I want a sleep divorce

You are one to.watch 😀

Yeah I am just letting it all hang out today 😆 Probably need to get off MN before I go on a no-holds-barred midlife rage rampage against everyone’s inconsiderate partners and intrusive in-laws and irritating children and stubborn elderly parents.

No one is safe from my ire.

Say what you feel i don't think you should hold back 😂

We have had separate bedrooms for 10 years, are extremely happily married and still have plenty of sex. My advice, apart from JFDI, is make sure you take time to speak in the morning and evening as you don't get that pillow talk time.

We both sleep well but if we don't it doesn't affect the other. I love my huge bed, my en suite, my peace and quiet and it was the best thing we ever did.

I never want to share a bed again.

Can you fit two single beds in your room pushed together? Id do that and have two duvets.
Sleep mask that plays white noise and foam earplugs are well worth it. Im super light sleeper and these have made such a difference

No sleep is actual torture. Move into another room.

What is it about fucking men and their insistence that the basic rules of biology don’t apply to them because they know better?

‘Actually, I think you’ll find that drinking liquid does not result in needing a pee. That’s misinformation - don’t believe everything you see on TikTok my dear.’

Separate beds! Separate rooms! Who cares about his hurt little feelings, the fidgety mansplaining bellend.

Seperate rooms is the way forward.

DH snores, figets and gets up multiple times a night which was driving me nuts - he'd get up (trying to be quiet but still putting light on in ensuite/flushing loo) and then get back into bed and start snoring immedietly while I lay there feeling murderous.

I know he doesn't do it on purpose but his lack on doing very miuch about it (curbing tead drinking/finding snoring solutions) makes me feel like how it effects me is not important to him.

To save my sanity I more often than not sleep in the spare room, its a silent sanctuary - DD is moving in for a month in December so my space will be gone and I am actually dreading it.

We did this very early on in the marriage. We both appreciate a good night's sleep with no disturbances. We still share a bed on holidays and it will involve

• ear plugs for me
• a very large glass of wine for me before bed
• nasal spray for him
• me kicking him multiple times in the middle of the night if I'm woken up by him😬

Bless him, he sleeps in the spare bedroom at home. We've bought a double so he can roll about in the bed but he's back to sleeping in the single bed as - less sheets to wash and iron😂

Separate rooms saved my sanity and my marriage. Just bite the bullet and tell him that for your own health you need a good nights sleep. Hid behaviour is extremely selfish.

Me and my DH have seperate rooms because we both snore, he stays up at least an hour longer than I do and I get up at least an hour earlier than him, plus I’m usually up at least once a night for the loo. I’m often up, dressed and out of the house before he even wakes up so separate rooms work really well for us and no divorce in sight.

Your DH has to be more considerate OP, or if you have a spare room, just go in there one night and see what he says or does.

Another one in separate bedrooms for at least 5 years, we are much happier that way. In our case DH is a very light sleeper and was getting disturbed every time I moved, he was getting too hot even with separate duvets (which we have always had), and I have always had to get up much earlier than him for work. This way means I don't have to try to shower in silence and get dressed in the dark! If we stay elsewhere we prefer twin beds, or a king size or bigger, we just can't sleep in a standard double. And yes, we still have sex, cuddle, chat etc, just retire to our own spaces to sleep.

😂 do you find your dog moves around the household during the night? Ours spends an hour with someone then rotates to the next to the next to the next. I’ve never known if it’s normal doggy behaviour or not

Separate bedrooms. It absolutely doesn’t mean the end of a marriage. Didn’t for my grandparents.

If you continue sharing a bed I think a divorce is guaranteed. He sounds like an absolute pain in the arse at night.

without telling him, switch to decaf 😉

Ooh @Sleepingcreulty you get a new bedroom. A new bed or at least a mattress, soft lighting, cuddly blankets, pretty curtains, a shelf for your books.

If he asks why, you just say “you give me problems when sleeping together. You did nothing about it so I did”.

Where does you need for sleep figure in your thought processes? Put yourself first - your health is the most important thing. If his fee-fees are hurt then you’ve got your answer on what he reallly thinks if you and his he views your place in the marriage

I wish I had the room to do this, he drives me insane

We have changed the mattress so I can't feel him move. I bought a bigger duvet than the bed. I wear ear plugs and I bought motion censored lights for the en suite cause it was on my side and he insists on putting the light on, I've now switched sides cause I very rarely need to go during the night. It has helped and I do sleep much better. The ear plugs BTW have been a game changer, I can't hear him breath, snore, cough, fart, anything, in fact, I have shit myself a few times because I have not heard him getting out of bed and then he has come in the bedroom to wake me up and scared the crap out of me 😂

Your husband need to understand caffeine is a stimulant so will make him go more during the night.

OP, don't believe the nonsense you've heard about separate beds/rooms being the first step to divorce. I would have divorced my DH over his snoring if we didn't have separate rooms. Instead, we both get the rest we need and are free to kick covers off, snore and go to the loo whenever we like without waking the other person up. He's happier and doesn't feel guilty all the time that I'm constantly knackered because of him, I'm just pleased that I can relax and go to sleep without constantly being on edge, waiting for the noise to start.

Tbf i need a light to go to the toilet my night vision awful, although I did use my phone torch so not snapping lights on.

He doesnt need the light on to go to the toilet surely? Its not hard to walk to the bathroom in the dark. Sounds like while some isnt intentional some of his behaviour is. I would definitely get your own bed.

Well for me, another benefit to the husband on the sofa is not the dog coming to join me, but rather that she is happier downstairs with his company for longer, so I also get a little bit of a lie in to the usual 6/6:30 wake up call from the dog! 😀

Start with separate duvets?

A few years ago my husband had a frozen shoulder and was struggling to sleep comfortably with both of us in the bed. I decided to go into the spare bed, our daughter has left home so I’m in her old King size. It’s absolute bliss, my hubby is also a wriggle bum and snores (worse since getting older).

if we fancy sexy time or a cuddle and chat we’ll start off together,then I go to the other bed, before anyone says why doesn’t he go it’s a sleigh bed and he’s too long for it.

We are still very close, he comes in to give me a kiss before going to work. We get a good nights sleep which is great, no grumpiness due to crappy sleep, I absolutely love it and highly recommend it 😝