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To think people are naive re cocaine

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Knockonw00d · 19/10/2025 08:50

I see threads on here all the time where women find out their husband has been doing coke etc and are absolutely floored.
But it always amazes me how oblivious people are to how common it really is. I’m childfree and in my late 20s and i go on nights out almost every week so you get to know all of the other regulars in the bars. I do not know one person that I’ve met through going out that doesn’t do cocaine.

These people have professional jobs Monday - Friday. Some of them I know are teachers, nursery staff, work in the passport office. It is so common.

I also see a lot posters describing a change in behaviour and people suggest it could be drugs. But unless you’re doing things like heroin or spice, cocaine does not make you act in the ways people suggest.

Do people really not know how common casual use of cocaine is in this country?

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Gogo4 · 19/10/2025 20:04

DEAROP · 19/10/2025 09:03

County lines kids arent abused into doing cocaine. They rarely even sell cocaine. It's usually crack and heroin.

Really? You do know where crack comes from? County line 'kids' as you put it are very much coerced, abused and threatened into being a key part of the cocaine supply throughout England and further! Those 'harmless' lines of cocaine that are so commonly snorted in pub/ club bathrooms, may very well be from the same batch of cocaine that has been distributed by a scared child to a 'crack house' down the road, for them to 'cook up' into crack! Every person that does a 'odd line' on a Friday night is contributing to the abuse, and horror that those poor children are caught up in! People really need to open their eyes, or at least don't comment and minimise things you really don't know enough about!

Borethefuckoff · 19/10/2025 20:00

Clearly common with the type of people you hang around with… not everyone!

Tiswa · 19/10/2025 19:59

kkloo · 19/10/2025 19:55

Great to see you engaging with the really meaningful posts 😅

Yep your naivety shows

kkloo · 19/10/2025 19:55

Knockonw00d · 19/10/2025 19:18

This is straight up incorrect.

Great to see you engaging with the really meaningful posts 😅

kkloo · 19/10/2025 19:54

JLou08 · 19/10/2025 19:33

I think it could be if drugs were legal and regulated. Right now no one really knows exactly what they are taking or how much it's been cut. Yes, they're addictive but so is alcohol. Legalising and regulating will make it safer for users and remove a lot of crime and exploitation that is a result of illegal drug trade.

Depends on the drug, but cocaine mixed with alcohol is a lethal mix and creates a stronger substance in the body and that's the main way people do coke, so even if they knew the coke wasn't mixed with anything they're then going and mixing it up with something themselves which makes it more dangerous.

InterIgnis · 19/10/2025 19:50

Cornucopia55 · 19/10/2025 17:37

It is common in DP's social group, but not mine, because our social backgrounds are very different. He's a tradesman, I'm educated & my friends are mainly professionals. I've seen a clear social gradient to its use. Many of his friends use it and several have had their lives blown apart by it. The number of relationships destroyed after one partner gets into coke is notable. Amongst my friends, I know a few occasional users but none from the very ambitious / very successful group.

My social background is the same as yours, and I know/know of plenty highly ambitious and successful professionals that recreationally use cocaine. It’s no less common in white collar circles than it is in blue collar.

Actually, if anything it’s still more widely associated with white collar despite usage of it spanning the across the class spectrum.

Stripperyone · 19/10/2025 19:45

JurassicPark4Eva · 19/10/2025 14:05

Simpler ones are the mouth movements, almost like gurning or chewing their lips.

Yes to the sniffing but also touching their noses. Lots of people leave visible white marks on their faces when they are too blasé about it.

Their pupils will be like saucers (dilated), which is especially noticeable in a brighter room or sunlight.

The little baggies obv.

Speech will often change to be faster, louder, more aggressive after a trip to the loo or outside for a moment.

You'll often see a mood swing rapidly. I especially notice this in men who stand at the bar in my local - they walk in quiet, cheery, and order a pint before nipping to the loo and come back lairy, verbally aggressive and practically shouting everything they say for the next 20-30mins then it calms down a bit until they disappear once more and the cycle starts again.

It's a stimulant, so their movements will be different from when they are sober (and not on a come down).

Thank you-I have noticed the gurning in my friends who have used it. Someone took a photo of me and a male friend in my local recently, it was a celebration and everyone was happy-he made them delete it, said he hated it-I asked why and he told me that his ex would see if it it were posted anywhere online, and they were going through a court battle for their children and she'd see his pupils. I honestly wouldn't have thought about that.

