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Notsomarryfloppins · 19/10/2025 09:36

Went out for dinner with 3 friends last night. I know 1 (a) very well, 1 (b) well and the last (c) is a really close friend of A and we've been out together 6 or 7 times.
I had suggested dinner to a and b. A invited c to join.

I turn up at the restaurant, I drove,
I see all 3 get out of Bs car.
I live 2 roads away from B and C. Literally 600 meter walk.
A is then on route to the place we were going, so no one would have gone out their way at all.
I said, 'oh, you should have said you wee driving, I would have caught a lift you'

B says 'you always drive, I didn't think to ask'

Yes, I have driven, maybe every other time we go out.....I offer and they all say yes. I dont offer 2 out of 3, its always open to all. I dont always want to drink, might have plans etc. But its not a weird 'thing' that I have to drive.

It made me feel like a weird tag along to the night I had suggested.

Am I being unreasonable to think they could have included me. Or atleast checked?

Yes im aware that is sounds childish, yes all grown women.

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Notsomarryfloppins · 19/10/2025 09:44

BMW6 · 19/10/2025 09:42

I'd be properly annoyed and hurt and would say so! That's shitty of two of them.

All 3 of them were in the car.
They picked A up en route.

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Notsomarryfloppins · 19/10/2025 09:43

GreyChicken · 19/10/2025 09:40

I would take what B said at face value - that in her mind, you always drive, and she just genuinely didn't think of it.

Nothing personal at all!

But i dont always drive.
Maybe half the time, at most.

The last 2 or 3 times I haven't.

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BMW6 · 19/10/2025 09:42

I'd be properly annoyed and hurt and would say so! That's shitty of two of them.

GreyChicken · 19/10/2025 09:40

I would take what B said at face value - that in her mind, you always drive, and she just genuinely didn't think of it.

Nothing personal at all!