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To Think that Grad & Apprenticeships are now only for Diversity Candidates

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reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 10:34

Slight hyperbole but not far off.

Yes, of course I suppose my DS should be appreciative of his 'white privilege' (I do detest the term though), but he's been applying to over 100 x spring & summer internships and apprenticeships.

Invariably, he finds that lots of programmes are only open to black/female/social mobility/ND candidates. In one recent case - a global consultancy - there were NO openings for anyone outside of these categories.

And today, on LinkedIn, he forwarded me several links from leading banks reaching out about apprenticeships etc. In most photos, you might be lucky to spot 1-2 white males and in the video of one, there were not a single white male (or female for that matter).

I get that these firms need to do outreach to disadvantaged groups but if you look at the population level percentage of the various group categories, this really has swung too far the other way.

I get that many of these organisations have years to catch up with diversity hires but to try to rebalance in such an aggressive way and in a short space of time, makes it very difficult for young, white males (unless they have qualified for 'free school meals') to get a foot in the door which is especially tough in an incredibly tough grad market as it is.

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justnottinghill · 21/10/2025 14:40

Still waiting for you to post what he wants to do so I can show you how many opportunities he can apply to, as a white male.

I know all of the Big 4 policies inside out, I can direct you to McKinsey’s and BCG’s programs, and I can also show you banking availability. All he’d be eligible for.

CuriousKangaroo · 21/10/2025 14:37

reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 11:45

Thank you, balanced post.

And of course, as stated earlier, I agree with outreach programmes and of course there are extremely high performers from these backgrounds, as there are from all categories (bell curve) but it just seems very hopeless but trying to make sure he keeps morale up!

That is not a balanced post at all. You have just decided it is because someone who isn’t white has agreed with you. It’s the equivalent of Reform voters claiming the party isn’t racist because one or two deluded black and brown people support them.

I’m a brown women and wholly disagree with what the pp and you are saying. I have been involved in recruiting in my professional field for many years. First, while some posts like work experience are restricted to disadvantaged people, it is incredibly rare that actual jobs or graduate schemes are.

And the reason for work experience being given to disadvantaged and unrepresented groups? It’s because they have no other way of getting their foot in the door, because actual jobs are often set up in a way that makes it far harder for them to get them. Having the polish that comes from growing up with professional parents or going to private school offers a huge advantage in interviews over someone who was on free school meals and who didn’t socialise with other middle class people. But that polish makes no difference to how they actually perform in the role. Work experience gives them a small way of levelling up a little.

Just look at the world around you - mediocre white men have overinflated confidence and somehow rise to the top with far less talent than lots of others who simply don’t have the opportunities they had, despite being smarter and harder working. The work ethic and determination of some of the “diversity hires” I have seen far outstrips that of many white men; they had to work twice as hard to prove themselves if they come from a background where there is disadvantage.

They are a huge asset to the companies they join. THAT’s why companies run those programmes, they want to access the untapped talent. Do you really think companies whose first and foremost objective is profit, would run these programmes if it wasn’t helping them? It’s capitalism 101.

Your son has every door open to him, unlike those who come from backgrounds where they may have gone to school without enough to eat and still get all A*s, or have faced unconscious racism or sexism by teachers, or are refugees battling PTSD and uncertainty because of what they have suffered and still get firsts at top universities.

Perhaps you and he could take some time to consider that approaching applications with the attitude that being a white male is a disadvantage (and honestly, look around you to see how untrue that is) is what is preventing him from succeeding and maybe it would be worth considering that maybe he simply isn’t as good as the people he is applying against where those applications are open and he should work harder or build other skills. The world does not owe him a job, nor is it handing them out like sweets to “diversity hires”.

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 14:37

Whyherewego · 21/10/2025 14:30

Depends what you mean by senior role. I would say that Band 8a and above are senior in the NHS and it does not take 10 years plus to reach those roles.
Workforce planning is a whole other topic and boiling it down to "overseas people taking our jobs" may be easier narrative but the reality is far more complex

Overseas doctors are clearly taking UK doctor roles when they are allowed to compete with UK doctors on an equal basis. Every other country gives priority to their own citizens/residents. It is not complex at all - 10,000 uk FY2s applied for 10,000 specialist training places alongside 20,000 overseas doctors. Only 52% of UK FY2s manage to get a training place.

Holluschickie · 21/10/2025 14:37

Just asked DS. He says a few schemes prioritised women and those eligible for school meals( not us) but there are plenty available for everyone. He didn't come across any asking about ethnicity.

