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To ask if I look frumpy

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keepcalmanddance · 19/10/2025 12:00

Do I look frumpy in this outfit? I’m early 40s. Also do I look like I’m slightly pregnant?

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Thindog · 19/10/2025 12:35

Sell the jumper to a fisherman.If you’re conscious of your belly wear a pretty blouse .

CharlieKirkRIP · 19/10/2025 12:34

Yes and yes. The clothes look on their last legs and are ill fitting. You do have a large stomach area but as it’s a will shot, your posture may be adding to it.

evilharpy · 19/10/2025 12:34

Sorry OP, it's not great. The lengths and proportions are all wrong and the jumper looks pulled out of shape.

Just as an experiment, try tucking the jumper in like this (photo might take a while to come through) and post another photo. It might improve the proportions and give the suggestion of a waist.

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SparklyBrickViper · 19/10/2025 12:34

I’d say you’re dressed but not styled.

There are loads of accounts on Instagram with different size/shape women sharing outfits ideas. Why not search for an age bracket/style type and see what’s in your wardrobe that looks similar you could adapt.

ChocolateCinderToffee · 19/10/2025 12:33

The jumper looks a bit past its best, being baggy at the bottom, but might be ok with a good pair of jeans. I wouldn't try to hide your tummy by covering it with something long, but I'd wear something that comes halfway down it instead and which fits without being tight.

'Frumpy' is such a subjective concept. I see things that get loads of admiring comments on here that I (in my 60s) wouldn't be seen dead in: pie-crust collars, random frills stuck on everywhere, tiered skirts (we all had a tiered skirt from Laura Ashley back in the day, and one was enough), browns and maroons and khakis - yet they appear to be the height of fashion. I think the best thing is to choose colours that suit you and clothes that you are comfortable in and which fit.

DinaofCloud9 · 19/10/2025 12:33

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So she looks frumpy but skinny?

ChineseSpymaster · 19/10/2025 12:32

It does look a bit frumpy yes. Does it matter? Depends how much you think it does.

Sometimes one goes for comfort over style. Also not everyone wants to ruin/ wear out/ spill food on their favourite clothes when just being at home.

TheFunDog · 19/10/2025 12:32

meganorks · 19/10/2025 12:06

Just from that photo I would have guessed you were 60s - sorry!

Im mid 60's and would never wear that outfit!!! ... Just looks like you don't care about yourself op.
Ditch the jumper and find a pretty blouse.

usedtobeaylis · 19/10/2025 12:31

Your jumper looks too big for you, which I think is common in people trying to hide their stomach. I've been there but eventually I thought what the fuck am I doing trying to pretend I don't have a stomach, it's quite clear no matter how baggy my clothes are.

Even in still wanting to disguise it you could easily wear a jumper a size or two smaller and wouldn't look bad for it at all.

I'm also going against the grain and think the skirt length is nice on you, you just need a better fitted top with it. You could also wear a blazer to feel you're a bit more shored up.

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keepcalmanddance · 19/10/2025 12:30

@JurassicPark4Evai have DM boots. Don’t really have any shirts just tshirts. Have a couple of smart tops which I guess I could have tucked in. So ill try that later (out now) and post again to see if that looks better.. I’m just so conscious of my pregnant looking belly

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Enigma54 · 19/10/2025 12:28

It’s a no from me. The jumper is all out of shape and very unflattering. Sorry OP.

Iwanttoliveinagardencentre · 19/10/2025 12:28

You look warm and comfy, that’s what is most important.

CarrierbagsAndPJs · 19/10/2025 12:28

JurassicPark4Eva · 19/10/2025 12:25

Bigger tops can often make you look larger rather than slimmer. Well fitted, well cut clothes that hit your body in the right places will always look much more flattering!

If that jumper were 3-4" shorter it would completely rebalance you.

You could wear that jumper with straight it boot cut blue jeans and tuck the sides into the waist to shorten it, I reckon that would be better.

The skirt length just doesn't work with that jumper length. Have a Google on how to dress with proportions to balance out your shape?

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This is true. Look at Terese’s character on neighbours. She is a larger lady and always looks very smart as she is always impeccably dressed.

PrimalLass · 19/10/2025 12:27

I can't wear chunky jumpers as they just add inches. Try something finer?

Lemonandorangecheescake · 19/10/2025 12:27

You've got a good figure but not making the most of it, as others have said, the jumper doesn't match the skirt and the neckline is unflattering, wearing a v shaped neckline suits most people better I think.
I can't see much of your hair, but what I can see it looks lank and could do with a warm colour lift to brighten you up.

JurassicPark4Eva · 19/10/2025 12:26

keepcalmanddance · 19/10/2025 12:23

Ideally work with my wardrobe as that’s cheaper for now

OK, go look at what you have. Look for a shorter length jumper or shirt or similar to try with that skirt. Do you have any boots to wear with this?

Justacigarette · 19/10/2025 12:26

keepcalmanddance · 19/10/2025 12:00

Do I look frumpy in this outfit? I’m early 40s. Also do I look like I’m slightly pregnant?

I’m so sorry. But this is frumpy. And I’m no fashionista

IvedoneitagainhaventI · 19/10/2025 12:26

I must say that my legs have always been my best feature but I gave up on wearing skirts a long time ago because I just can't work out the style or length that looks ok. I wear shorts a lot in summer.

I actually think your skirt is ok - you are a lot younger than me - but just not with that jumper. It looks more like a " round the house" jumper to be worn with jeans or leggings.

Titasaducksarse · 19/10/2025 12:26

It's not the best outfit for you. You need a better bra and to get more fitted to your waist.

CarrierbagsAndPJs · 19/10/2025 12:25

keepcalmanddance · 19/10/2025 12:11

@AmyDuPlantierhow would I revamp? Any ideas

Buy outfits, not items.

SoozyWoozy5 · 19/10/2025 12:25

Yes and yes.

Berlinlover · 19/10/2025 12:25

This outfit isn’t flattering OP but please don’t listen to the advice from people telling you to wear leggings - they are not flattering on anyone and just look lazy.

JurassicPark4Eva · 19/10/2025 12:25

keepcalmanddance · 19/10/2025 12:21

The prob I have is I have nice legs but a big belly which is why I tend to go for bigger tops to disguise that

Bigger tops can often make you look larger rather than slimmer. Well fitted, well cut clothes that hit your body in the right places will always look much more flattering!

If that jumper were 3-4" shorter it would completely rebalance you.

You could wear that jumper with straight it boot cut blue jeans and tuck the sides into the waist to shorten it, I reckon that would be better.

The skirt length just doesn't work with that jumper length. Have a Google on how to dress with proportions to balance out your shape?

Jellybunny56 · 19/10/2025 12:24

Agree with others it’s really very unflattering. Dress for the body you have rather than to hide the body you have, because often trying to hide makes everything look a lot worse.