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To think people are naive re cocaine

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Knockonw00d · 19/10/2025 08:50

I see threads on here all the time where women find out their husband has been doing coke etc and are absolutely floored.
But it always amazes me how oblivious people are to how common it really is. I’m childfree and in my late 20s and i go on nights out almost every week so you get to know all of the other regulars in the bars. I do not know one person that I’ve met through going out that doesn’t do cocaine.

These people have professional jobs Monday - Friday. Some of them I know are teachers, nursery staff, work in the passport office. It is so common.

I also see a lot posters describing a change in behaviour and people suggest it could be drugs. But unless you’re doing things like heroin or spice, cocaine does not make you act in the ways people suggest.

Do people really not know how common casual use of cocaine is in this country?

OP posts:
Ombof · 19/10/2025 15:59

In all seriousness if all drugs were legalised would the violence that goes into the production process to down?

Readyforslippers · 19/10/2025 15:56

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 15:52

This makes no sense though. You’re suggesting all employers should have mandatory drug tests for everyone- weekly- so they can catch illegal activity* because it’s “everyone's business” (what a meaningless sound bite)

it’s clearly a ridiculous idea, breeches the clear line between work and private life, and allows a corporation to dictate your spare time. I don’t believe anyone really wants to live in that world.

*not sure it’s actually illegal to test positive for drugs, but still

I haven't said weekly. You may feel it's meaningless, I think more people should stand up to illegal drug use quite frankly and the consequences should be greater.

Pleasealexa · 19/10/2025 15:55

MegaMinion34 · 19/10/2025 14:43

My company recently introduced mandatory drug testing.

So far 25 employees (out of about 400) have been either sacked or suspended because they failed the test. Not all of them failed for cocaine, but it was the majority. Some of them, I wasn't particularly surprised. Some of them, I was. And these were employees at all levels of responsibility/seniority. It really is quite rife!

I'm glad companies are testing. Can you say what industry?

Uricon2 · 19/10/2025 15:54

There was plenty around in certain circles in the early 80s (inevitably known as Charlie then)

It's where I formed my opinion of its effects, having seen enough people behave like wankers on it and at least a few screw their lives up. Yes, alcohol can also be an incredibly destructive drug but the production of gin, wine and beer (for eg) is not dependent on major criminality, the abuse of children and everything else associated with the coke supply chain.

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 15:52

Readyforslippers · 19/10/2025 15:48

Clearly we disagree. Illegal activity is everyone's business.

This makes no sense though. You’re suggesting all employers should have mandatory drug tests for everyone- weekly- so they can catch illegal activity* because it’s “everyone's business” (what a meaningless sound bite)

it’s clearly a ridiculous idea, breeches the clear line between work and private life, and allows a corporation to dictate your spare time. I don’t believe anyone really wants to live in that world.

*not sure it’s actually illegal to test positive for drugs, but still

BnuchOfCnuts · 19/10/2025 15:51

I know of people in the following jobs that use cocaine:

University lecturer, NHS nurse, prison officer, surveyor, lorry driver. So many people. Most are parents.

I’ll be honest, I haven’t used it in a few years and hopefully never will again. But I don’t drink anymore. Most people use when having alcohol.

And yes I agree most people are naive to it. Even if you think “no one in my circle uses it” you’ll be very, very wrong.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 19/10/2025 15:50

Ireland is a gem for drug dealers bringing tons of cocaine in, there is very little security along the coast, there has been millions intercepted, a lot passes, weapons too.
Naval security is extremely poor.
They are setting up a new European naval security team to monitor the water.

Readyforslippers · 19/10/2025 15:49

Gwenhwyfar · 19/10/2025 15:48

You can be against anything you want, but why do you think employers get any say in what people do in their spare time?

I mentioned riding motorbikes. I consider that very risky and potentially irresponsible, but what would that have to do with anybody's employer?

Because they can and do remove people from employment for illegal activity.

MagicLoop · 19/10/2025 15:49

I don't think it's especially naïve to think that something that something people generally aren't open about (at work or in one's social circles) is less common than it actually is. Nor do I particularly see the benefit of being knowledgeable about exactly how common it is tbh. The people on MN calling others naïve about drugs usually seem to be the ones minimising their effects or in denial about their own or their partner's habits. Of course it's common. Is it even more common than I think? Probably. I won't be losing any sleep over that.

Gwenhwyfar · 19/10/2025 15:48

Readyforslippers · 19/10/2025 15:43

Not my point. I'm just against illegal drug use and don't believe those in any job should be using it. It shows they can't be trusted. I don't believe there is ever any justification for it.

You can be against anything you want, but why do you think employers get any say in what people do in their spare time?

I mentioned riding motorbikes. I consider that very risky and potentially irresponsible, but what would that have to do with anybody's employer?

Readyforslippers · 19/10/2025 15:48

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 15:45

But they don’t need to justify it to their employer 😭😂 their employer is no body!

you could argue that they should worry what their partner, or parents, oR the police will think of their drug taking, but their employer? Who gives a fuck? I don’t take coke and even I couldn’t give a shit what my employer thinks about it!

