To think I have to move from sheer embarrassment?

@Wowwowweewa - i think offering him a beer was fine. I think he simply recognised that his GF might not be wild about him sitting drinking beer with his neighbour without her there so he said no. No need for embarassment.

Yea hes the one who should be embarrassed.

It's a very British thing to do. Move heavy stuff/decorate/put up flat pack, offer a beer to say cheers my guy, as long as its not like 2pm on a weekday.

Cringing for him

Sorry, just to be clear, you think because she's had sex with at least one man she wants to have sex with all men?

It was a beer, not a blow job!

No need to be embarrassed at all - he’s the one who responded as though you fancy him and should feel embarrassed for jumping to that conclusion.

Exactly. He was the one who said the embarrassingly presumptuous thing.

Does he answer to the name “Shaggy”?

If so OP, stay out of the bathroom when he’s around. And definitely don’t give his girlfriend a spare key.

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Oh I had a neighbour like this. Gym goer, prison officer, generally pleasant but thought alot of himself. When his girlfriend moved out during covid he came sniffing round (much older /not gym bunny) me. Ugh.

Now that would be embarrassing! £5, I can only guess you're joking?

He’s the one that should be embarrassed not you! All he had to do was say no thank you and go.

@Owly11

I bet he doesn't offer to sit and drink it with them though does he? That's not the same thing at all.

I don't see the problem at all if he did. A man and a woman can have an alcoholic drink without ripping one another's clothes off.

Also "my girlfriend wouldn't like it" sounds so pathetically wet. Either the girlfriend is a swivel eyed control freak who doesn't like him talking to women or he's just really pathetic.

If he found it awkward to sit around and drink he could have said had to get back but saying "my mummy wouldn't like it, I'd better run home now" is just contemptible.

I think he's the one who should be embarrassed, not you.

Ah the old if the roles were reversed chestnut 🤣I would hope that in this specific context most posters would tell her to stop being paranoid and controlling.

Are you single?
Are you around the same age?

I do think it’s a tiny bit weird to offer someone a beer in this situation. Was it to be drunk together in the moment or one for his pocket to take home?

In this scenario I would have thanked effusively at the time and then maybe left a bottle of wine by his door to say thanks at some point later (depending on the level of effort he had to make to help you).

His reference to the gf is also weird but he was prob just embarrassed in the moment.

I think his assumption you were trying to come on to him is more embarrassing. He could have just said 'no, thanks for the offer' and left.

Totally agree and actually funniness of the thread aside I think it's pretty depressing how many women can't imagine a woman and man having a beer together without it meaning something more. I honestly think it's quite pathetic his girlfriend would have a problem with it.

Oh God - this is an education for me, like 90% of MN!

So that’s seen as a come on? Wow. I must’ve put my foot in it frequently in the past. My only comment is - there is certainly a type of bloke (gym-obsessed, as here) who tends to think he’s God’s Gift and possibly thinks everyone’s after him.

And also…so what if someone is attached? Can they not have a beer with another human being? Blimey - how quaint!😳

Well obviously if he did it would mean he wanted a quick shag in between the bins being collected

Jesus Christ there are some paranoid as fuck posters on this thread.

Don't feel stupid. Why are relationships for infantile these days? Two humans can have a conversation, they can even give one another a beer. Not being allowed to do things is weird. He sounds pathetic, my girlfriend wouldnt like it, who does he think he is. I think you have to follow this up by telling him you want to make sure he knows, you didn't have any agenda and dont find him in any way attractive. What a pathetic little man. I cant imagine being in a relationship like his. The weirdo who suggested giving him a fiver is clearly joking but why not give him a pound coin and say its for an ice cream, it sounds about his level 😀

Mad thought, maybe OP drinks beer?

Fancies himself a bit doesn’t he?? I don’t think you’re the one who should be cringing here OP. I also don’t see what’s so hilarious about bunging him a fiver - how long did it take to move the sofa - 30 seconds? It’s just a gesture, not the bloody going rate.

hahaha! I cackling at the suggestion of giving him £5 - 🤣😂

OP- let this go, honestly. It's really no big deal at all and actually if you act embarrassed after this it really will look weird. You did nothing wrong.

It's very normal to offer your neighbour a drink I they have helped you.

Posters who think this is flirtatious - are you in a Jane Austen novel? Shame she didn't have an older relative there to chaperone!

Men are physically stronger, no matter what year we are in. Just a fact.

You don't have anything to be embarrassed about. By the sound of it he thought you meant drink it in your house with you, whereas you meant him to take it home. I'd have made it clear I made the latter after his response. Also, if his girlfriend has a problem with him returning home with a can of beer from you, then she is controlling and weird.

I bet he doesn't offer to sit and drink it with them though does he? That's not the same thing at all.