Husband being off with me for getting drunk is unfair - AIBU?

This.

He didn’t cancel your plans for shits and giggles - he had to work. So he was probably looking forward to a day together and was a bit annoyed at you.

It happens.

Well there are endless threads on here with woman having a go at men doing the same thing so it works both ways

Having a hangover is not a necessity. You can have fun and stop drinking before you reach hangover levels. The hangover means you over-indulged.

So yes, I think he is justified in being annoyed. You drank like a teenager that doesn’t know their limits. As long as it’s not a pattern it’s not a big deal, but it’s still not a decision to defend.

Idk… I’d have been fine with this at 25 but now I’m 30 I hate when DH comes home late and has a hangover.

Anyway all he did was be a bit cold to you which may just have been because you were hungover and he naturally found that a bit annoying and pathetic. You’re the one who forced him to say why.

Which to be fair, is how he has been with you.

Really? I had no idea there was a cut-off age. I wish somebody had told me!

He's being unreasonable. However, this is MN, where anything other than a thimble of sherry once a year, means you are a raging alcoholic.

Once in a blue moon is fine.

Maybe he's just disappointed at your cancelled plans and missing out - not that it's right that he takes that out on you in the least.

Given you are so gracious in regularly (it sounds like) accepting cancelled nights, I think he is BU to be annoyed that in spite of being cancelled on, you had a good night.

In his shoes, I think it’d be an opportunity to treat my partner to some TLC and take care of them. I can’t imagine ever being mad at my DP for a once in a blue moon hangover.

He’s the unreasonable one here IMO. Sometimes nights out just go that way. It sounds like you had fun and haven’t kaiboshed any other commitments or responsibilities. Its not like you do it every weekend.
Do you think he’s jealous? My XH was an arse about a lot of things but a hangover, he’d get me a blanket on the sofa and order a pizza.

Unless you have form for getting horribly drunk and he has reason to be concerned about your drinking, he is being unreasonable.

I think he needs to be reminded that he thinks its ok for you to be left in the lurch with no plans when he's called into work on weekends, you making the best of it with a rare night out with one too many drinks should not be an issue.

Can you ask him where he’s coming from?

I think he’s BVU but I know I’d be in the minority.

I thinks it’s absolutely fine to have a late night out on the piss and then feel sorry for yourself with a duvet day the next day, as long as it’s not regular and you haven’t got important plans.

But my the numerous threads on here about DHs going out on the piss, it’s apparently completely unacceptable to get too drunk and you must be up at the crack of dawn on Sunday and full of beans.

I think your DH maybe a MNer.

I’d be kind of miffed if my husband was being off with me. Sure, as one gets older, you tend to grow out of that, but as an occasional hair letting down, why shouldn’t you? - it’s not as if it sounds like it impacted on plans you had together the following day, and it’s not as if you came in loudly crashing around, so I find it rather controlling to be off. How would you be if the roles were reversed? As if my husband had been out and got really drunk with friends and as a result was feeling delicate the next day - it would be such a very rare occurrence I would be feeling glad he had a fun night out and would sympathetic to his hangover and probably offer him a bacon sandwich or something, not be off with him. To say nothing of the fact you were unexpectedly at a lose end on the Saturday night because of HIS job.

You’ve done nothing wrong op, he’s been an arse. You let your hair down, had a great night which required a recovery day. When I have those nights my DH goes out and fetches me Maccy D breakfast then spends the day checking in on me bring me headache tablets and coffee as I need it!
And importantly I do the same for him when he’s had a night out with his mates. We both understand that an occasional blowout night with our respective friends will require top notch husband/wife care the next day from the non hungover partner!

You weren’t unreasonable to go out and have fun.

He wasn’t unreasonable to be disappointed that Sunday became a write off because of the hangover

I think people benefit from a bit of a blow out occasionally!

Sounds like it’s an extremely rare occurrence for you, and that nothing you did really affected anyone else, save meaning you didn’t do much on the Sunday. As not doing much on the Sunday was the original plan then it sounds fine!

If I were your DH, I’d just be glad my work hadn’t ruined your night.

I think when you're heading towards 30 it's time to grow out of getting totally wasted. But it really was a one off by the sounds of it.

YANBU OP. Is he jealous that he didn't get to go out?
If you're generally understanding of his job and end up with plans cancelled, I don't think you've done anything wrong by making alternative plans last minute. Why should you sit at home?
Plus, we all get carried away every now and then, you drank a lot, had fun and it sounds well deserved.
He sounds bitter