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To Think that Grad & Apprenticeships are now only for Diversity Candidates

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reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 10:34

Slight hyperbole but not far off.

Yes, of course I suppose my DS should be appreciative of his 'white privilege' (I do detest the term though), but he's been applying to over 100 x spring & summer internships and apprenticeships.

Invariably, he finds that lots of programmes are only open to black/female/social mobility/ND candidates. In one recent case - a global consultancy - there were NO openings for anyone outside of these categories.

And today, on LinkedIn, he forwarded me several links from leading banks reaching out about apprenticeships etc. In most photos, you might be lucky to spot 1-2 white males and in the video of one, there were not a single white male (or female for that matter).

I get that these firms need to do outreach to disadvantaged groups but if you look at the population level percentage of the various group categories, this really has swung too far the other way.

I get that many of these organisations have years to catch up with diversity hires but to try to rebalance in such an aggressive way and in a short space of time, makes it very difficult for young, white males (unless they have qualified for 'free school meals') to get a foot in the door which is especially tough in an incredibly tough grad market as it is.

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Cloudeee · 22/10/2025 18:43

Bambamhoohoo · 22/10/2025 18:06

But you know when people want to make their controversial point in front of a large audience they sometimes make things up?

I mean her point was she wants DEI gone. It’s not like she realized who wonderfully her all female board was performing THEN decided we should bin DEI on that basis alone was it? She was speaking with an agenda.

And you call me a liar for saying I got a job after ticking mixed race and bi. I mean tf is unbelievable about that I’m not even saying it was definitely the reason could have been a coincidence for sure it’s not like I said I flew to Jupiter. But sure everyone who disagrees with you on here is lying

NorthXNorthWest · 22/10/2025 18:40

Rosesfornoses · 21/10/2025 12:05

Ever since I started teaching we were taught that the worst achieving children with the poorest outcomes were poor white boys.
https://committees.parliament.uk/committee/203/education-committee/news/156024/forgotten-white-workingclass-pupils-let-down-by-decades-of-neglect-mps-say/
I did hear a Labour MP recently on Radio 4 explaining that this is the real issue in education today.
Most London Grammar schools are dominated by minority ethnic groups.There is no such representation from poor white boys. There are influential people now fighting to change this. Wes Streeting is one such campaigner.
I remember one pupil from an ethnic minority who had six brothers and sisters. All went to Oxbridge. None of them were startingly clever. His male classmates from ordinary and poor backgrounds did not stand a chance.
Look up the proportion of poor white boys in Higher Education compared to ethnic minority students. Don't take my word for it. There has to be a campaign to recruit more students from poor white backgrounds. Otherwise you have significantly disadvantaged groups who are the feeding ground for far right groups.

I wont take your work for it, thanks

My understanding is that the largest influences on their performance is

Geography, aspirations and disinterested parents

There are other factors, but these are the most influential.

Bambamhoohoo · 22/10/2025 18:27

Fladfnda · 22/10/2025 18:19

How? The guy who set up and runs Jibble doesn't measure or track diversity metrics at all. They shouldn't. Just hire on merit, previous experience how well they preform at interview. Their soft skills and their technical skills.

Loads of companies don’t. What’s your point?

dizzydizzydizzy · 22/10/2025 18:27

reallyreallycrazy · 21/10/2025 11:44

Yes this. He can definitely handle the competition but a lot of opportunities are closed.

Of course I'm not saying that people from diverse groups can't be top of the class and the best, not at all, but I've heard some banks saying they want 20% diversity hires which is an awfully high number given the fabric of the population.

I know lots of white males with 4A*s and even masters (with both degrees from 'target' unis) who have not managed to get into any spring or summer internships.

20% diversity hires doesn’t sound crazy given that in the last census 16% of the population was foreign born. I’m not exactly sure who is included in ‘diversity hires’ but I am assuming it is foreign born people, ethnic minorities and maybe a few others.

https://migrationobservatory.ox.ac.uk/resources/briefings/migrants-in-the-uk-an-overview/

If the banks are hiring any less than 20%, then we could say that there is a likelihood of bias and discrimination in their hiring process. It’s already a well known fact that women, on average, earn less than men.

For the banks (or any business) it makes good business sense to have a range of people from different backgrounds - it means the workforce has a broader range of perspectives and experiences and are therefore overall more creative and more able to connect with more customers - even just as a small example speaking the customer’s language - but it goes far beyond language.

Many parts of the UK have far more than 20% foreign born inhabitants - I would guess London, Bradford, Leeds, Leicester, Slough to name but a few.

Migrants in the UK: An Overview - Migration Observatory

This briefing provides an overview of the number, population share, geographic distribution and nationalities of migrants in the UK.

https://migrationobservatory.ox.ac.uk/resources/briefings/migrants-in-the-uk-an-overview/

Fladfnda · 22/10/2025 18:19

Bambamhoohoo · 22/10/2025 18:11

its funny how many half formed ideas support people’s perceived failure of DEI

How? The guy who set up and runs Jibble doesn't measure or track diversity metrics at all. They shouldn't. Just hire on merit, previous experience how well they preform at interview. Their soft skills and their technical skills.