Clearly we disagree. Illegal activity is everyone's business.

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 15:45

Readyforslippers · 19/10/2025 15:43

Not my point. I'm just against illegal drug use and don't believe those in any job should be using it. It shows they can't be trusted. I don't believe there is ever any justification for it.

But they don’t need to justify it to their employer 😭😂 their employer is no body!

you could argue that they should worry what their partner, or parents, oR the police will think of their drug taking, but their employer? Who gives a fuck? I don’t take coke and even I couldn’t give a shit what my employer thinks about it!

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 15:43

Gwenhwyfar · 19/10/2025 15:40

All sorts of things can be said to be irresponsible. Riding a motorbike, for example, but what people do in their spare time has nothing to do with their employer unless it affects their work.

I know… did you mean to quote my post?

Readyforslippers · 19/10/2025 15:43

Gwenhwyfar · 19/10/2025 15:41

And tiredness testing? Or did you miss ready's point?

Not my point. I'm just against illegal drug use and don't believe those in any job should be using it. It shows they can't be trusted. I don't believe there is ever any justification for it.

DrowningInSyrup · 19/10/2025 15:43

Pandorea · 19/10/2025 08:58

It seems to have grown massively in general use. I work in child protection and have done for years and it seems so much more common now when parents are drug tested in care proceedings for cocaine to show up.
I’m not sure the courts really know how to view this in terms of a risk factor for day to day parenting capacity. I can see that it some cases it has really impacted but I presume lots of users would say they don’t feel it does.

I used to work for social services. 7/10 of the Social Workers were on something or other, often cocaine. I know 3 people who work for SS now I am in a different area, all of them take drugs and one of them is the biggest coke head I know. I try and avoid them.

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 15:43

Readyforslippers · 19/10/2025 15:40

Yes, illegal drug use makes you irresponsible.

But what does that mean for an employer?
as above, what do you think they’ll do when the COO tests positive, or the group counsel?

the reality is employers don’t care. They know what employees do in their own time is their business and they don’t place value judgements on “responsibility”
outside the workplace.

Gwenhwyfar · 19/10/2025 15:41

Chinapattern · 19/10/2025 15:39

Absolutely true, I was once out at a concert with a friend who is a Doctor, we bumped into a guy he knew who was an anaesthesiologist who proceeded to take a couple of ecstasy tablets after offering us some, we refused, but this "Doctor" then also proceeded to tell us he was working the next day.

Unfortunately drug testing should be the norm.

And tiredness testing? Or did you miss ready's point?

Readyforslippers · 19/10/2025 15:40

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 15:36

So anyone employed is in a position of trust?

even if they are in an actual position of trust how do illegal drugs impact that?

would you say the same about someone who uses alcohol? Or prescription drugs? Who is less responsible, a weekend cocaine user or an employee prescribed anti psychotics?

Edited

Yes, illegal drug use makes you irresponsible.

Gwenhwyfar · 19/10/2025 15:40

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 15:36

So anyone employed is in a position of trust?

even if they are in an actual position of trust how do illegal drugs impact that?

would you say the same about someone who uses alcohol? Or prescription drugs? Who is less responsible, a weekend cocaine user or an employee prescribed anti psychotics?

Edited

All sorts of things can be said to be irresponsible. Riding a motorbike, for example, but what people do in their spare time has nothing to do with their employer unless it affects their work.

Chinapattern · 19/10/2025 15:39

Ponoka7 · 19/10/2025 15:31

@Readyforslippers unfortunately responsible people do take drugs. Tiredness, can affect decisions, more adversely than a bit of amphetamine.

Absolutely true, I was once out at a concert with a friend who is a Doctor, we bumped into a guy he knew who was an anaesthesiologist who proceeded to take a couple of ecstasy tablets after offering us some, we refused, but this "Doctor" then also proceeded to tell us he was working the next day.

Unfortunately drug testing should be the norm.

Bambamhoohoo · 19/10/2025 15:36

Readyforslippers · 19/10/2025 15:27

Well clearly they should not be letting people using drugs hold positions of trust.

So anyone employed is in a position of trust?

even if they are in an actual position of trust how do illegal drugs impact that?

would you say the same about someone who uses alcohol? Or prescription drugs? Who is less responsible, a weekend cocaine user or an employee prescribed anti psychotics?

MegaMinion34 · 19/10/2025 15:36

HRchatter · 19/10/2025 15:09

Is that you London Metropolitan police ?

Nope, don't work for the police. But that wouldn't be surprising 😅🤣

Readyforslippers · 19/10/2025 15:32

Ponoka7 · 19/10/2025 15:31

@Readyforslippers unfortunately responsible people do take drugs. Tiredness, can affect decisions, more adversely than a bit of amphetamine.

No, if they take drugs they are not responsible.

Ponoka7 · 19/10/2025 15:31

@Readyforslippers unfortunately responsible people do take drugs. Tiredness, can affect decisions, more adversely than a bit of amphetamine.

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