To tell you how I feel grateful today for my husband

Except that experiencing and expressing gratitude are associated with a longer life expectancy. It doesn't have to be for big things, simply recognizing the positives in your life, however small they are is enough.

And as OP has followed up to say he does pull his weight, no it wasn't a fair assumption.

Hahaha @QPZM ”a cup of cold sick” 🤢 literally just made me feel like I might vom. What a powerful expression.

also, OP, memory like a toffee apple? I’ve never heard that one before, I like it!

I also think my DP is a pretty great partner. We’re both scatter brained and messy and I’m the one who tidies, but wow, he’s the one that cooks us adventurous surprises researching new recipes. My favourite thing about him is his good, fair, measured, emotionally intelligent and generous mind. He properly listens to me, he makes me feel heard and provides me with balance when appropriate. I looked for him for a long time.

Nice to read. There’s so many posts on here about selfish dickheads, this is a nice post.

But I was just sitting here thinking he's a good egg and it's nice to share that feeling.

He is the person is share that feeling with or perhaps his parents or someone who at least knows him.

A group of anonymous mumsnet who you don’t know from Adam? And never will… I personally find that a little odd but each to their own.

Eh I could almost say the exact same i actually tell hubby quite often your a good egg and he always replies and your scrambled love 🤣 we had a bad 2 years 3 family members and his mum have passed very quickly all cancer and we've just kept plodding on, looking after the family, him working and yesterday i sitting thinking even during the time when his mam was with us in her last 2 months he never once failed to make me a hot chocolate before bed, he never once stopped helping with the kids when he got in from work and all the house work and he even started cooking all the teas etc..I won't say i don't every week still say have you put the bin out or just small things which don't bother me but yes I have a very good egg and the kids a very good hard working dad..

FOR your partner? You both live there. Just normal stuff that needs doing in a house by both people.

He sounds lovely. Sorry that other people have to spoil that for you x

My son got sacked earlier this week after 10 years hard graft for my brother in law for sick leave /last minute days off over last 6 months due to girlfriend break up etc etc.
BIL is withholding payment in lieu of notice and although I know that in alot of ways my DH -who is step dad of 12 years- could wring my DS neck, has has spent hours pouring over the handbook and contract, drafting emails and referring to ACAS.
We also sat my sisters dog for hours as her his back had a bike fall, and spent time with my mum who has dementia and has has an off day- after taking the grandkids out for Breakfast and park as DD is under the weather.

it was supposed to be a chill day where I caught up on work and he went out to catch some photos of a rare train he likes/go on a hike.

I could not love him more tonght.
good egg x

Good for both of you, and wish you many more years of happiness.

It’s a fair assumption to make because it wouldn’t register to OP as anything unusual unless it actually is out of the ordinary, or be noteworthy enough to make a post about on here.

Sorry but no one should be in a position where they feel grateful just because their man isn’t a ‘shit’ one like you read about online.

I think it's a lovely post. Unfortunately it's not the norm on here.

It'd be far more normal if people didn't queue up to jump on the OP's of posts like this.

I've been on MN 15 years and it's never been any different.

Some people are all over the 'My DH is a bastard' threads, but seem to positively despise nice appreciative threads like this.

Do you know this to be true?
She has said he did it all today. Everybody is assuming he never does anything rather than them normally being equal partners and today he has done it all without OP having to expend any energy on it. He has just got on with it. And in recognition of how many men are shit and don't, she is grateful she has a good one who doesn't need 'managing' and asking to do 100% instead of his usual 50%.

woman is happy in her relationship and appreciates her partner and that is low standards? Talk about a crab in a bucket.

Again, we don’t know how much each of them do, how much each of them work. They don’t have kids so they probably split things. All we know is that today, Hes taken on all of the chores and looked after OP.

Geez some of these responses. I certainly don’t spend my entire weekend doing chores, good for others if that’s the norm for them. Your DH sounds like he’s got a lot done this weekend while you got some needed rest and sometimes it’s the little things like bringing you your favourite magazine and biscuits that’s thoughtful. I’m glad you’ve got a good ‘un.

I think it's a lovely post. Unfortunately it's not the norm on here. I don't think it's a low bar. Sounds like he has been busy.

In comparison my dh has driven disabled ds to a party 50 mile round trip. Bought, cooked and cleared up a roast for five. Made our bed. Put two loads of washing away.

I have cleaned the fridge and taken dd to a mates 2 miles down the road. I think my dh has the low bar today. He's not perfect either.

@Sog2 a man is literally doing just the basics and is getting so much gratitude…
some of you really do settle,rather than be unmarried

I wish you hadn't put this on here. As I feel you are going to come back, read some of the comments, and it is going to take the shine off it all. And it's a real bloody shame. As it's lovely.

Ahh this is lovely. Sounds like your DH recognised you needed some time to rest and took on the majority of the load to allow that. I hope your headache has lifted and you can both chill out tonight.

He sounds a real winner @Jenneypops

Of course posters come along to try and rain on your parade. We can't have a good word said about a man on MN can we.

She’s already with a man who’s looking after her so why should the bar be higher? Im really not getting this sentiment

I’d be feeling pretty good if I’d done all that for my partner, so I don’t know why you are getting so many negative responses!

Im willing to bet a few of the sour Conner’s are coming from women who don’t have supportive husbands/partners themselves

My DP is very good with chores and cooking and has taken care of me quite a lot during periods. Somehow I don’t feel the need to put OP down that she also has a nice man.

There is nothing to suggest he isn’t always nice and helpful, she just wants to appreciate him, bloody hell.

Good god!

'My husband's alright really and I feel quite content'

'No he's not! He's a totally useless bastard! You've been brainwashed! If you're happy then you're wrong! Leave him, leave him now!!!'.

Seriously though, good for you OP, and I'll be passing off 'the memory of a toffee apple' as my own phrase if that's OK.