To think I have to move from sheer embarrassment?

I am in a position to help you out here OP - luckily I have £73.80 and am in a position to buy your house. No chain.

I can probably raise it to £73.98 if you want.

I think he’s made more of it than he should have done. A simple no thank you, I’m good would have done.

I think it's totally a reasonable thing to do, don't worry about it.

Don't be embarrased he's just full of himself. I'm glad you laughed 😅. I would say I bet he's cringing but he's probably not

😂😂😂 this is your only option

You are over thinking this. I dont see this as any different to my offering my gas engineer/plumber a coke or coffee when he arrives or finishes a job. I always offer and he always refuses. He is self employed so probably wants to get on with the next job on his list. No harm done and no one is offended.

The irony in this post is hilarious.

I'll add that I'm from a working class background, so maybe that's why I have a different view from some Mumsnetters?

Has life changed a lot?

When I was a child in the '60s, my dad used to help an elderly neighbour with her garden and sometimes the 'spinster' next door. No one thought anything of it.

It was the elderly neighbour, apparently, who came to the rescue when my mum went into labour with me and another female neighbour used to do my hair for me when Mum was in hospital some years later and I was back home with Dad for the weekend. (Dad was on shift work, so I stayed with an aunt and uncle during the week.)

I've given elderly neighbours lifts to hospitals and - when I still had my old camper van - shifted some rubbish for a neighbour: her son loaded the van and we both unloaded at the tip.

He mentioned the girlfriend because he wanted out of there. He probably thought it was more polite than just saying 'bloody hell, do I have to?'.

GF probably isn't pleased he had to go help a female neighbour in the first place. This is one reason I'm glad not to be a man, they're always having to do these sorts of "favours", they must dread that knock on the door! You do seem quite forward and have more than once given men the wrong impression...

I don't think OP was referring to a rather rotund gym goer. She had assessed him as looking like a regular gym goer, ie fit and toned. When ever someone says he's not my type whilst listing physical attributes I am always dubious.

I would be interested to know whether or not there is a dp in this scenario, at the moment it all sounds rather 'readers wives'.

I agree. In better days, if my dad or my husband got help from a neighbour - or vice versa - there was often a ritual offer of a beer afterwards.

The male gym goers that I have encountered have all been rather rotund. I'm there trying to get fit myself, but I promise you that they're in much worse condition than I am.

The bloke who checked out my wedding ring had told me that he was was there to lose weight. When I told him that I was there for the same reason he looked me up and down and said 'Where's the weight?'

Stupidly, I replied that my tunic top was hiding my spare tyre. Yes, I do replay embarrassing encounters in my head. (I have a formal diagnosis of OCD. It's been suggested by a medic that I'm also on the spectrum. I guess that would explain the social awkwardness.)

If there's an afterlife, my DH will be calling me a stupid bugger.

I'm a 65 yr old widow.

I became a recluse when my husband died during lockdown and I'm now trying to force myself to be more sociable - or trying to, anyway. I go to the gym for various classes most days.

I have now come to the conclusion that I'm going to stick to chatting to women from the classes and maybe the younger parents who sit in the cafe with their children. I've never had any embarrassment speaking to a younger man. Some of the older men seem to think that it's a come on - and I swear that I'm not chatting any differently to them.

I'm no oil painting, but some of them are in even worse condition than I am. I shall not elaborate for fear of coming across as an utterly horrible person.

The most embarrassing one was the bloke who took my hands to show me a keep-fit manoeuvre. (Not that unusual at the gym. The young lads in particular are very kind at helping me to use the equipment.) He then got me to turn my hands over and I realised that he was checking for a ring (which I still wear). He then made a comment about telling my husband to get my tea ready for me.

You had to be there - he was definitely expressing disapproval of my wanton behaviour. I just sort of said something along the lines of 'Ha...Yes...' and left it at that. I was worried that if I said 'No...I'm a widow...' he'd think I was definitely after him.

I actually avoid going in on a Saturday now, because that's when he goes swimming, so I just use that as a rest day.

There was I thinking that I was getting better at speaking to people again. Hey ho.

I had a load of wood delivered once.
I helped stack it - it was something I’d always done, be helpful, be kind, like my father taught me.
My husband was out at sea.
I offered the wood guy a beer - he declined.
I didn’t think twice about it.
So husband gets home & retires from Navy & immediately moves 2 states away because that’s where the airlines are hiring.
Husband wastes no time hooking up with FA, has baby, I’m humiliated in court.
Wood delivery guy turns into 3 year stalker, ends up in prison due to death threats against my family & me.
I end up thinking people are horrible.
I don’t think that any more.
I just think that I’m an asshole magnet. lol

Whenever someone says. He's attractive, a gym goer, but not my type....I think oh right sure.

Is also a good dad, a Tesla driver and a phenomenal lover?

Perhaps you should have just offered him a cuppa. What could be more unsexy than that?!😁
He's the one who should be embarrassed for assuming giving him a beer meant you wanted to give him something else - daft twonk.

You have nothing to feel embarrassed about, hopefully he's at home cringing though.

I wouldn’t worry any more. You asked for help. Help was given and in return you said thanks and offered a beer. A big fuss over nothing. Don’t give it another thought

I think it's really forward to ask him to move your stuff tbh

The beer offer was creepy

Because, generally speaking, the majority of men are naturally stronger

Imagine a woman posted here saying ‘my boyfriend had a beer round a female neighbours house just her and him. We don’t know her well at all’. People on here would be saying the man is in the wrong.

Because furniture is heavy and men are strong. It’s not that complicated.

I wouldn't worry about it too long, his GF will be on high alert now. 😅