Page 3 | I got laughed at in the gym and now I never want to go back

Debenezer · 22/10/2025 01:31

CinnamonCrunch33 · 21/10/2025 15:09

Just as an update.

I managed to get in before work. They took down the time of the incident and checked through CCTV, and pinpointed the time. They have left me a voicemail this afternoon to say they managed to track back and find the girls entering, found their membership numbers and they’ve been banned, effective immediately. I’m really pleased!

I’m so happy for you. Please don’t let these immature girls dent your confidence, especially as you have endured so much cruel bullying throughout your life. Yet having gone through all this, you’ve still managed to force yourself out of your comfort zone. And you haven’t given up despite these bunch of mean girls putting you down. You’ve had the last laugh as they are now banned and hopefully will realise how their bullying behaviour has consequences and they will think twice in future. You are such a strong person to return to the gym. So many, including myself, would have given up at this point. I’m so glad that you reported it and that the gym took it seriously and took positive action. You can workout again, knowing that you don’t have to dread bumping into these girls. Keep going, you can do this xx

GaIadriel · 22/10/2025 01:09

whattodo22222 · 22/10/2025 00:58

I have been training in the gym for over 10 years and have competed in bodybuilding and powerlifting. I respect everyone who shows up to the gym, huge well done to you. Those girls might not even be in the gym next week, please don't let them influence the things you do for yourself. Try to find an independent gym rather than a large chain, they typically have a nicer community feel. All the best with your strength journey 💪

I agree about independent gyms. I've never seen anybody that's serious about lifting laughing at somebody starting out. I've got a deadlift just shy of 3x my bodyweight and I could never imagine ridiculing somebody who's had the grit to get in there and do it.

whattodo22222 · 22/10/2025 00:58

I have been training in the gym for over 10 years and have competed in bodybuilding and powerlifting. I respect everyone who shows up to the gym, huge well done to you. Those girls might not even be in the gym next week, please don't let them influence the things you do for yourself. Try to find an independent gym rather than a large chain, they typically have a nicer community feel. All the best with your strength journey 💪

GaIadriel · 22/10/2025 00:52

CinnamonCrunch33 · 21/10/2025 15:09

Just as an update.

I managed to get in before work. They took down the time of the incident and checked through CCTV, and pinpointed the time. They have left me a voicemail this afternoon to say they managed to track back and find the girls entering, found their membership numbers and they’ve been banned, effective immediately. I’m really pleased!

Nice one! 💪

TicTac80 · 22/10/2025 00:32

So proud of you OP for going and reporting them. How dare they treat someone else like that?! Who do they think they are?! I'm so glad you're going back. You have as much right to be at the gym (and wearing what you want to wear!), as anyone else. I'm glad that the gym took swift action too.

Don't go thinking about your size compared with other gym goers, none of that matters. From my time of using the gym, I saw people of all different ages, shapes and sizes. I bet you're a damned sight stronger and fitter than many. Be proud of yourself, and your achievements and determination :D

Rainbowqueeen · 22/10/2025 00:10

@DBD1975 said it perfectly. Your young self would be so happy and proud to know that you stood up for what is right.

Well done to the gym as well for taking it seriously.

Have a great gym session tomorrow

TicklishMintDuck · 22/10/2025 00:07

You need to speak to the staff at the gym about this if it happens again. Don’t let these kids put you off.

Millertime9 · 22/10/2025 00:01

CinnamonCrunch33 · 20/10/2025 18:43

I am obese. I always have been and potentially always will be. Over the last year or so I’ve lost a lot of weight and finally found some confidence to workout and join a gym.

I’ve always had complicated feelings around working out. I was ridiculed a lot during PE at school, the boys would make horrible snarky remarks and the girls would laugh at me in the changing rooms. I used to get changed in the showers which had curtains between them (like a shower curtain) and the popular girls would press the buttons to turn the shower on so that I would have to come out half dressed, and they’d laugh at me and make cruel comments about my body.

One thing that sticks out to me is I was really unfit at 14/15, but did the cross country anyway. My mum made me go in to do it because she didn’t agree with me skipping it. It was a mix of (slow) jogging and walking for me, but I did it. I remember saying to a friend that I was proud of myself for doing my best. The most popular boy in our year overheard and started mocking me, he made cruel comments about how I’d walked part of the course and how I may as well have not shown up. I didn’t run then for 10 years.

PE teachers used to make remarks about how I wasn’t trying and didn’t put any effort in, how I’d be better off not trying or coming in. As soon as I could stop PE lessons I did.

I was using the squat machine tonight and a couple of younger girls (I’d guess late teens) were watching me and quite loudly laughed and made a comment about how they wouldn’t even bother if they were me, and that they wouldn’t be out in leggings. They kept staring and laughing at me as I moved round my workout and I ended up leaving early to just go home because I couldn’t stand it.

I know I’m mostly being silly but it’s brought back all of those feelings of shame I had from my childhood and I just want to stop working out entirely. It’s made me feel like I don’t belong there, and like I’m being silly to have tried it.

I rarely post on here but I seen this and felt compelled to

Firstly, you are making the effort - thats infinitely better than most people, you've already started so well done

I lost 2.5 stone in the last year and I was self conscious at first too but believe me, it subsides after the first few weeks

You sound like a lovely person please do not be put off by those idiots - it sounds like they aren't destined for a great future if thats how they act
I know im a stranger , but im proud of you

Keep at it, the health and mental benefits are infinitely worth it and you'll thank yourself even just a few months down the line
Keep at it!

