To think people are naive re cocaine

It's "recreational" until it suddenly isn't, and then it ruins lives.
My ex developed a habit, started stealing from me to pay his debt, and gaslighting me in to believing that my cards were been stolen/cloned/I was misplacing cash etc.
Developed a vile temper and the last straw was when during a coke binge, he headbutted me in the face because the door was locked and he couldn't find his keys to go out and get more...
I left that night. Then I found out he was stealing from his job and the police were involved, and he'd been sacked from his previous job for the same thing.
I had no idea.
He has since stole from his next girlfriend, and from his family, and sold his brother's possessions. They've all disowned him and he's homeless.
Some good recreation that.

Coke is cheaper and so more common place than it was 20 years ago, but I don’t think people are ‘naive’ if they’re shocked to find out their partner is doing coke. I mean guys cheating on a night out isn’t uncommon, but is it ‘naive’ to assume your DH is faithful? It’s about trust and honesty and assuming you know someone and their values. I mean I find it pretty shocking the number of people who are very vocal about social issues, but conveniently forget their ethics when it comes to the cocaine trade and doing a line on a night out.

It's the same drug. Cocaine that's snorted is just more popular amongst the middle and higher classes/incomes. People do rob their grannies and sell themselves for cocaine that goes up the nose too. There are also heroin addicts who can hold down a job. The privileged drug addicts just like to feel that they're above the rest so this fake hierarchy has been created.

Agree, when I saw that thread about her husband and coke I honestly thought how many litres a day is he drinking for her to start a thread. This is like the articles in the Times, every professional person does coke and the school run is a hotbed of sex. They don't and it's not. There will be circles (obviously the ops) but not every group of friends is doing it.

Do you not give a shit about the harm caused to get that coke to you?

I'm similar to you. I don't do coke that often and I'm not an addict, but I take it on occasion. I find it less harmful than alcohol!

Which is beside the point. The point is you can be a raging cokehead and still have a job.

I do know how common it is BUT I also used to work with kids forced into County Lines gangs from very young ages who were driven around with kinder egg containers shoved up their arses containing wraps because if they were stopped by police they couldn't legally be strip searched. They were used to so much violence and abuse that they were almost nonchalant about it.

I will not financially support these cunts and DP knows that if I ever found out he was using he'd be out the door and fast.

I don't give one single shit if his arsehole mates are doing it.

Lots of things are common it doesn't somehow make them good!

The violence and abuse may not be that close to your immediate life but you won't have to dig very deep to uncover the misery behind your habit, you hold down a job to support a whole chain of misery

Those who do it (as a rule) are not open about it to those who dont, you're right.

I used to be naive to it.

I wondered why my (much smaller and lighter than me) friend would appear fine on a night out while I would feel drunk and need to go home.

My local pub (village, old man sort of place) it is rife in there.

I used to work as a stripper.. obviously it is expected in that realm but of the customers doing it I'm talking doctors, teachers, solicitors professionals of any sort.

I've also worked for the police. .. enough said. They use it..

It's very very common.

Can you quote any posts where that was said?

I think people.are mixed up between acknowledging its popularity and widespread use and promoting and encouraging its use.

Just because we acknowledge domestic violence is common, it doesn't mean we are saying it is okay to beat up your partner.

I so agree with you! Yet most posters seem to not care less about this and act like it's a normal social activity, and if you don't do it you are somehow 'vanilla'.

This is the argument. Your immediate circle of friends don’t do it, fine. But you also state you “don’t know anyone” that does it, and that is probably not true. It could be your kids teacher, or a colleague, or the nice neighbour over the road, or your dentist or hairdresser, school parents, or any number of people that you know relatively well but aren’t in your close circle.

I genuinely do not believe that anyone knows literally not one person who takes drugs sometimes, whether you realise it or not.

I think you might be right and I find it very worrying how many people take it.

I didn't realise how common it was until I was 25 and a friend group I had at the time all did it. My DH has a friend group who again most of them do it, still, even now well into their 30's, they have families, hold professional jobs etc.
I tried a space cake in Amsterdam and hated it, but I am not a person who enjoys not feeling in control. I also have naturally fast heart rate and would worry what it would do to me. Even OTC medicine l, I read the whole patient information sheet before I take it (I clearly have my own issues)
When I first started noticing how common it was I was shocked, but now it does not phase me. I probably silently judge them, and I would not want my DH to do it, but each to their own.

I guess it depends on what your definition of “functioning” is. I see people who have shakey legs, can’t be calm or rational, drive like maniacs, wired I guess and looking after kids makes them like watching a slow train crash (if you know!)

agree it’s rife.

also think it’s kind of sad people get more and more dependent and it moves from recreational to needing it just to get by.

This.

I don’t know anyone that does it, and I do know my circle of friends well. Thankfully all of us are of the idea that doing drugs is repulsive.

it may be very common in your circle but clearly not to everyone.

Imagine thinking that the people who attend your mandatory training sessions as part of their job are actually influenced by them in any wider moralistic sense!

People don't even follow the advice given at manual handling to save their own backs!

You know this isn't a comedy sketch show, right? You're not playing the stern but completely deluded Matron type who everyone compares to their nightmare MIL.

If you say so.

Well, You should probably know the people who take your training aren’t as passionate as you are about it.

K xD

I was AML Compliance partner for several years. Anyone who can flippantly disregard that training is at best thick or at worst complicit in money laundering.