To tell you how I feel grateful today for my husband

Yeah- I have adhd, so ‘normal’ stuff is an effort. Luckily for me, I have a very understanding husband. When I have a productive day, it feels good.

I’m great at doing stuff under pressure though, like speed cleaning when visitors are coming.

LTB! (Well, this IS Mumsnet :-)

I'm not bitter thanks. Just fucked off with your smug, sanctimonious answer, the 'doesn't fly' and your over investment. You're not even the OP. But never mind. I cba with it all. Whatever...

Sorry you're bitter. Hope you have a better day.

Oh FFS. Give it a rest.

Lovely to read, OP! ❤️

I’m usually a pretty disgustingly healthy type, hardly ever need to see the GP, so it came as a real shock when a nasty bug I couldn’t shake off, turned into pneumonia and pleurisy that put me in hospital for 3 weeks.

I don’t always appreciate my dh as I should, but he was a star. I was having drenching sweats every night, he came in twice a day with clean pyjamas - I didn’t find the hospital ones warm enough. And helped me wash my hair in a washbasin when I was feeling so foul and grotty with unwashed hair - couldn’t shower since had both a drip and a drain in my lung.

Ever since then I have not said a word when he sneezes like a bomb going off!! 😂

That’s good and I hope you feel better today

i have a good’un too ( mini brag )

Nope, that doesn't fly either. She would have been doing half of the chores otherwise, and likely not picking up treats for herself either, so of course he's done it FOR her. Try harder (or, better yet, don't).

This is lovely - good to hear some good stories out there.

That's BS. Actively noticing what people do for you, even if they do it every day, is part of fully appreciating them.

I have a cold and yesterday my DH took the kids out from 9-2pm so I could sleep. He took all the laundry to his mum's to do as we don't have a washing machine at the moment. Then later on he made me a dinner. This morning he let me lie in again and sorted the kids for breakfast and school.

He does this sort of thing every day. And I notice it every day. It's noteworthy because he is great every day.

@Jenneypops I think that's a lovely post. In a world where so many people are doing horrible things to each other, I think it's even more important to celebrate the good. I too have those moments when I look at my DH and think "I bloody love you!" and, after 41 years, I think that's something to be happy about. Good for you!

There are some miserable people on here.
My DH is currently in Spain trying to sort out my residency.
He is one of life's good eggs.
He doesn't have any bad word to say about anyone, he's kind and generous with money and his time.
I'll be glad to see him when he gets home.

Exactly. This. Quietly do 100 instead of the usual 50% so the other one can rest is a nice thing to do. We split choreswith DH and if one is sick the other does it all and usually does something nice on top.
I think lots of posters are just not familiar with fair share and basic care so automatically assume op does usually 100%.... Like them.

An extraordinary man is just an average woman.

PS - if mine ever had a go at me for buying expensive chocolate I’d LTB 😆

All those little 'unimportant' things you do for each other build up and make a happy relationship. Its good to notice and appreciate each other.

I think this is lovely OP, ignore the man haters. Tedious.

I had a similar feeling about my DH this weekend. Our adult DD is having problems with her boyfriend and has come home for a few days ... he has been so so kind and understanding, chatting to her for hours about her feelings and options 😍

Its nice to appreciate the little things about each other.

Absolutely.

DH put up a shelf yesterday and then touched up the wall, before deciding the whole wall needed doing, going out getting paint and sorting it all. He took DD to sports match, made lunch and dinner, then put on some laundry.

this is normal. He eats, he wears clothes, he looks at that wall. He hasn’t done those things “for me” and so isn’t deserving of specific praise although of course I’m appreciative.

thinking that he was wonderful because he’d looked after my whilst sick seems bizarre

My dh always does most of these minus cooking as standard not as a treat but glad your happy op

It's a real shame people came on to just ruin your whole post. All you shared was how grateful you were for him. He sounds like a good egg and you both seem to have a happy marriage. I'm glad you've found someone who shares the load!

I think it can be either - ‘journaling’ about gratitude is, I think, part of some studies.

Yup

Just having the feeling of gratitude, being appreciative and adopting a positive mindset is enough. Or putting it in a journal to express it.

I think people are reading too much into this. I think what OP is expressing is her love and gratitude for her DP because on this particular day he made her feel very loved and appreciated when she needed it the most. I think he does love and appreciate the OP every day but this day was just a bit more keenly felt by the OP and she just wanted to share that. I think it’s a beautiful thing.

presumably the studies mean expressing gratitude to the person themselves

Not anonymous online posters