Bambamhoohoo · 22/10/2025 18:11

its funny how many half formed ideas support people’s perceived failure of DEI

Fladfnda · 22/10/2025 18:07

I could have misheard it could have been female dominated. Maybe she said "almost all female board". I don't think she's lying and making it up. She doesn't care for DEI. Neither do I.

Bambamhoohoo · 22/10/2025 18:06

Fladfnda · 22/10/2025 18:03

I went to a talk about financial risks and the economy. She was on the panel. She spoke about removing DEI metrics in portfolios and says she doesn't care about it. Just how the company is performing and the returns it makes. She gave the example of the female only board and said "we'll this company is run really well by just women. Should they have to make their board half men half women now to be equal?"

But you know when people want to make their controversial point in front of a large audience they sometimes make things up?

I mean her point was she wants DEI gone. It’s not like she realized who wonderfully her all female board was performing THEN decided we should bin DEI on that basis alone was it? She was speaking with an agenda.

Fladfnda · 22/10/2025 18:03

Cloudeee · 22/10/2025 17:51

“Everyone who disagrees with me must be lying”

I went to a talk about financial risks and the economy. She was on the panel. She spoke about removing DEI metrics in portfolios and says she doesn't care about it. Just how the company is performing and the returns it makes. She gave the example of the female only board and said "we'll this company is run really well by just women. Should they have to make their board half men half women now to be equal?"

Bambamhoohoo · 22/10/2025 18:00

According to Google there are no all female boards in America, Australia, France, Germany, Vietnam or South Africa either.

it’s even illegal to have an all female board in China

I’m not going to check all the stock exchanges in the world, but let’s face it, I mean it doesn’t even sound true.

Cloudeee · 22/10/2025 17:51

Bambamhoohoo · 22/10/2025 17:34

I wonder if she was telling the truth though? A quick google shows there are no plcs with all female boards. In fact, AI adds this little titbit which says it all 😂

“No, there are no Public Limited Companies (PLCs) with all-female boards, but the number of companies with at least one woman on their board is increasing significantly”

and what does “best performing shares” even mean? No company consistently performs “best”. Unless her portfolio was extremely niche surely your best performing shares are logically the shells, AstraZeneca, HSBCs etcs. Which certainly don’t have all female boards 😭

more likely to be a self hating cool wife who wants to end DEI to pull the laser up behind her?

“Everyone who disagrees with me must be lying”

Bambamhoohoo · 22/10/2025 17:48

Fladfnda · 22/10/2025 17:44

Maybe it's a foreign stock? People do invest globally you know. People do invest in America and elsewhere.

One of her best performing - I was paraphrasing what she said. She meant the company is doing well and owning the stock is providing good financial return. She's not self hating, she had a successful career in finance on merit.

Yes that would be convenient 🤨 convenient that she doesn’t support DEI because this one female led listed company happen to perform so exceptionally well. And she’s also dumb enough to think that would happen naturally without DEI?

OhDear111 · 22/10/2025 17:48

There’s shares in all sorts of world wide funds. Might be in the USA for all we know and not ftse at all.

Fladfnda · 22/10/2025 17:44

Bambamhoohoo · 22/10/2025 17:34

I wonder if she was telling the truth though? A quick google shows there are no plcs with all female boards. In fact, AI adds this little titbit which says it all 😂

“No, there are no Public Limited Companies (PLCs) with all-female boards, but the number of companies with at least one woman on their board is increasing significantly”

and what does “best performing shares” even mean? No company consistently performs “best”. Unless her portfolio was extremely niche surely your best performing shares are logically the shells, AstraZeneca, HSBCs etcs. Which certainly don’t have all female boards 😭

more likely to be a self hating cool wife who wants to end DEI to pull the laser up behind her?

Maybe it's a foreign stock? People do invest globally you know. People do invest in America and elsewhere.

One of her best performing - I was paraphrasing what she said. She meant the company is doing well and owning the stock is providing good financial return. She's not self hating, she had a successful career in finance on merit.

Bambamhoohoo · 22/10/2025 17:34

Fladfnda · 22/10/2025 15:54

This woman works in asset management and she said one of her best performing shares has a board that's 100% women. In the eyes of DEI it should be half men half women.

I wonder if she was telling the truth though? A quick google shows there are no plcs with all female boards. In fact, AI adds this little titbit which says it all 😂

“No, there are no Public Limited Companies (PLCs) with all-female boards, but the number of companies with at least one woman on their board is increasing significantly”

and what does “best performing shares” even mean? No company consistently performs “best”. Unless her portfolio was extremely niche surely your best performing shares are logically the shells, AstraZeneca, HSBCs etcs. Which certainly don’t have all female boards 😭

more likely to be a self hating cool wife who wants to end DEI to pull the laser up behind her?

