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To Think that Grad & Apprenticeships are now only for Diversity Candidates

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reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 10:34

Slight hyperbole but not far off.

Yes, of course I suppose my DS should be appreciative of his 'white privilege' (I do detest the term though), but he's been applying to over 100 x spring & summer internships and apprenticeships.

Invariably, he finds that lots of programmes are only open to black/female/social mobility/ND candidates. In one recent case - a global consultancy - there were NO openings for anyone outside of these categories.

And today, on LinkedIn, he forwarded me several links from leading banks reaching out about apprenticeships etc. In most photos, you might be lucky to spot 1-2 white males and in the video of one, there were not a single white male (or female for that matter).

I get that these firms need to do outreach to disadvantaged groups but if you look at the population level percentage of the various group categories, this really has swung too far the other way.

I get that many of these organisations have years to catch up with diversity hires but to try to rebalance in such an aggressive way and in a short space of time, makes it very difficult for young, white males (unless they have qualified for 'free school meals') to get a foot in the door which is especially tough in an incredibly tough grad market as it is.

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MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 15:42

Bambamhoohoo · 21/10/2025 15:29

Yes but I do think we’re mixing up “diversity hire” with these community partnerships.

community partnerships aren’t about hunting the poor. They are about the workforce reflecting the local area or the customer base.

ergo- a rich Indian person whose parents are Brain surgeons who lives in a 5 bed townhouse in Hackney and goes to the local comp being involved in community initiatives isn’t a failure of the partnership to “hunt the poor”

But when these partnerships are only available in cities then being from ‘the inner city’ becomes a privilege over those in poor provincial towns.

Fearfulsaints · 21/10/2025 15:41

I think all this is highlighting is how few good opportunities there are compared to the number of people able and willing to do them.

I don't think companies would seek diversity if it wasnt in thier own interests as I dont believe they are forced to. This makes it very difficult to change.

I suppose young white men (working class?) are suffering due to an over supply of old white men in companies that decuded they needed diversity.

LevoitPotato · 21/10/2025 15:41

reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 14:57

Thank you so kind and so helpful.

Btw, I don't think that DEI is wrong, and I do think there definitely needed to be rebalancing as clearly it used to be (maybe still is) a bit of an 'old boys white network' (though if you're not familiar with that sort of background - which applies to all backgrounds and genders - it is still a tough one to enter).

My DS is very privileged, being white, male, middle class (working class parents who went to lower ranked unis) and private 6th form. But he still felt fed up. I'll share your advice about where to perhaps focus his efforts on i.e. not the big banks etc, and he always bounces back but that will really help. :)

Take a look at the Bank of England website, they are hiring for a range of internships and apprenticeships (if that fits with your sons’s skillset and career goals).

Bambamhoohoo · 21/10/2025 15:40

MaturingCheeseball · 21/10/2025 15:35

@Bambamhoohoo it’s a stupid question though as unless asked for proof people are bound to dumb down occupations! I told dd to just leave it blank, though if I remember rightly dh did have a period of unemployment at that time - kerching!

it depends on how they consider the answer though doesn’t it?
When I was 15 my dad was a Plumber and my mum a house wife. That’s not privileged, but it’s not likely to be getting me any DEI points either.

Beedeeoh · 21/10/2025 15:38

FairKoala · 21/10/2025 14:23

But if no or very few grad schemes have openings for white males then how can all these white males get on them?

Op is talking specifically about summer internships and apprenticeships. Both of these routes are generally a core part of diversity initiatives. Internships because they give candidates the necessary soft skills - confidence, familiarity with workplace norms - that they may not have if they don't have family or other role models in professional roles. Apprenticeships because they are often the only viable route in for applicants from poverty who cannot afford unpaid volunteering or university.

Graduate schemes are separate and much less likely to be for social mobility/diversity candidates only. In fact I don't think I've ever come across a whole scheme that was restricted in this way, they are usually open to anyone.

Bambamhoohoo · 21/10/2025 15:38

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 15:36

But then contradict yourself by saying that group isn’t exclusively white?

I didn’t? Are you looking at the post I responded to?

seems like we have ourselves in a confusion 😂

BitOutOfPractice · 21/10/2025 15:37

reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 11:26

In banking it is the reality, same in insurance, at least what I've heard from people I know who work in global, top UK banks/insurance.

Not everyone, obviously, but these people - very senior - commented on how out of 12 and 15 intake, only 1 and 2 males respective. All others diversity/females.

Yes yes the banking and insurance sectors are really well known for having hardly any white men in them 🙄

Everlore · 21/10/2025 15:36

I am not going to read all the responses as I have more than filled my quota of nauseating MN bigotry for the day. However, I wonder if the OP might wish to consider that her son is just not as qualified for the placements as the successful candidates, rather than jumping to the conclusion that employers have hired an inferior applicant simply because they are black, female, poor or disabled.
Please tell me your not encouraging your son to develop massive chips on both shoulders about this, becoming that guy who always bangs on about how hard it is being white, male and financially comfortable in this unfair woke world is not going to help him win friends or influence people!

curious79 · 21/10/2025 15:36

Beedeeoh · 21/10/2025 11:32

The reason for this is that it's much more likely for white, male middle class candidates to be successful through other routes. You're talking as if your son will have no chance of getting a position in future. Statistically that's unlikely. White males generally do very well in grad scheme applications or just open applications. The point of offering internships and apprenticeships to disadvantaged groups is that it gives them a better chance when it comes to the latter type of application or an alternative way to get a foot in the door. That's why they are not usually open to candidates who have those advantages already.