LevoitPotato · 21/10/2025 14:34

EmeraldRoulette · 21/10/2025 11:34

As a non-white woman, I objected to these things 25 years ago

I never applied for any of them because I did not want to be the diversity hire

Unfortunately, these things have become entrenched. I was even greeted with surprise recently when I explained to someone - who really should know me better - that I would never apply for those things.

It's really annoying for me because I find it reinforces a stereotype on two levels in my case

As for what happens to the next generation, I'm sorry to say I don't know. There will be stuff that your son can apply for hopefully? So places who expressed that they will give preference on a DEI basis but they won't be exclusive about it.

I am definitely not the only person who thinks it's got ridiculous but it's the kind of view you won't hear expressed very often. I worry about typing it out on here! People have been trained to shout "prejudice" at everything from school. And it gets worse at university from what I can see. It's batshit.

I suspect it will get worse because it takes organisations about 20 years to catch up with what everyone else is thinking. Especially if they're following government!

I wish your son all the best in his job hunting 💫

I agree with this post 100%. I am of the same vintage, from an era just before DEI took hold. I worked in investment banking in NY and London , as well as asset management. I was hired for my skills, perceived ability and degrees. I was not hired to fill a quota for a non-white hire.

DEI ostensibly started off as a means of ensuring an equality of opportunity, but has got twisted to equality of outcome, something it was never meant to be, because the latter results in inherently unfair hiring practices towards the majority.

As a separate matter, finding internships as an entry-level graduate in London (if that’s where your son is looking) in asset management, equity analyst/credit analyst and Tier 1 investment banking grad schemes is extremely challenging. This is regardless of ethnicity and sex. When you layer on DEI targets, it’s all the more challenging. I don’t dispute that. It can be very hard to hire a candidate that fits the bill in terms of the job, without very senior management stepping in and saying a female would be ‘ideal’ so that the firm can look ‘good’ for diversity factors.

I am a non-white woman and have held my own in a male-dominated industry and I’m frankly very happy I wasn’t born 20 years later. I can say this with 100% certainty , based on a decade of experience in the City, that a DEI push over the last 10-15 years has resulted in a large number of women working in senior investment roles, who a) likely would not have got the job if they weren’t female; and b) are very mediocre to bad in their jobs.

The emphasis on virtue signaling by large financial services firms has got worse in recent years (they don’t necessarily believe in it, they just don’t want headline risk) and so now a white female will stand a lower chance versus an equally or lower qualified non-white female. DEI is fast losing ground in the City, and also in big financial hubs like NY, but it will take time to get back to equilibrium; right now, it is very much out of balance.

OP, your son will find an internship, it may not be exactly what he wants, but my suggestion is, start in a lower name firm, get a little experience and then apply for the bulge brackets. Once you get a little experience under your belt, the DEI element reduces quite a bit in hiring decisions.

Bambamhoohoo · 21/10/2025 14:34

Noeasyanswer · 21/10/2025 13:31

YANBU. It is important that schemes are open to all, and that underrepresented groups are encouraged to apply, but not allowing others to apply because they are the wrong skin colour is just racial discrimination. Racial discrimination is wrong in any form.

I used to think that this was just privilege-complaining until my previous workplace had a new CEO. She was determined to change our balance to be more reflective of society. As a result, experienced white males were managed out and replaced by candidates chosen with at least as much emphasis on race/gender than their knowledge of our industry. When I was recruiting at that organisation, we were told to turn down a suitable young white male and readvertise the position as otherwise we would not hit our targets. And yes, the female candidate we eventually hired underperformed in the role.

So yes, it does happen and it is much worse at entry level positions.

Your recruitment was very poor if you couldn’t manage to find a woman who could do the role regardless of the target to get one. Women are 50% of the population

TravelPanic · 21/10/2025 14:32

Your son doesn’t need an internship as he’ll be ahead of others when applying for grad jobs after uni merely for being a white male. The internships are there to bring equally qualified minorities up to the same level of “privilege” as your son’s sex and race give him.

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 14:31

Northerngirl821 · 21/10/2025 14:26

I’m in medicine and white men (not “males”) are definitely still well represented amongst newly qualified doctors. All interview shortlisting is done with redacted application forms - we don’t have access to EDI date at this stage.

You’re in medicine and think men are not male?

What would you count as well represented? White doctors are under-represented in the NHS compared to the population.

