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Early 20s with walking stick

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emilyinlondonx · 20/10/2025 09:10

I’m in my early 20s and have been diagnosed with degenerative disc disease. I do get PIP, and on my bad days the pain and fatigue can be really difficult to manage.
I’ve been thinking about getting a walking stick to help me on those tougher days, especially when standing or walking for long periods, but I feel quite anxious about it. I’ve seen some unkind posts online about young people using mobility aids, and I can’t help worrying that people might judge me or think I’m exaggerating.
My partner keeps reminding me that I should do whatever makes life easier and more manageable, and I know he’s right, I just wish I could switch off that little voice that worries about what others will think.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation- young and using a walking aid, or feeling self-conscious about it? How did you get past that worry? Any tips or experiences would really help me.
Thank you 💛

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Echobelly · 20/10/2025 09:17

I think understanding is rapidly increasing and its great that more people are feeling able to use mobility aids rather than suffering in silence or not going out and about. Please do get a stick if you need it, may also help people to see that you need a seat as well.

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emilyinlondonx · 20/10/2025 09:16

tripleginandtonic · 20/10/2025 09:15

You either need one or you don't.

Thanks I do understand that. I suppose I meant more that I do need one on bad days, but I’m just struggling a bit with the confidence side of things. Usually on my bad days I cannot leave the house so it would actually allow me to have a life. I'm not posting regarding whether I need it, but more about coming to terms with using one when I’m still quite young and worrying what people might think.

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midgetastic · 20/10/2025 09:16

emilyinlondonx · 20/10/2025 09:14

I also want to add that I wear my disability ID on a lanyard and I also wear an offer me a seat badge when using public transport but people still look at me funny and it is VERY rare I am offered a seat. Sometimes I end up sitting on the floor of the bus/ train. I believe this is because I look young and I don't 'look disabled' so that is increasing my anxiety.

Tell them you feel sick - seats will clear magically

tripleginandtonic · 20/10/2025 09:15

You either need one or you don't.

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emilyinlondonx · 20/10/2025 09:14

I also want to add that I wear my disability ID on a lanyard and I also wear an offer me a seat badge when using public transport but people still look at me funny and it is VERY rare I am offered a seat. Sometimes I end up sitting on the floor of the bus/ train. I believe this is because I look young and I don't 'look disabled' so that is increasing my anxiety.

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Lennonjingles · 20/10/2025 09:14

I would never judge anyone who needs any type of aid, please don’t be put off using whatever you need to help you day to day.

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