Blindsided at breakfast!

“did not appreciate being 'policed' and shut down like that”

I would make sure to say this to her and to your friends. She obviously doesn’t like you but she should apologise for losing her cool. We all deserve basic respect.

This. The person that had a go had had enough!

Unless she regularly over-reacts (i.e. you assess her personality in a dispassionate way), you had pushed her to this point and that is not her fault.

I have a close friend whom I adore but she is terrible at interrupting and talking over people in the most opinionated way and it gets old really fast if you are trying to have a nice day.

Yes agree with this 👆

There's different kinds of interruptions though, a small 'Oh really, gosh that's sad' when someone is taking is fine, it allows them to continue on afterwards. A longer 'Oh that's so sad, it's exactly like Janet and Bill who had similar issues actually, do you know what they ended up doing, it was quite controversial in the end...' is actually someone hijacking the conversation and moving it onto a new topic before the first person has finished. What kind of interruption did you make?

If you feel like people talk over you all the time and don't listen, is it because you are a chronic interrupter and they have to talk over you to get to the end of their point?

Regardless N shouldn't have snapped, so for that she's unreasonable. She should have just rolled her eyes and moaned about you behind your back later.

I’m sorry but just because someone is quiet and struggles to say something doesn’t mean it is then acceptable for them to interrupt and talk over someone. It’s rude. And we can’t say well poor thing struggles so it’s ok she interrupted and talked over her friend like what she was saying was irrelevant.

and so yes, sometimes someone needs to point out it’s rude.

Stop meeting with toxic people who want to discuss other people's relationships in front of children. Children have good hearing and it'll be bad for everyone involved.

People seems really keen to slam OP because she interrupted in a casual conversation!

I actually don't think people are slamming her (I'm not). Most people are saying that N went about correcting her the wrong way. But she doesn't seem to understand that what she did was rude and keeps trying to excuse it because her friend said it was OK (of course she did, she didn't want to be rude or unkind herself) and people are just pointing that out.

I would be more cautious of F than N, tbh. If she's happy to gossip about a friend's failing marriage in a public place then you just know she's gossiping about you behind your back when you are not there. Chances are she and N have had negative conversations about you and N saw it as a chance to stick up for her friend when you kept interrupting. Her stern response (because it sounds more stern than aggressive) may have been fuelled by F previously complaining about you.

In fact, don't be surprised if F is stirring the awkward dynamic that exists between you and N. It probably suits her that the two of you don't get on so she can gossip with both of you about the other one. I bet if you and N were in a room alone together without her you'd get on better than you think you do.

Be very wary of slagging off N to F, because I'd put money on it being fed back to her.

I haven't read the whole thread, but I am surprised at the reactions to OP.

When you are a quiet person used to be spoken over in group situations it can create situations where like OP, you actually do want to say something and when you try to, you feel you have to be more persistent because loud people just talk over you.

If there was an element of social faux pas, it could have been handled in a gentle friendly way with a smile. Then OP, in an equally casual and friendly way, might have apologised and the conversation continues.

People seems really keen to slam OP because she interrupted in a casual conversation! Like that doesn't happen often in the course of conversation with friends!

Sorry this happened OP. Maybe just be brief with this person when you see her and focus on your other friends. She sounds unpleasant, if what she said was delivered in a sharp way when it wasn't necessary.

I've done a lot of work on myself

and there is a lot more to be done

3 unpleasant people having breakfast together 🤷‍♀️

I als think you were being very rude, I abhorr it when someone interrupts someone talking and talks over them. And the fact f tried to make you feel better about it doesn’t mean it wasn’t rude. I also find your overreaction, shaking feeling sick concerning. I understand you’ve issues but cmon, you were being rude,

It sounds like you don't like this person so don't speak to them unless you have to.

But why did you interrupt, and when told to let the other person finish you carried on? That's not normal conversation.

You sound like you're extremely sensitive and I can't help but think the other woman wasn't as aggressive as you're making out.

This describes half of people these days. It’s worse post covid.

The interrupting thing is more complex than “don’t interrupt “. Some people love the sound of their own voices and barely pause for breath between sentences so there are few natural breaks in the conversation. I tend to avoid these people but interrupting them is the only way to have a conversation and not just listen to a monologue

"I did apologise to F if I was interrupting her. She insisted that I wasn't."

"The key word would be 'if' here. If, I was interrupting her. IF, she experienced it as such. Which she said she didn't."

See, here’s the thing. OP. I can have a bit of a bad habit of interrupting sometimes, related to my ADHD (not an excuse, but an explanation). It's something I really don't like about myself and try to work on.

Whenever I catch myself doing it, as soon as I realise I’ve done it, I say something like “I’m really sorry - I interrupted you. Please, carry on”. Or words to that effect. And then I STOP TALKING.

I don’t interrupt then talk over the person, or continue to interject my point, or say “I’m sorry IF I interrupted you”. That’s a non-apology on a par with “I’m sorry you feel that way”. The only possible response F could have given at that point while remaining polite herself was “no no, you’re fine”, which is why you think she didn't mind. She was hardly going to say “Well yeah, you did, and it was bloody rude”, was she? That would have inflamed the situation even more.

You interrupted, then by your own admission continued to make your point even when it was obvious that you’d done that, and that’s incredibly rude. So N pulled you up on it, and rightly so. Maybe she didn't go about it in the most polite way, but I can absolutely understand her frustration.

Sounds very dramatic. And also that you use English incorrectly to try to sound important (incorrect use of “myself” and “mine”). Maybe it carries across to your speaking style and winds people up?

I've done a lot of work on myself and did not appreciate being 'policed' and shut down like that when talking to a close friend.

But you weren't talking to a close friend.

You were interrupting two close(?) friends talking.

I interrupt a lot. I’m ND and my brain just falls over itself with all the thoughts in my head, I literally cannot wait to get it all said. But, I know I do it. I really try to stop myself. If someone calls me out on it, I apologise. I don’t agonise about it afterwards.

You interrupted, and kept on persisting. Your friend probably told you she didn’t mind, simply to make you feel better. She probably also thanked N afterwards, to make her feel better.

You are overreacting. You are right that this is your issue with feeling slighted, not hers. It is perfectly reasonable to ask someone not to interrupt to interject their own opinion when someone else is speaking, especially if it is to contradict the speaker. Wait your turn. And try to stop being so defensive.

Not done enough work if you react like this. Total non event.

This. Why did you feel you had to keep forcing your point in when someone else was talking? I think this is what I'm struggling to understand; why you were surprised that N did that when this is what you were doing? To me it's pretty obvious - because doing that is really rude.

Sometimes you have to spend time with people you don't like and/or who dont like you. I wouldn't choose to, just when it is put upon you. (Breakfast is a choice).
I wouldn't choose to give them ammunition either. No chat about other people's marriages etc.

I am a quiet listener around people I dislike. That way, when I do speak, people listen.

I mean N probably thought that you were being really rude to F & felt that she had to speak up for her.

Agree. Dead god if you’re “shaken” and feeling sick at someone telling you not to butt in you must’ve had an extremely sheltered life. Get a grip. Or maybe don’t hang around with them going forward as it seems best for both.