I never saw any of this type of behaviours or changes to appearance in the woman I dated but I do remember once, we'd gone to an all day event. We were drinking, but just a cider every hour or so, both pacing ourselves and at the end of the event I was only very slightly tipsy. She all of a sudden got very upset and annoyed and stormed outside the venue we were in, saying she was mad with herself for 'getting too drunk' (she did not appear drunk, at all whatever) and saying she'd let me down and she hated herself and wanted to drive home. I Calmed her down and said 'you aren't drunk but you are definitely over the limit for driving home!' and she seemed to be okay then although she didn't haev another drink. I took her back to mine shortly afterwards but I did feel that that whole episode was weird. It was a very happy event and I saw no reason for her to 'turn' like that. I think now perhaps that was cocaine?

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 19:36

JLou08 · 19/10/2025 19:33

I think it could be if drugs were legal and regulated. Right now no one really knows exactly what they are taking or how much it's been cut. Yes, they're addictive but so is alcohol. Legalising and regulating will make it safer for users and remove a lot of crime and exploitation that is a result of illegal drug trade.

This. Alcohol holds an important role in our society and has for thousands of years. If it had been discovered or developed 20 years ago it would very likely also be illegal.

whats legal or illegal doesn’t always have black and white logic behind it. Thats why the discussion needs to be more nuanced to have value.

JLou08 · 19/10/2025 19:33

Ombof · 19/10/2025 19:25

In all honesty is it possible to use drugs "responsibly". Like how one can drink responsibly?

I think it could be if drugs were legal and regulated. Right now no one really knows exactly what they are taking or how much it's been cut. Yes, they're addictive but so is alcohol. Legalising and regulating will make it safer for users and remove a lot of crime and exploitation that is a result of illegal drug trade.

Strawberryorangejuice · 19/10/2025 19:31

ProudCat · 19/10/2025 09:00

The UK is one of the biggest consumers of cocaine in the world.

For years I couldn't understand how the general population seemed to have so much more energy than me. How did they manage a full working week and then out on Friday and Saturday. Answer is cocaine.

In my 20s I used to go to a popular music festival. I never understood how 90% of people I was with could stay up all night where as I was done by 11pm after walking 30,000 steps!

Ombof · 19/10/2025 19:25

In all honesty is it possible to use drugs "responsibly". Like how one can drink responsibly?

Slebs · 19/10/2025 19:18

Last year The Guardian did a series, Bloodlines, on the cocaine trade and associated crime. It makes sobering reading, I'd hope particularly for anyone who likes a recreational toot.

A particularly brutal read many more in the series if you have the stomach for it.

Beaten and tortured: the north African children paying a bloody price for Europe’s insatiable appetite for cocaine https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/ng-interactive/2024/jun/11/north-african-children-beaten-tortured-europe-cocaine-gangs?CMP=share_btn_url

Knockonw00d · 19/10/2025 19:18

DEAROP · 19/10/2025 13:32

Cocaine is sold in too expensive quantities for it to be the kind of drug you buy through survival crime. You can get crack for as little as ten pound. Cocaine starts at around 50. Not many people sell half grams.

This is straight up incorrect.

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EmeraldShamrock000 · 19/10/2025 19:13

Samsonsund · 19/10/2025 18:42

I’m not gloating. I’m just saying people have a lot to say about teen parents being irresponsible and wasting their lives while they spend their 20s taking drugs. While teen parents focus on their families

Not everyone in their 20's take cocaine, neither will all teenage parents focus on their family.

Crankyracoon · 19/10/2025 19:10

JurassicPark4Eva · 19/10/2025 09:02

I don't give a fuck if it's common.

I think dramatically less of anyone who uses it, including my 21yo BIL and SIL who used it in my local pub when we took them out for a meal. They will never be invited again.

I have been in law enforcement for over 20years. The misery of drug dealing, county lines, associated sexual abuse and rapes, the extreme violence, the importation, the dumping of drugs into water courses, the impact on the countries of origin for the drugs..... And people are also only now hearing the risks of things like ketamine and the effects on your bladder, the use of extreme synthetic drugs like nitazenes which has an extraordinarily high risk of death - and you wouldn't have a clue what the substance actually is until your body reacts because you assume your nice drug dealer knows what it is (and most of the time they don't know what it is).

All so some twat can sniff an unidentified white powder up their nose on a Friday night in a quiet local pub because they think they are cool?

Nah, fuck off.