I work in the public sector and the vast majority of our grads this year are white, middle class females - not great. If other areas are achieving better diversity, I'm all for that.

The most underperforming segment today in the UK amongst young people are white working class males

Dweetfidilove · 21/10/2025 15:36

RubySquid · 21/10/2025 13:03

Is he also working class though? Those are the white boys that are left behind

The OP says the list of qualifiers includes social mobility, which presumably includes class.

I know the CS also has questionnaires with class identifiers - yours parents jobs/homes etc...

Isn't this to identify working class applicants? And if it is, why would a white working class boy not be selected, on the basis of his class when 'diversity hire' is supposedly to disadvantage white middle class men?

Holluschickie · 21/10/2025 15:36

CuriousKangaroo · 21/10/2025 15:32

So you if you see a successful brown or black person you assume they are more likely to have got there as a diversity hire, than on merit? Because that is exactly the sort of racist thinking that schemes aimed at those students are needed to address - because some white people cannot fathom that we are just as clever and hard working as they are, let alone smarter or harder working. And so we (and women too) are hired at lower rates than white male candidates when posts are open to all, because of the assumptions inherent in racist and sexist thinking.

Or if we are smarter, it"s because we aren't well rounded, have no hobbies and work too hard. But if we don't work hard, we are incompetent diversity hires!

Catch 22.

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 15:36

Bambamhoohoo · 21/10/2025 15:26

The poster I was responding to had said:

“Was it that other people didn't apply or did your company specifically select white Oxbridge (Oxbridge these days, btw, is actually really quite diverse) these candidates?”

we have already acknowledged that oxbridge isnt all white. We were discussing what selection criteria could’ve made these people rise to the top of the applicant list (as usual) and I suggested the privilege that got them to Oxbridge in the first place.

But then contradict yourself by saying that group isn’t exclusively white?

MaturingCheeseball · 21/10/2025 15:35

@Bambamhoohoo it’s a stupid question though as unless asked for proof people are bound to dumb down occupations! I told dd to just leave it blank, though if I remember rightly dh did have a period of unemployment at that time - kerching!

dizzydizzydizzy · 21/10/2025 15:35

OP, do you have any idea how much harder life is for ethnic minorities or disabled people? They are just as intelligent as anyone else.

Also, neurodivergent people have skills that others don't have. GCHQ actively seeks out dyslexic (or was it ADHD?) staff members because they tend to be inately better at solving puzzles.

Bambamhoohoo · 21/10/2025 15:32

MaturingCheeseball · 21/10/2025 15:26

Dd was asked on a form what her parents did when she was 14. I suppose 14 was picked to weed out those who could say their parents were unemployed because they were retired!

As others have noted, it’s always a tool to bash the pesky middle classes. Too well off and ordinary to be “underprivileged” and nowhere near the sphere of private education and “contacts”.

Also, the posters sneering about Oxbridge… you do realise that most graduates now are from state schools? What is the point of working hard to get there, doing well and then being told by some DEI bod that “Oh no, you’ve now passed through the gates of privileged twitdom so therefore it is my pleasure to kick you back down” ?

Sorry I missed this -

“Also, the posters sneering about Oxbridge… you do realise that most graduates now are from state schools? What is the point of working hard to get there, doing well and then being told by some DEI bod that “Oh no, you’ve now passed through the gates of privileged twitdom so therefore it is my pleasure to kick you back down” ?”

what does this mean? Most graduates are from state schools in the whole population of graduates?
Of course they are, 96% of the population are educated in state schools!

if you mean most graduates of Oxbridge are from state schools it would be good to see the stats

CuriousKangaroo · 21/10/2025 15:32

Shinybrightdarling · 21/10/2025 15:25

I’m sure your son got where he is by merit, but there is so much discrimination against white, middle class applicants that anyone in his position is now often suspected of being a diversity hire. It’s the natural result of all the diversity hiring that definitely is taking place.

So you if you see a successful brown or black person you assume they are more likely to have got there as a diversity hire, than on merit? Because that is exactly the sort of racist thinking that schemes aimed at those students are needed to address - because some white people cannot fathom that we are just as clever and hard working as they are, let alone smarter or harder working. And so we (and women too) are hired at lower rates than white male candidates when posts are open to all, because of the assumptions inherent in racist and sexist thinking.

Bambamhoohoo · 21/10/2025 15:30

MaturingCheeseball · 21/10/2025 15:26

Dd was asked on a form what her parents did when she was 14. I suppose 14 was picked to weed out those who could say their parents were unemployed because they were retired!

