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Fed up of ‘sexual’ dynamic between DP and my friend

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Georgiamayy · 19/10/2025 14:43

One of my friends is very sex positive and not at all backwards when it comes to discussing things.

There have been countless examples where she has been drinking around DP and I’ve found the conversation a tad inappropriate. DP isn’t someone who I’d describe as overly forthcoming usually but around her he happily talks about sexual things.

I feel like last night crossed a line though. We were out as part of a wider group and my friend drunkenly blurted out how I should give ‘X’ a go. X being a sexual act which I’ve previously told DP I’m not interested in. She was really persistent about it, and when I spoke to DP he admitted they’d had a conversation and it had come up.

Im not sure who I should be more annoyed with, and if I just need to lay down the law now?

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5dollah · 19/10/2025 15:18

She's not a friend, OP. She's a conniving shit stirrer.

OneFineDay22 · 19/10/2025 15:17

Are you saying your DP has asked you to peg him and you’re not interested?

And he’s told your lesbian friend who has blurted out at a group gathering that you should do it?

I feel like I live in a parallel dimension to people these days

outerspacepotato · 19/10/2025 15:17

She is not your friend and she's not sex positive, she just talks about it in detail publicly, so crude and vulgar.

She was telling you to perform a sex act you had refused. That's the opposite of sex positive. She doesn't accept how you enjoy sex.

She's really giving the vibe of she wants your partner.

You don't enjoy her company, stop seeing her. Anyone who tells you you should have sex in ways you don't want, they don't have your best interests in mind.

UnemployedNotRetired · 19/10/2025 15:17

agree not ideal friend

Zov · 19/10/2025 15:15

Bin her. Ghost her. Block her.

I bet she's one of these insufferable women who just can't help it that she gets on better with men. 🙄

Justgorgeous · 19/10/2025 15:14

is ‘sex positive’ the new term for having no class or respect around you and your partner ?

BlueMum16 · 19/10/2025 15:12

I'd be fuming at DP for discussing our sex life. How would he like it if you discussed with his friends the finer details of his performance that you may not like?

I would distance myself from this 'friend' and make it clear her opinion on my relationship is not wanted and the reason for the distance.

SL2924 · 19/10/2025 15:11

She sounds more sex pest than sex positive tbh

Gruffporcupine · 19/10/2025 15:11

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 19/10/2025 14:47

Why do you still speak to her or see her?

She's trying to shag your husband and isnt your friend

This

Owly11 · 19/10/2025 15:09

Sex positive my arse. A pathetic, desperate conniving snake in the grass. Get rid of her and tell him that if he ever discusses your sex life with anyone again you will get rid of him too.

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 19/10/2025 15:04

Georgiamayy · 19/10/2025 15:00

She’s someone I’ve known for years, so out of duty I suppose…but we are very different people these days

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Maybe reconsider your position on that in light of recent developments?

TalulahJP · 19/10/2025 15:03

Tamfs · 19/10/2025 14:50

She just gave your DH a very clear message that she is willing to do whatever sexual act he discussed with her. And she is covering her tracks by encouraging you to do it. She isn't a friend. And you have a DP problem, because he was also clearly testing the waters with her.

This.

she is not your friend.

Coffeeishot · 19/10/2025 15:02

Georgiamayy · 19/10/2025 14:54

She isn’t into men so I doubt that!

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Is your partner a man ? Anyway she is still being a creep regardless

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Georgiamayy · 19/10/2025 15:00

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 19/10/2025 14:56

Fine...
She's still not your friend
Why do you still see or speak to her?

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She’s someone I’ve known for years, so out of duty I suppose…but we are very different people these days

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Georgiamayy · 19/10/2025 14:59

McSock · 19/10/2025 14:56

I'm guessing it's not pegging then 🤪

Yes.

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McSock · 19/10/2025 14:56

I'm guessing it's not pegging then 🤪

Overtheatlantic · 19/10/2025 14:56

Get rid of them and watch how fast they fuck each other.

Tamfs · 19/10/2025 14:56

Georgiamayy · 19/10/2025 14:54

She isn’t into men so I doubt that!

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Then you still have a DP problem....and she still isn't a friend.

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 19/10/2025 14:56

Georgiamayy · 19/10/2025 14:54

She isn’t into men so I doubt that!

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Fine...
She's still not your friend
Why do you still see or speak to her?

AbsentosaurusRex · 19/10/2025 14:55

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 19/10/2025 14:45

I hope you told her to stfu.

😂 my exact thoughts

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Georgiamayy · 19/10/2025 14:54

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 19/10/2025 14:47

Why do you still speak to her or see her?

She's trying to shag your husband and isnt your friend

She isn’t into men so I doubt that!

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Summerhillsquare · 19/10/2025 14:53

What a pair of arseholes. Who presumably are far too interested in each others.

Member984815 · 19/10/2025 14:53

I think I'd be having a serious conversation with my dh if he discussed private things outside of our relationship. I wouldn't be friends with this woman she's too 'coolgirl' .

Coffeeishot · 19/10/2025 14:53

And yes why is he encouraging her ? I might be a prude or old fashioned but I would never discuss my sex life with a man

Goodadvice1980 · 19/10/2025 14:51

Bin them both off OP. Your dp has betrayed your trust and she isn’t a friend of your relationship.