them? Maybe they want an international (refugee) representative because those candidates have more to offer than mr standard type. Thats a business decision. Why are you complaining about it. You didn’t complain when the old boys club simply delivered your jobs to you directly by shutting outsiders out. You thought it was merit but it was based on artificial exclusion just the same.

Cloudeee · 21/10/2025 13:19

pikkumyy77 · 21/10/2025 13:14

Oh so now its not white bots generally who are getting hurt just working class ones? Surely they would be covered under social mobility schemes? The OP is specifically complaining that her not working class don isn’t getting the advantage not that poor white boys aren’t.

How do they prove whether one grew up rich or poor or anything in between? I moved out of my parents at 16 and there’s people out there who are completely estranged from their parents.

Is the growing up rich/poor thing another thing you can just lie about?

Kateluvscats1 · 21/10/2025 13:16

I was sat in a university recently, waiting for my class to start, and I was observing a group of student nurses, every single person in a group of about 30, were black or Asian. This is in a very 'white' city.

pikkumyy77 · 21/10/2025 13:14

RubySquid · 21/10/2025 13:03

Is he also working class though? Those are the white boys that are left behind

Oh so now its not white bots generally who are getting hurt just working class ones? Surely they would be covered under social mobility schemes? The OP is specifically complaining that her not working class don isn’t getting the advantage not that poor white boys aren’t.

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 13:13

NightCzar · 21/10/2025 11:45

I’m in Australia, large, global organisation, and my area of it takes on 100 grads each year, and 50-70 interns. We try to get our intake to 50:50 male:female/other (broad definition) by making at least 50:50 offers after interview. Our pool of applicants is more like 60:40, because more students who take finance and related degrees tend to be male, so you could say that it’s slightly better odds to get a job, if you identify as a female.

Is it really true that in the UK a job application initial screening form can stop you progressing through if you are not a certain ethnicity? Am I misunderstanding you? Otherwise how would he know about the restrictions in that global consultancy? That blows my mind.

What about if you actually are female?