MissMoan · 21/10/2025 23:54

First of all, @CinnamonCrunch33 you are amazing. It sounds like you overcame many barriers to make it to the gym, and you should be proud of how strong you are.
What those ugly girls said is absolutely a reflection of them, and I am sorry they made you feel embarrassed.
You are awesome. They are the embarrassment.

Autumnleaffall · 21/10/2025 23:52

Make an appointment with the duty manager and show them your post. They need to revoke the membership of these girls. What you are doing regarding your health is heroic. If they try to fob you off persist. Bring a friend for support. Don’t take this rubbish. Make a difference.

CalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 21/10/2025 22:50

I’m so pleased for you, OP. Well done on getting these truly vile people banned. Everyone starts somewhere. Every visit is progress. Keep at it - you’ve probably inspired someone on here.

Wayk · 21/10/2025 22:42

Well done. These nasty people needed to be brought down a notch. I am delighted for you.

NewPersonHere · 21/10/2025 22:28

I voted yabu because you ought to go back and report them…and you did! Really well done, and hopefully the girls will have learned a lesson. You’ve given Puregym some amazing publicity; I’d join based on their prompt response to what happened!

Snakebiters · 21/10/2025 22:19

Have you heard of this girl OP? She didn't let the bullies win. Hold your head up, go get it. 👊

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LongGinShortTonic · 21/10/2025 22:18

PinkCrab · 21/10/2025 19:40

So pleased you had a positive outcome. Fully recommend the book Stronger by Poorna Bell. It unpicks women’s poor relationship with strength and fitness, starting in school with PE, and how the narrative around women needing to be tiny is damaging our mental and physical health. The stories in the book around finding physical and mental strength as a woman are so inspiring. I think you’d appreciate it ☺️

OP well done and I wish I had your courage.

I did a 40 minute workout session recently which I ended early when three teenagers in the gym giggled at what I was doing and copied me in a sarcastic way and made me feel about a foot tall. It took me ten days to get back in there.

Look at me and you’d say I’m a gym bunny. But I’m really not. I’m still the overweight girl who was crap at PE and hates sports. I get so easily intimidated. My point is, you’re far from alone.

Thank you for the book recommendation, I’ve just ordered it.

You took action. Be proud of that. Go back in with your head held high.

CinnamonBuns67 · 21/10/2025 22:13

I voted YABU because don't let them bloody win. They are small minded and nasty and whilst you can change your weight by keeping at the gym, they'll always be small minded and nasty. Big hugs I know it's hard when your confidence is knocked like that but you can do this.

Alasar · 21/10/2025 22:11

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I second what someone said earlier about looking for a small gym. I'm in one and the support everyone gives each other is fantastic. I've made some great friends there. And I was not one bit sporty as a child or teen.. i was shit at it and never encouraged to do well. Now I have found my people so to speak and I love it. Hope you are OK and best of luck with your journey

Miracle29 · 21/10/2025 22:06

Do not give up op! Those girls are silly little girls that have nothing else better to do. Just bullies! I know comments are hurtful and degrading but your there because you want to be and that on itself is something to be hugely proud of. Get some music in your ears, ignore anything around you and carry on. Do you have a friend to go with for extra confidence. Honestly op just be proud of yourself. Don't give up keep going!

Parr1960 · 21/10/2025 21:57

Get Joey Swoll up on X (twitter) and show his posts to them and also the management at the gym!

Casperroonie · 21/10/2025 21:47

CinnamonCrunch33 · 21/10/2025 15:09

Just as an update.

I managed to get in before work. They took down the time of the incident and checked through CCTV, and pinpointed the time. They have left me a voicemail this afternoon to say they managed to track back and find the girls entering, found their membership numbers and they’ve been banned, effective immediately. I’m really pleased!

You super star!!!!!! Well done!!! Keep at it and all the best.

CharlotteCorderoy · 21/10/2025 21:33

Uniqueheartbee · 21/10/2025 21:30

I have recently started going to the gym - very overweight and very unfit. I actually joined a while before I found the courage to actually go…. The voice in my head tells me that everyone was looking at me and laughing at me bright red on the slow settings but every time those thoughts crept in I counteracted it with ‘but at least I’m here’

I KNOW it’s really hard but use them as motivation. They were cruel and unkind and they are not nice traits to have…. You are putting your health first by going, drown them out and keep going. You’ve got this!

ShesRunningOutTheDoor · 21/10/2025 21:29

Don’t let their rudeness negatively impact your life.
maybe look for a friendly woman’s only gym.

SonK · 21/10/2025 21:28

I hope you report this OP, I definitely would have if I hear any bullying comments from people.

Also, please don't give up - I got called fat when I was wearing leggings as well by silly kids and other remarks on separate occasions.

TattooStan · 21/10/2025 21:23

jalepenowine · 21/10/2025 21:22

Firstly, well done you!! It takes a lot of bravery to go to a gym alone and start to work out! I’m sorry those nasty people made you feel like that! It’s hard not to let it put you off but they are the ones that are shameful and you did nothing to deserve that! I’d definitely report them and maybe try to find a smaller gym. If you can book in with a trainer for a few sessions so you aren’t alone and ease back into it with someone who has your back?

for what it’s worth, I also got laughed at when I last went to the gym, by the person running the fitness class I’d signed up to. I asked for some assistance as everyone was grabbing weights and mats etc and I had no idea what I needed. He asked when I last worked out and I said about a year ago as id had a baby with a very high risk pregnancy so couldn’t do much during that time. He laughed at me and told me to go to the gym a few times before coming to his class as he didn’t think I’d be capable. I wish I could tell you I stayed and proved him wrong but instead I left and cried the whole way home.

I found a new gym and cancelled my membership at that one!

keep your chin up x

What a bastard!