To think my boyfriend should be more understanding that I’m ill?

A Prince for sure. When the chips were down he’s shown you who he is x

fair of him to ask you to clean it up, i wouldnt clean anyone elses poo up unless my childrens!
that said it sounds like he reacted out of shock, rather than to be cruel.

I think it was fair to ask you to clean it up to be honest, but not OK to have a go at you.
My DH wouldn't clean up the bed if I did the same but he would be kind and go to the shop for lucozade etc..

Yes , but the discussion is how awfully he responded ..
I mean what you’re saying is eg , A lady comes home after a few drinks & spills a drink on her husband’s laptop & he hits her ..
Well if she didn’t have those drinks in the first place chances are she wouldn’t have spilt anything on his laptop..
Do you see my point , it’s irrelevant.. Obviously he should never hit her ….
You sound like you’re saying , well if you had just gone home in the first place it wouldn’t have happened…

He was adamant he was happy for me to stay.

That wasn’t an invite to stay
That was a response to the OP clearly asking to stay

My point is ( and I did read it, thanks) the whole thing could have been prevented by the OP leaving like she wanted to initially rather than him changing her mind and then responding like he did!

If a boyfriend of a fortnight asked to recover at mine post stoma fitted? I would be 🤔

And your point is ????
That’s not what this discussion is about ..
It’s not “ what would you do if you fell ill at your bfs flat “
Maybe go back up & read OPS post before you decide to contribute your opinion…

He sounds vile. End this relationship.

My ex did this in bed and I was really kind to him . You deserve the same kindness. This will only get worse. Imagine this man being the one supporting you through childbirth and your body being born apart and bleeding. Please leave him.

Look at you & your ridiculous statement, it was an accident with the sheet , saying it was going one step too far 🙄, the only step that was taken too far , infact completely unacceptably far, is when Dick head boyfriend called OP a “ dirty bitch “ !!!!!

I would have gone immediately home when I started to feel ill, I wouldn’t have wanted company or an audience.

I shat on the floor with food poisoning, I watched him scrub the floor with no hesitation and that’s when I thought he was a keeper

Absolutely. He's not long ago had a total proctectomy, asked me if I'd like to inspect his bum wound. Tbf, he did ask me after a week of dating to have a look at his sore bum (hemorrhoid).

Lots of bum chat in this house.

Grew up with a mum with colitis and then a dh with the same. Accidents happen.

I was unwell and passed out and had an accident in front of my boyfriend… I was mortified, but he looked after me, helped me get sorted and never mentioned it again! I’m sure he found it pretty gross but he never let on because he’s a nice, empathetic person. You deserve better.

Also totally understandable when he’s just had a stoma fitted. No matter how long you’ve been in a relationship, if you can’t be sympathetic when someone’s just had a stoma fitted maybe you should just stay single. Anybody can end up with a medical problem.

DUMP HIM

seriously that’s a terrible thing for him to say to you. Dirty bitch?
mean and unnecessary

This sounds epically gross

how long had you been with him?

2 nights running!!!

edit… ah he was your husband! Bit different to a boyfriend you don’t live with

My dhs first night home after getting a stoma, he slept through his alarm to empty his bag and had a shit explosion all over the sofa and carpet. I probably did sigh but I sent him off to get cleaned up whilst I cleaned everything else. The second night, same thing except all over our bed. I did about cry that time as I was so exhausted but indeed I sent him off to get cleaned up whilst I changed the bedding. He slept wrapped in a waterproof sheet for a while after that!

My point is, shit happens. Chuck him and move on.

Hope you're feeling better soon.

100%

Goodness. When I came down with a sickness bug a few weeks into my last relationship when BF was staying, he ran me a bath and changed the sheets when I shat myself. No comments other than "oh you poor thing, where are the clean sheets?"

Whereas your views are facts?

As if this isn't already embarrasing for you, he then shames you by calling you a dirty bitch, he has shown you what kind of person he is. Cruel and unkind. How long have you been together? This would be a deal breaker for me, I wouldn't want to be with someone like that.

There's a word missing from the title. Ex.