OhDear111 · 22/10/2025 16:46

@5128gap I’m not sure there’s much evidence to say that degree holders who are white and middle aged are not good employees though. It’s seen as ok to have a go at them but many companies are well run. In many cases these men are embracing a broader spectrum of people in the workforce. It’s certainly not proven that minorities, deprived people or women would do better. They might do exactly the same! Talent should be recruited fairly and let’s see who gets to the top.

Cloudeee · 22/10/2025 16:18

Leadonmacduffs · 22/10/2025 15:53

I wasn’t talking about your fairy story, love.

“claim to be gay when you’re not” who else are you talking about if not me ?
Why should anyone miss out on an opportunity just because they don’t fit any of your holy marginalised groups.
And stay unemployed so you can shit talk “lazy British people we need more immigration because brits are too lazy” etc etc 🙄

Fladfnda · 22/10/2025 15:54

Leadonmacduffs · 22/10/2025 15:37

A board rhats 💯 women? Was it a company of 10 employees where the 5 board members started it?
IF that company is a large one with a large number of employees then yes, they probably should think about getting a male board member. But we all know that’s not the case. Don’t we.
I swear, we women are our own worst enemy sometimes. Demanding women be the best, brightest, exceptional before they even get a look in whereas we happily accept mediocre blokes running things all the fucking time.

This woman works in asset management and she said one of her best performing shares has a board that's 100% women. In the eyes of DEI it should be half men half women.

Leadonmacduffs · 22/10/2025 15:53

Cloudeee · 22/10/2025 15:46

Sorry Should I of just stayed unemployed forever 😂
it’s not fair to lie but it’s also not fair employers discriminate even if it is “positive discrimination”

I wasn’t talking about your fairy story, love.

Cloudeee · 22/10/2025 15:46

Leadonmacduffs · 22/10/2025 15:32

What kind of a shite bag to you have to be though, to claim to be WC when your parents were doctors, or tick the ‘Traveller’ box in a form or claim to be gay when you aren’t?

Many of the questions are for stats purposes and the hiring team for even see them but if you’re the kind of twat who would say you fit diversity categories when you don’t to get an interview for a role recruiting for under represented groups then be prepared to keep that lie up for your career at that company if you get hired.

Sorry Should I of just stayed unemployed forever 😂
it’s not fair to lie but it’s also not fair employers discriminate even if it is “positive discrimination”

Leadonmacduffs · 22/10/2025 15:37

Fladfnda · 22/10/2025 14:45

I remember attending a panel once. Where this women who has a successful career in finance was totally wanting to scrap DEI. Saying it doesn't matter. Saying one of her best performing stocks has a board that's 100% women. Should they be mandated to make the board 50/50 men/women?

A board rhats 💯 women? Was it a company of 10 employees where the 5 board members started it?
IF that company is a large one with a large number of employees then yes, they probably should think about getting a male board member. But we all know that’s not the case. Don’t we.
I swear, we women are our own worst enemy sometimes. Demanding women be the best, brightest, exceptional before they even get a look in whereas we happily accept mediocre blokes running things all the fucking time.

Leadonmacduffs · 22/10/2025 15:32

38thparallel · 22/10/2025 15:17

There was some scheme recently that you were asked if parents received benefits when you were 14.

What is to stop applicants lying about this? Do those hiring have any means of checking?

What kind of a shite bag to you have to be though, to claim to be WC when your parents were doctors, or tick the ‘Traveller’ box in a form or claim to be gay when you aren’t?

Many of the questions are for stats purposes and the hiring team for even see them but if you’re the kind of twat who would say you fit diversity categories when you don’t to get an interview for a role recruiting for under represented groups then be prepared to keep that lie up for your career at that company if you get hired.

38thparallel · 22/10/2025 15:17

There was some scheme recently that you were asked if parents received benefits when you were 14.

What is to stop applicants lying about this? Do those hiring have any means of checking?

Fladfnda · 22/10/2025 14:45

I remember attending a panel once. Where this women who has a successful career in finance was totally wanting to scrap DEI. Saying it doesn't matter. Saying one of her best performing stocks has a board that's 100% women. Should they be mandated to make the board 50/50 men/women?

Cloudeee · 22/10/2025 14:41

5128gap · 22/10/2025 14:28

You got a job that required experience and qualifications, despite not having them? Or you got an entry level job that didn't require them with an employer who valued the life experience of raising a child as a teen, with the maturity and resilience that may imply, over academic qualifications? If you're determined to see this as 'diversity gone mad!!!' I can't stop you. But you may well be selling yourself short and it was more likely the potential they saw in you as a person that got you the job.

An entry level job but you’ll be surprised how hard it is to get such jobs if you have no previous work experience. I did not tell I had a child until after I got the job tbh i didn’t need them thinking “she’ll always be calling in sick when her child is ill”.

When it comes to being inclusive ethnicity and sexuality are easy tick boxes for employers.

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