NOT defending cocaine use or pro cocaine in any way but I find your perspective really interesting, can I ask if how you feel it compares in these terms to alcohol use? Obviously not in terms of county lines and dealing etc., but in terms of crimes committed by those under the influence of.

applegingermint · 19/10/2025 18:57

I’m just into my 40s and had a number of male associates from university days who liked the nose beers. I know no less than 4 men who were fit, happy, great careers who have keeled over from heart attacks leaving young families behind.

I now assume most male heart attacks in 30s and 40s are down to historic coke use.

Uricon2 · 19/10/2025 18:53

Samsonsund · 19/10/2025 18:08

Ketamine destroys your bladder do you not think it might damage other organs anyway not saying it was 100% drug related probably more just leaving it too late if anything.

I know I sound bitter on here but I think she’s the bitter one really apparently I was a waste of her tax money for having children young while she did the responsible thing and spent years getting drunk and high. I know many people that think that way. I’m happy, you don’t need drugs to be happy

@Samsonsund , if someone had slagged me off for having a baby at 16 (and going on to be a responsible adult) while wrecking their finances/nose/life with cocaine etc, I wouldn't be fond of them either.

Ombof · 19/10/2025 18:44

EmeraldShamrock000 · 19/10/2025 18:09

Well it depends on how much cocaine you have taken, your septum won't grow back or the structure of your noise, cocaine impacts the lungs and digestive track, pretty rough on the bowels too, likewise not everyone who does ket has bladder issues.

Well good on me that I've never taken it. Glad my DS has been scared to take these. He told me at uni he saw so many people doing bumps/lines/pills but he thankfully resisted the temptation

Samsonsund · 19/10/2025 18:42

Digdongdoo · 19/10/2025 18:30

Ideally one should neither use illegal drugs nor be a teen parent. Neither of you ought to be lecturing. And gloating about infertility is awful, please stop.

I’m not gloating. I’m just saying people have a lot to say about teen parents being irresponsible and wasting their lives while they spend their 20s taking drugs. While teen parents focus on their families

Digdongdoo · 19/10/2025 18:30

Samsonsund · 19/10/2025 18:08

Ketamine destroys your bladder do you not think it might damage other organs anyway not saying it was 100% drug related probably more just leaving it too late if anything.

I know I sound bitter on here but I think she’s the bitter one really apparently I was a waste of her tax money for having children young while she did the responsible thing and spent years getting drunk and high. I know many people that think that way. I’m happy, you don’t need drugs to be happy

Ideally one should neither use illegal drugs nor be a teen parent. Neither of you ought to be lecturing. And gloating about infertility is awful, please stop.

CoffeeCantata · 19/10/2025 18:26

Doingtheboxerbeat · 19/10/2025 17:01

I think it's part of the human condition to ignore things for convenience - it's just a question of what bothers you personally.

People who love animals still eat meat, people who care so much about the environment and hate cyclists, people who care about exploitation of children shop in fast fashion stores and online , doctors and nurses who smoke cigarettes, the list is neverending.

I completely agree (as a veggie animal lover!).

But the particular irony that I notice is the people I know who get on their high horses about slavery and imperialism (not good things, obvs) are happily using cocaine and failing to see the irony…just like the people they would criticise in the past.

TheGander · 19/10/2025 18:20

EmeraldShamrock000 · 19/10/2025 16:57

I have met people who have lost their job, family and home.
It's very sad when elderly parents are forced to borrow, sell their home, to save adult DC.
My Dbro has a building company, he often meets investors too, he said cocaine is hard to avoid in the business from the top tables to the site sweepers.
It's the new "do you smoke" 🚬 "do you sniff"

I swear one of the guys who did our extension( in London) was going drugs on site. He’d go in the toilet, not even bother flushing ( because he hadn’t used it) and walk out with bloodshot eyes.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 19/10/2025 18:09

Ombof · 19/10/2025 17:50

Why do people do ketamine knowing the bladder damage risks? I assume with cocaine if you stop slowly slowly your body goes back to normal

Well it depends on how much cocaine you have taken, your septum won't grow back or the structure of your noise, cocaine impacts the lungs and digestive track, pretty rough on the bowels too, likewise not everyone who does ket has bladder issues.

Samsonsund · 19/10/2025 18:08

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 17:49

No, her infertility is not from drugs. That is not something you can measure.

and yes, you sound unbelievably bitter and unhappy.

Ketamine destroys your bladder do you not think it might damage other organs anyway not saying it was 100% drug related probably more just leaving it too late if anything.

I know I sound bitter on here but I think she’s the bitter one really apparently I was a waste of her tax money for having children young while she did the responsible thing and spent years getting drunk and high. I know many people that think that way. I’m happy, you don’t need drugs to be happy

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