Whyherewego · 21/10/2025 14:30

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 14:22

it takes more than ten years to reach senior roles (and then they stay in them until retirement). And it is not just lower paid jobs that are recruited from abroad. 48% of UK FY2 doctors this year failed to find specialist training and were left unemployed whilst thousands of overseas doctors were recruited to specialist training posts instead.

Depends what you mean by senior role. I would say that Band 8a and above are senior in the NHS and it does not take 10 years plus to reach those roles.
Workforce planning is a whole other topic and boiling it down to "overseas people taking our jobs" may be easier narrative but the reality is far more complex

PrissyGalore · 21/10/2025 14:27

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 14:22

it takes more than ten years to reach senior roles (and then they stay in them until retirement). And it is not just lower paid jobs that are recruited from abroad. 48% of UK FY2 doctors this year failed to find specialist training and were left unemployed whilst thousands of overseas doctors were recruited to specialist training posts instead.

That is dreadful. We should really prioritise British doctors who trained here.

Northerngirl821 · 21/10/2025 14:26

I’m in medicine and white men (not “males”) are definitely still well represented amongst newly qualified doctors. All interview shortlisting is done with redacted application forms - we don’t have access to EDI date at this stage.

Holluschickie · 21/10/2025 14:24

FairKoala · 21/10/2025 14:23

But if no or very few grad schemes have openings for white males then how can all these white males get on them?

Why do you believe that grad schemes dont have opps for white males? They do!

Regardless of OP"s whining.

viques · 21/10/2025 14:24

Fellontheground · 21/10/2025 11:37

Excuse me? Yes - in many cases, these are the stated eligibility requirements. She ticks one box (state school) and that’s it. She’s not black, not a refugee, not a traveller, not disabled, not estranged from us, etc etc etc etc

So in the wider sense of privilege she has already won the lottery simply by NOT being black, a refugee, a traveller, disabled, PP, in care etc etc.

How many more advantages do you think she needs to be given to make up for not ticking boxes? Super model good looks, perfect pitch, parents best friends with the CEO of international companies, generous financial legacy from granny, athletic prowess …………

FairKoala · 21/10/2025 14:23

Beedeeoh · 21/10/2025 11:32

The reason for this is that it's much more likely for white, male middle class candidates to be successful through other routes. You're talking as if your son will have no chance of getting a position in future. Statistically that's unlikely. White males generally do very well in grad scheme applications or just open applications. The point of offering internships and apprenticeships to disadvantaged groups is that it gives them a better chance when it comes to the latter type of application or an alternative way to get a foot in the door. That's why they are not usually open to candidates who have those advantages already.

I work in the public sector and the vast majority of our grads this year are white, middle class females - not great. If other areas are achieving better diversity, I'm all for that.

But if no or very few grad schemes have openings for white males then how can all these white males get on them?

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 14:22

Whyherewego · 21/10/2025 14:18

Well the percentage of BME at senior levels in the NHS still doesn't relect the overall percentage of BME 10 years ago.

As to why we like to recruit people from overseas to do the lower paid jobs in the NHS ... that's a whole other thread

it takes more than ten years to reach senior roles (and then they stay in them until retirement). And it is not just lower paid jobs that are recruited from abroad. 48% of UK FY2 doctors this year failed to find specialist training and were left unemployed whilst thousands of overseas doctors were recruited to specialist training posts instead.

Holluschickie · 21/10/2025 14:19

Also, I hate to bore on about it but many target unis and grad schemes are looking for FM, especially for analyst roles.

If your kid didnt take FM and has not got on a grad scheme, it's not because they are white. It could be because they didn't take FM.

Whyherewego · 21/10/2025 14:18

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 13:52

Does it reflect the workforce of thirty years ago though? Because surely that is the relevant workforce against whom the current group of senior management competed?

And why does the NHS workforce not reflect the UK population?

Well the percentage of BME at senior levels in the NHS still doesn't relect the overall percentage of BME 10 years ago.

As to why we like to recruit people from overseas to do the lower paid jobs in the NHS ... that's a whole other thread

Holluschickie · 21/10/2025 14:15

GreenSweeties · 21/10/2025 13:25

Has he really applied to 100? What feedback has he had. Maybe needs to make less but higher quality applications (and worry less about not seeing anyone who looks like him on recruitment materials).

My employer switched to only offering widening access internships as previously all the spots were taken up by existing members of staff family and friends who generally didn't need the insight to the industry or a leg up. No restriction on who can apply for the actual jobs on graduation.

DDs grad scheme has a diversity internship (but takes anyone if spaces not filled). Not sure doing the internship gives much advantage as her cohort is still very white and middle class.

