To think I have to move from sheer embarrassment?

Seriously? I find this completely bizarre.

My DP offers the bin men a bottle of Prosecco on Boxing Day. Does that signify that he is trying to have sex with them?

My sofa weighs a ton and I definitely can't move by myself.

Sounds fairly normal to me. It is in no way flirty, Its offering a drink. I would of assumed he must have a drink problem or something. It would never occur to me that someone could think it was anything other than a drink. Weird.

Offering a fiver is absolutely golden.

I bet she tapes 50p to children's birthday cards and tells the child to not spend it all in one place.

Don't sweat it, OP. He made it weird, you just offered a beer.

I am intrigued as to what kind of sofa needs a man to move it? Don't most just push over the floor?

A massive fridge freezer...yep, can see help being required.
Sofa...nope...struggling....

imho it was a cute, friendly offer. I’m quite sure you’d have offered the same to a woman who’d lent a hand, you sound like a nice neighbour.

he didn’t need to lay it on thick with the “I’m not single” thing — if he felt uncomfortable he could have just said ah no I’m ok but thanks.

id not be happy with the situation afterwards either, but don’t worry, embarrassment fades. If you remain consistently nice and friendly to your neighbours they’ll get the message that you’re nice and friendly! (Saying that, I can be a bit innocent/ naive with come ons/innuendo/ sex stuff, I’d have expected to watch a Netflix horror movie in your other scenario!)

You were being nice, he had to go and came out with a lame excuse. He should be more embarrassed than you!

Dh did a professional favour yesterday for male neighbour who offered him a bottle of wine no one involved thought it was a come on!

My cousin, aged 65 got rid of some scratches on my DM's car. She is his Aunt who he lives next door to. She asked him how much and he said £5, so she gave him £5.

Offering £5 would be more bizarre to me 😂 thanks for the help, go buy yourself some sweeties

I wouldn't give it much thought tbh! Nothing to be ashamed of, you've asked for help and he helped you, you were just being polite trying to return a favor and he declined. Even if he saw that in a flirty way (which I don't think you implied), it's on him, not on you. You were simply being nice and you know that. This is what's important here.

Then you just say "Thanks, very kind but I have plans later." Mentioning the girlfriend implies he thought it was a come on. Awkward of him.

Maybe his girlfriend doesn't like him drinking for whatever reason? Maybe he was supposed to be driving later?

Or maybe he was just making his excuses to leave as has things he wants to get on with at home, or just wants to relax at home and not made to stay at yours any longer than he has to.

I wouldn't immediately jump to the conclusion that he thinks you're trying to come onto him.

Yes, this. Quite reasonable to offer him.a beer. Assuming you hadn't quickly nipped upstairs to put something on from Ann Summers first 😅. He is the socially awkward one, not you.

What a weird man , I don’t think you were out of order offering him a beer at all , you didn’t offer him it naked from the fridge 🙈🤣

What a strange, subtly angry reply. Testing the waters get a grip.

His mumsnet gf is composing an aibu about the cf neighbour who had the cheek ti najebthrm open their front door.

His reaction is def the weirdest bit to all this. Bit presumptive of him to think yoh were coming onto him, nothing wrong with youbeing nice and offering something as a thank you, you could have just left it as a verbal but guessing you were just being kind and a beer is the first thing that popped into your head which is fair enough (sweets or food or money is weird?!) but thinking about it as someone else said I guess it would have been a bit awkward both sat there drinking with a neighbour you dont know!

Omg I’m reliving my shame of when I asked a work colleague if he wanted to watch something on Netflix with me (we were away on a work training thing with lots of people) and he said that his fiancée wouldn’t like it. I was married. I was mortified that he’d think I was trying it on. God
You'll have to move dear. Get it done. I quit my job and moved countries. Worked.

This thread is nuts today. He helped her move something heavy and the OP offered him a cold drink. Don't many people pop into their neighbours homes to help or have a chat and get offered a coffee, cold drink or a beer? This is completely normal behaviour. If his girlfriend is uncomfortable with him having a cold drink after helping a neighbour then he's in a controlling relationship. OP don't even think about it twice. I think I would have burst out laughing uncontrollably if he'd implied that I was coming on to him.

Ha I was asked to go help my neighbour with a fence yesterday. Also got a bottle of Prosecco for it. What a pervert

£5 🤣 that’s insulting. Chocs yes and also a beer isn’t weird at all. He made it weird!

So you had no one else in the world to help you with a sofa other than the attractive gym man next door?

Hmmmm….

Also you just happened to be chilling some beer too. Deciding not to offer a Diet Coke or a coffee for example in the middle of the day.

I assume this must vary massively depending on area? Offering a beer is totally normal where i live!
My other half will regularly help people move things, do odd jobs etc, he gets offered/given all sorts. You name it we've had it 😂
I wouldn't be embarrassed OP, what a wierd thing for him to say! If he said that to me I'd assume he had an odd controlling partner who may be listening through the wall 😂

I think you found him attractive, as you have said, he became alert to that and put you on notice. You are embarrassed because he turned you down, and he isn’t interested. It strings, the rejection.

Moving a sofa really didn’t require extending the favour into an evening drinking beer. Testing the waters spring to my mind reading uour post.