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To ask if you love your house and could imagine staying forever

143 replies

valianttortoise · 19/10/2025 20:55

Or if various bits of it endlessly stress you out and you want to escape one day

And is this what you expected when you moved in?

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Attempt333 · 19/10/2025 22:07

Yes. I love my home, the village. We have the school in the area for ds to join when he is old enough and I want this house to be a lovely childhood home. Loads of work went into it and it has some unique features. I suppose we might move in the future when we are much older and DS has moved out.

Odiebay · 19/10/2025 22:05

Yeah i love my house. We struck gold with the village we are in. House is a good size plot,garden and drive. We are actually extending next year to then have my dream house. I will be staying here to raise my children and would only move to be closer to the sea in later life.

JaceLancs · 19/10/2025 21:59

Been here 36 years and will probably still be here until I die or go into nursing home
Quiet rural village but with enough amenities
Dormer bungalow with one bedroom and bathroom downstairs and 2 beds up plus second bathroom so fairly future proof
I would need to get a gardener though or make it easier to look after as struggle with it now

mondaytosunday · 19/10/2025 21:58

Yes I do and no I don’t imagine staying here forever. The house doesn’t stress me other than I’m never on top of the housework (as I’m loathe to do any). But actually I really like the layout. Only thing I’d change is more storage! But I see myself living closer in to central London eventually.

MissAmbrosia · 19/10/2025 21:57

I love love love the apartment we are currently living in - 2 bed, 2 bath, utility room, 5th floor with a terrace overlooking the trees. It was quite painful though when we had a week when the lift was broken. Lovely surburb with shops, restos, cinema, doctor, dentist etc. Our landlady is selling up though so not sure if we can stay long term. We want to buy somewhere but can't decide where. Always thought we'd go back to UK for retirement, but it does all sound a bit pants at the moment.

DiscoBeat · 19/10/2025 21:55

We're definitely in our forever home now. Possibly could downsize in the future but would more likely reconfigure the house to make it more suitable as oldies

Pharazon · 19/10/2025 21:53

Yep. Rented and moved around for a bit after uni and then bought a cottage in our family village when we were 30. No mortgage and no need to move anywhere else. Lots of niggles, but that’s par for the course for any 200 year old building and it’s all we’ve ever known really.

ShodAndShadySenators · 19/10/2025 21:49

Love ours but would love it far more if I could get the work done on it that it needs. It's been owned by a terrible DIY bodger and needs things putting right. It's been suggested that we sell it as there's so much needing doing, but we love the location - near the centre of the village, a minute from the shops, dr clinic, library, bus routes to town, loads of lovely restaurants. Plenty of great walks nearby, our neighbours are all lovely, crime seems very low. Wouldn't want to move.

Besides, who'd buy a doer-upper now? Nobody with any sense. I wanted to extend and refurbish ten years ago and the money was used to pay off a huge chunk of the mortgage. Now building work costs twice as much <cries>

RandomUsernameHere · 19/10/2025 21:46

Absolutely love it and yes, we bought it as a long term home. Extended and renovated it so it’s exactly what we want. We’ve moved around quite a lot before this so it’s nice to be settled.

CatHairEveryWhereNow · 19/10/2025 21:46

Yes but we won't be work will move us on when kids are gone.

Kind of worried TBH as house is really well laid out and location has many positives - only a few negatives- not sure we'll find something as good next time - first house we bought was terrible money pit and terrible neighbours.

WannaFOffOnHoliday · 19/10/2025 21:45

I hate this house. This town. The people.
Everything

Ultravox · 19/10/2025 21:44

We made a few compromises when we moved to our current house…it’s on a main road, doesn’t have a great view and the back garden loses the sun quite early. But it’s in a brilliant location; close to amenities in a lovely town, on the edge of the country and a short train journey to a decent city, and it has a really flexible layout which works for us now with teenage kids and will work for us when we’re old.
I don’t adore it but I’m certainly happy living here so I don’t think we’ll move for a long time unless we need to downsize to free up money or can’t manage on our own any more.

MrsSkylerWhite · 19/10/2025 21:41

Yes, yes, yes. Love it.
Just retired to top floor flat with lovely terrace, beautiful views, a lift, shops, theatre, cinema, gp, hospital all within 10 mins and plenty of room for visiting family.
Selling the family home, which husband and I were never particularly fond of, meant we could help set the adult kids up too.
They’ll hopefully be carrying us out in our boxes (not to soon 😁!)

