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Young adults living at home

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SilverDoublet · 19/10/2025 14:55

We live in an expensive city, which has lots of universities but very high rent even in house shares, which are very hard to find.

Am I being ridiculous thinking our kids will all be living with us til they're 24 or 25 and planning accordingly? DH thinks they'll move out like he did at 18. He's from a rural village with no universities anywhere near it so he had no option and he got grants and subsidies because he was from a single parent family on a very low income. Our income is just enough that it puts us above claiming any supports for the kids to go to university/rent.

I think we should move house for more space if we're going to have 4 young adults living with us in the next 10 years.
Am I being unreasonable?

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OnlyOnAFriday · 19/10/2025 15:38

Dd is 24yo and still totally financially reliant on us. Had a job for a bit, got made redundant. Has gone back to uni in Sept to do a 2 year full time Masters , so technically has moved out. She might be back in the summer for a bit I guess. We’re paying her rent for her while she studies. God knows what happens at the end of two years. I’m hoping she gets a job.

BlueMum16 · 19/10/2025 15:15

How old are your DC now? I'm assuming mid teens from your post.

If you can all fit now I'm not sure why you need more space?

vivainsomnia · 19/10/2025 15:12

How about you wait and see? My 22yo has moved to his own place. His rent is half his income. He is managing by being extremely careful. His sense of worth is great though due to his independence. He is doing great at work and should get a promotion in January when he'll have been in the job for a year.

It's not all doomed for all of them.