To think my boyfriend should be more understanding that I’m ill?

How long have you been together? I would have gone home straight away to avoid him hearing me in the toilet and the lingering smell afterwards. I know it’s natural but it’s so gross, especially if the relationship is quite new. Leaving a poo stain on the sheet is one step too far…

This is lovely and exactly what I want in my life. Safety, warmth and kindness ❤️

This happened to my boyfriend when he was at mine. I was sympathetic. He was horrified.

Time for him to no longer be your boyfriend. Imagine how he might speak to you if you're exhausted and covered in baby vomit and need a break.

You are ill not dying, why on earth were you sharing a bed when you weren’t well utter madness.

He’s not a keeper OP , to call you a “ dirty bitch “ , what a first class prick he is ..
He had to know you were embarrassed by this, & to react like that instead of being kind ..
And on top of it all you’re feeling so unwell..
I hope you feel better really quickly..
Forget him , no excuse high up or low down for his behaviour..
I hope you get rid of him x x

He went mental and called me a dirty bitch

It would be a tremondous mistake to continue this relationship.

A man who does this shouldnt become your partner, your husband and/ or father of your children.

I had horrendous food poisoning abroad about a year in with my DH... Like indescribably revolting. He was incredibly nice to me and generally looked after me and told me it was okay amd he still loved me through the door when I cried about how gross I was while in a bath on all 4 fours projectile emitting 😅

Yep, he'd be out the door

You poor thing, an accident like that is very upsetting for anyone. Him calling you a dirty bitch in anger would be the end of the relationship for me. You’ve seen his true colours.

No one who calls you a "dirty bitch" should ever be given any second chances. It doesn't matter why it happened. That is all.

I wouldn’t have stayed at someone else’s with vomiting and diarrhoea if I could help it. But his reaction is awful. You may as well dump him as this isn’t anyone to have a long term relationship with and certainly not children.

in your opinion

noted

I agree with your first point, but given the OP is ill and this has only just happened, IMO you jumped the gun!

Also if it ever got to the point where you had kids with him he would be absolutely terrible at dealing with birth/post partum if this is his reaction to you being poorly

Please get rid of this nasty piece of shit.

He called you a dirty bitch? He's shown you what kind of person he is right there and then. My DH had a rather strong reaction to some antibiotics when we were first together and he was staying at my house, I cleaned it up discreetly and wouldn't have made him feel bad about it at all. He was mortified of course but it happens to the best of us when we're ill.

That's actually excellent. He has shown you who he is and what he would be like if you're ever ill again. Better to learn sooner rather than later.

Imagine wasting another year or two on this dickhead.

Oh god this happened to me once but we were walking home from a restaurant and I got the most god awful bout of food poisoning out of nowhere. I had to bin my clothes it was that bad. DH (who was at the time my bf) offered to help me clean up and was really understanding and kind about it. It was a gross, I felt gross but he was so matter of fact and never once made me feel bad. I literally had no control over it. I’ve never pooed the bed but I used to regularly flood and despite my best efforts (tampon, plus maxi pad plus thick joggers) I would occasionally leak. DH would just get uo and strip the sheets while I got cleaned up. No fuss.

The fact that he called you a dirty bitch is awful. He’s really quite horrible.

Well then you should know how many OPs are in jaw dropping my awful relationships and after a few follow up posts it transpires that the writing was on the wall very early on in the relationship and they chose to ignore it.

The fact the OP is still with him and didn’t end it the man second he called her a dirty bitch…. Says a lot

I hear you on that 😂🤣😂 but do you really need to be THAT POSTER?

New to mumsnet?

You can’t have a feeling based on the one paragraph that indicated nowhere that she is a doormat FFS!

I wouldn’t want a boyfriend to see my shitting myself and vomitting

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can’t say I’d want anyone to see that.

I am a lone wolf when I’m throwing up and have the squits!

oh calm down 😆

I disagree. If someone I loved or even really liked was so poorly in my home all I'd want to do is look after them and reassure them with kindness, it's only a bit of shit ffs! Just throw it in the washine machihe and be an adult. If they're the right one it won't put you off.

I could never carry on a relationship with someone so cruel and judgemental. The poor OP.