Peridoteage · 19/10/2025 21:40

I love my house but we are moving, we've found another one we also really love.

I think you have to be a bit flexible and appreciate lots of things. If anything happened to us financially and we had to downsize we'd be okay, we'd find something small & cosy and home is where your family is.

OhOneOhTwoOhThree · 19/10/2025 21:37

Our house makes practical sense for now - it meets our needs and is in the right location but I don't love it. We'll move when we retire and no longer need to be within commuting distance of work. It's grown on me since we bought it, I had huge buyer's regret when we moved in eight years ago and thought we'd made a big and expensive mistake.

DramaAlpaca · 19/10/2025 21:36

Yes, love mine. Mainly because it was a self-build designed mainly by me with input from DH. It's not perfect, I'd have loved a bigger house but the budget didn't allow that, but I love where it is. After 24 years it's still not completely finished though, and it's in need of some maintenance along with the finishing touches, but the mortgage is paid off and it's ours.

PermanentTemporary · 19/10/2025 21:35

I adore my house, it’s in a beautiful, convenient location and it’s as future-proofed as we can make it. I fell in love with it the moment I laid eyes on it. But I know it’s not forever because unless I win the lottery, I won’t be able to afford to run it when I’m on my own. So it goes.

RosesAndHellebores · 19/10/2025 21:30

Love it. We moved here from our "forever" home ten years ago. We are only about 16 miles from central London, yet have lots of space around us and aren't overlooked. It's a traditional Arts & Crafts house and I love It's oakiness and stained glass. We have the original bell pull at the front door and the tinkly bells are lovely. A million miles away from a ring door bell!

valianttortoise · 19/10/2025 21:29

UnhappyHobbit · 19/10/2025 21:22

I like my house. The concept of a “forever” home is lame in my opinion. We don’t live forever and we get old and decrepit. A home should cater for you now. I live in a four storey home, it won’t be a great forever option when I’m 80 and can’t negotiate the stairs.

I'm 40-odd and I want a house that lasts me I til I die because I can't afford to burn £30k + a go in tax multiple times. I can't believe many people do and I dont think it's remotely "lame". Well done you if you're that rich.

I want space to entertain, space so my husband can have home dialysis if he needs it, a garden, a nice kitchen and a bathroom on each level. I want buses and trains and amenities I can walk to in a couple of minutes. I want effective heating and hot water, a dishwasher and ideally a conservatory.

Unlikely I'd want anything different at 80.

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Itiswhysofew · 19/10/2025 21:27

My house will be passed down. It's a unique home that DP doesn't want to sell, ever!
We won't stay here forever, but it won't be sold either. We're fortunate enough to have other options.

I do like it. It's very old and had a lot of work done, but it's also quite draining with all the bloody cleaning and upkeep. It currently needs repainting, but it's got great bones Grin

Bluevelvetsofa · 19/10/2025 21:26

There have been two houses I’ve really loved. The first was where the children grew up and the second was where the grandchildren came to stay. That one got too expensive though and the area went downhill.

I thought I’d enjoy the smaller house we moved to, but after nearly a year, I don’t. I’ll have to make the best of it though. The area is better, but there’s no sense of community and I don’t feel part of anything.

DelilahBucket · 19/10/2025 21:25

This was our forever home when bought it 11 years ago. I loved it until Dec 2020 when we got the neighbours from hell next door. It's gone downhill vastly since then. Unfortunately we've been through various financial set backs and we've not been able to afford to move but we're working on it. A shame because we still love the house but it's become unbearable.

EmpressaurusKitty · 19/10/2025 21:23

I love my flat & am never going to move unless I have no choice or things change drastically.

It’s exactly the right size & in a perfect location.

Irenesortof · 19/10/2025 21:23

I adore my house but it’s far too big and we need to downsize.

Buttcraic · 19/10/2025 21:22

I very much want mine to be a forever house as on the surface its 'lovely'/'desirable' but i dont feel like i have it in me to do the renovations now and the money doesnt feel worth it and i dont like the area. Moving is fucking horrenous though so i hope next time its the forever house 🤞

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