As others have noted, it’s always a tool to bash the pesky middle classes. Too well off and ordinary to be “underprivileged” and nowhere near the sphere of private education and “contacts”.

Also, the posters sneering about Oxbridge… you do realise that most graduates now are from state schools? What is the point of working hard to get there, doing well and then being told by some DEI bod that “Oh no, you’ve now passed through the gates of privileged twitdom so therefore it is my pleasure to kick you back down” ?

14 is more about the support she might’ve had through her own education - maybe she had parents who worked in Asda until their children left school at which time they got a degree and started working as a teacher. It doesn’t change that their children grew up without the professional support and resource the parent can now provide.

Bambamhoohoo · 21/10/2025 15:29

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 15:20

But my point was these initiatives take place local to the companies, and companies are more likely to be in cities (with higher ethnic minority populations) than in provincial towns.

Yes but I do think we’re mixing up “diversity hire” with these community partnerships.

community partnerships aren’t about hunting the poor. They are about the workforce reflecting the local area or the customer base.

ergo- a rich Indian person whose parents are Brain surgeons who lives in a 5 bed townhouse in Hackney and goes to the local comp being involved in community initiatives isn’t a failure of the partnership to “hunt the poor”

MaturingCheeseball · 21/10/2025 15:26

Dd was asked on a form what her parents did when she was 14. I suppose 14 was picked to weed out those who could say their parents were unemployed because they were retired!

As others have noted, it’s always a tool to bash the pesky middle classes. Too well off and ordinary to be “underprivileged” and nowhere near the sphere of private education and “contacts”.

Also, the posters sneering about Oxbridge… you do realise that most graduates now are from state schools? What is the point of working hard to get there, doing well and then being told by some DEI bod that “Oh no, you’ve now passed through the gates of privileged twitdom so therefore it is my pleasure to kick you back down” ?

Bambamhoohoo · 21/10/2025 15:26

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 15:17

So why do you think their applicants were white if not class, education or Oxbridge?

The poster I was responding to had said:

“Was it that other people didn't apply or did your company specifically select white Oxbridge (Oxbridge these days, btw, is actually really quite diverse) these candidates?”

we have already acknowledged that oxbridge isnt all white. We were discussing what selection criteria could’ve made these people rise to the top of the applicant list (as usual) and I suggested the privilege that got them to Oxbridge in the first place.

Shinybrightdarling · 21/10/2025 15:25

Holluschickie · 21/10/2025 11:34

My son is brown. He got into a grad scheme in finance after over a 100 applications. He has now converted that into a job at a global consultancy for 2026. His grades at A levels were 4 A stars and he got a first in his degree. He is currently doing a masters at Oxbridge.

Do you want to claim my son is a diversity hire?

I’m sure your son got where he is by merit, but there is so much discrimination against white, middle class applicants that anyone in his position is now often suspected of being a diversity hire. It’s the natural result of all the diversity hiring that definitely is taking place.

Leadonmacduffs · 21/10/2025 15:22

‘If your son has applied for over 100 posts as you set out in your OP, then that demonstrates that a) he has not been precluded from applying from many, many, roles and b) he isn’t as good as the other candidates.’

he also needs to look at what he’s applying for and actually decide whether or not he’s right or has the right skills for that role. AI is killing entry level professional jobs too… so there’s that.

Leadonmacduffs · 21/10/2025 15:20

Our offices and industry is still stuffed to the gills with MC white men - does that re-assure you? The new hires for senior positions over the last year have been overwhelmingly white men from MC +’ background, and my new-ish white, male manager has just been given a huge promotion by other white men for - as far as I can tell- pulling off the suit trousers/white or blue shirt look very well and being able to talk incessantly about his Strava runs. His marathon training. His triathlon training.
Not an idea or creative thought to be found in his head TBH but he does sound and look like a ‘man in charge’

Your DS will be fine. Unless he has an unfortunate personality???

MouldyPeppers · 21/10/2025 15:20

Bambamhoohoo · 21/10/2025 15:14

It’s a bit misleading to say “inner city”. Companies have local outreach and partnerships with their local community but to indicate that they’re picking through secondary schools to find the poor purely on the basis it isn’t a private school so must be populated with paupers is really misapplying the point of these partnerships.

most companies would use a mix of criteria to identify disadvantage- post code and parents education level being common ones.

But my point was these initiatives take place local to the companies, and companies are more likely to be in cities (with higher ethnic minority populations) than in provincial towns.

IceandIndigo · 21/10/2025 15:19

I work in a company that runs one of these types of schemes. The issue is, we were getting literally thousands of applications for a small number of places. The scheme was hugely onerous for those involved in shortlisting and it felt unfair to applicants taking time to apply with so little chance of success. Also the resulting hires were not diverse at all. We ended up taking a decision to restrict it to particular demographic groups who were underrepresented in the company. This improved the operation of the scheme and had a positive impact on the pipeline of permanent hires into the company. So while I understand your disappointment on behalf of your son, I can also see the other side.