All for the workforce being more representative of the communities they serve.

My brown son applied for more than a 100 . Feedback was that he didn't suit the corporate culture and was rubbish at personality tests. So he worked harder at those and learned how to " fit in". And was successful.

Meanwhile my DD who didn't work quite as hard and doesn't have as good grades didnt get on a grad scheme. Her fault as she didn't put in that effort. We dont whine about racism. She will try again after acquiring more skills.

MaturingCheeseball · 21/10/2025 14:08

@pikkumyy77 - you’ve got all the cliches there. Old boys club? So every white boy from no matter where is definitely taking advantage of the old boys club ?

Why do you want to demonise and punish blameless individuals?

Betcha call a dreaded man when you need a removal company or your drains are blocked. They’re good enough for that, eh?

Cloudeee · 21/10/2025 14:06

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 13:46

Families don’t live on £7.4k though, at that salary they also get universal credit and possibly housing benefit. They could have a lot more to live on than a family on a higher salary - for example if they had a mortgage on a home in negative equity that needs repairs. Check your own privilege before deciding other people are bigots for understanding more about how difficult financial circumstances can work.

I was obviously joking really couldn’t give less of shit if you or anyone think I’m privileged, I don’t play the sob story olympics, my employer thinks I’m mixed race and bisexual, I have zero qualifications or previous work experience and working a pretty cushty job considering my poor life decisions as a youngster

I am privileged and technically stole an opportunity from someone who isn’t with my bullshittery😉 oh well you do what you have to in 2025

MaturingCheeseball · 21/10/2025 14:02

I can say that publishing is really bad. There seems a concerted effort to eliminate men full stop, no matter what their creed or colour (trans excepted - but then I suppose they are women (!) ).

You’d have thought in the interests of diversity they would want a few males, but no. Not welcome.

1dayatatime · 21/10/2025 14:02

pikkumyy77 · 21/10/2025 13:21

But he’s not. The whole field of all jobs isn’t (possibly) available to him but so what? The previously disadvantaged, outsider, applicants havd for once in history been given a slight advantage so that massively white top heavy groups can try to rebalance their books now as they face an increasingly muced population. Maybe the nonwhite, female, disabled customer base would like to see beanch managers snd financial counselors who look like them? Maybe they want an international (refugee) representative because those candidates have more to offer than mr standard type. Thats a business decision. Why are you complaining about it. You didn’t complain when the old boys club simply delivered your jobs to you directly by shutting outsiders out. You thought it was merit but it was based on artificial exclusion just the same.

So your answer to right the wrong of historical discrimination against coloured minorities is to recreate discrimination today against the white majority today.

You do realise that the white children of today are not responsible for the discrimination that took place in the past.

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 14:01

I am aware that many businesses have pledged that they will hire a certain amount of ethnic groups and other marginalised groups, as for so long they have been overlooked.

‘Overlooked for so long’ or because the demographics of the UK population has been undergoing huge and rapid change? Don’t believe the BBC historical dramas - the non-white ethnic groups made up only a tiny proportion of the UK population until forty/fifty years ago.

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 13:58

PermanentTemporary · 21/10/2025 13:56

I suppose I am bound to feel a bit sick reading this as my ordinary white son has just got a job, doing what he wants to do, at a London firm, having got 4 A*s, internships every year and an oxbridge degree. His skin colour and sex don’t appear to have held him back. He got several jobs in fact, but picked the one that suited him.

If a job at the top end firms appears to be out of reach, because an organisation has decided to recruit in a particular way or because you’ve missed out on that application round (my son obviously applied for multiple things he didn’t get as well as those he did) then go and get a job somewhere else. If you were in the running for those very high end jobs, you will get something else. Based on my son’s experience, a lot of this is hot air. If someone tells you ‘it’s pointless to apply for X’ have a good look at who is saying it, their real experience and why. What they may mean is ‘I didn’t get in’ or ‘it took me six months to get something’ but it’s much more exciting to say that female doctors from families of Indian origin aren’t good enough (I’ve heard that said) or various vapid statements about ‘diversity’.

Your son’s experience does not prove this doesn’t exist

MaturingCheeseball · 21/10/2025 13:57

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 13:52

Does it reflect the workforce of thirty years ago though? Because surely that is the relevant workforce against whom the current group of senior management competed?

And why does the NHS workforce not reflect the UK population?

Exactly - senior positions will in time reflect the make-up of the workforce. But if you’re 60 then when starting out your peers would not have been very diverse.