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Can I have a hand hold please ?

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ByeByeThyroid · 21/10/2025 00:44

I had my thyroid surgery at 9am. I was in surgery for 7 hours, it was very difficult and stuck down to basically everything. I’ve also had a neck dissection where they have removed 40 lymph nodes because I have metastatic melanoma.

since 5pm on the ward my throat has been agony, I’ve also been ‘oozing’ fluid from the wound which I creasing pain. I’m on oxygen too. I have a drain with zero output

2 hours ago my lovely lovely nurse gave me iv paracetamol and asked the day ent if I could have my blood thinning injection, he said yes, went home and she gave it (God that mo fo burns)!

For 2 hours it has been really hard to get a deep breath or swallow, so I told the nurse and to her credit when she saw my buzzer go off she called the night ent guy and gave me some oramorph.

Night ENT dr has said I need an urgent new drain as the fluid is now building up in my wound, it’s also actively bleeding underneath the wound into my neck (because of the blood thinner).

I need to have some TXA (tranexamic acid) to help stop the bleeding, then a new drain but they want my air way protected so I have to go back to theatres for it as the swelling is a bit much, currently I have no dressing on to try and encourage as much of it to come out as possible whilst simultaneously not bleeding everywhere Oh and I need to walk around to try not to get a blood clot

All my people are asleep and I feel very alone and a bit scared. I’ve got my massive bag of fun shit that I packed and I’m very grateful for those suggestions!

OP posts:
limetrees32 · 21/10/2025 06:33

Wow! I'm in awe of your bravery.
Well done sweetheartFlowers

Staringintothevoid616 · 21/10/2025 06:30

ByeByeThyroid · 21/10/2025 06:17

It worked. I was given a GA, and taken to hdu after theatres, to make sure it actually worked. Managed to drain off enough that I can go back to my original ward after drs hand over. Thank you for being there for me when I really did feel so alone. I didn’t post earlier because frankly none of it would have made much sense at all!!

Glad you’re back out of theatre -hope you manage to get some decent rest today, sending you positive vibes for your healing

sesquipedalian · 21/10/2025 06:28

OP, this all sounds absolutely grim. So pleased you’re now on the road to recovery. I’m crossing my fingers for you that your recovery will be straightforward from now on.

Sirzy · 21/10/2025 06:27

Glad it went well. Hope it’s a smooth recovery from here on in

rainbowstardrops · 21/10/2025 06:26

So glad to hear it worked! Onwards and upwards I hope Flowers

DarkForces · 21/10/2025 06:25

Im so glad you're on the mend. Hope you get some sleep now

WeirdyBeardyMarrowBabyLady · 21/10/2025 06:22

So glad to hear that it worked and wishing you a brighter morning. I hope that you are able to get some rest after what must have been a very long and difficult night. Sending love.

shellyleppard · 21/10/2025 06:21

@ByeByeThyroid thats fantastic news 💐🫖💓

Appleseason · 21/10/2025 06:21

I really hope you can feel more comfortable now

ByeByeThyroid · 21/10/2025 06:17

It worked. I was given a GA, and taken to hdu after theatres, to make sure it actually worked. Managed to drain off enough that I can go back to my original ward after drs hand over. Thank you for being there for me when I really did feel so alone. I didn’t post earlier because frankly none of it would have made much sense at all!!

OP posts:
shellyleppard · 21/10/2025 05:55

@ByeByeThyroid oh my days that sounds like a absolute nightmare!!! How are you feeling now

Mumdiva99 · 21/10/2025 05:54

Wow you had one hell of a day yesterday. I hope you are back in bed and able to rest and recover now.

Nestingbirds · 21/10/2025 05:51

💐

Nestingbirds · 21/10/2025 05:50

You poor love. You feel tearful because you are in so much pain and alone in the night. Of course you are scared. Take a deep breath and remember you are in the best place with professionals that can keep you well.

You hsve been so brave.

CheshireDing · 21/10/2025 05:14

Hope you're feeling a bit better now OP.

Therapee · 21/10/2025 05:07

A handhold from me too! I possibly have surgery tomorrow, and can relate to how scary it is to be in pain, and to be feeling vulnerable. Really hope you recover well from it all, and you can get some really good pain relief.

HaroldMeaker · 21/10/2025 05:06

AutumnCosy2025 · 21/10/2025 04:49

I hope you're asleep now & feel so much better in the morning xx

apparengly my body thinks sleep is for other people 🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♀️

Same !

Birdsongsingingagainandagain · 21/10/2025 05:00

Hope your surgery has gone well and you are now able to rest and recover 💐.

Theextraordinaryisintheordinary · 21/10/2025 04:57

If you are reading this you have now got through that worry. Take all the drugs they offer you. The morphine will help. Keep is posted as you recover. X

Standingtree · 21/10/2025 04:55

I hope today is a success for you, hand hold and lots of love and hope for a better rest of the week.I sounds very painful but your'e doing great.

AutumnCosy2025 · 21/10/2025 04:49

I hope you're asleep now & feel so much better in the morning xx

apparengly my body thinks sleep is for other people 🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♀️

HaroldMeaker · 21/10/2025 04:23

Aww bless you op, that’s a lot to contend with. I hope the rest of the night goes smoothly and you are a bit more comfortable. Wishing you a speedy recovery 💐

LozzaCh0ps · 21/10/2025 04:04

That sounds really grotty OP, you poor thing! I hope they’ve sorted you out by now and you’re able to get some rest, you must be exhausted! Night time in a hospital always feels even worse. Sending the quickest healing vibes to you!!!

FamousSideeye · 21/10/2025 03:48

Blimey OP, you’ve got a lot going on. I feel really sorry for you! I hope you feel a lot better soon.

Givenupshopping · 21/10/2025 03:27

Sending hugs and best wishes your way. Hopefully tomorrow will be much better, but if not, we're all here if you need support.