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To think people are naive re cocaine

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Knockonw00d · 19/10/2025 08:50

I see threads on here all the time where women find out their husband has been doing coke etc and are absolutely floored.
But it always amazes me how oblivious people are to how common it really is. I’m childfree and in my late 20s and i go on nights out almost every week so you get to know all of the other regulars in the bars. I do not know one person that I’ve met through going out that doesn’t do cocaine.

These people have professional jobs Monday - Friday. Some of them I know are teachers, nursery staff, work in the passport office. It is so common.

I also see a lot posters describing a change in behaviour and people suggest it could be drugs. But unless you’re doing things like heroin or spice, cocaine does not make you act in the ways people suggest.

Do people really not know how common casual use of cocaine is in this country?

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JennyShaw · 20/11/2025 11:35

CypressGrove · 18/11/2025 20:05

The fact is that it is illegal now so it doesn't make anyone who take it less of a cunt if the misery only occurs because its illegal.

There are two ways to solve the problem. One that works and one that doesn't. You talk about all the problems but you don't seem to want to solve them.

CypressGrove · 18/11/2025 20:05

JennyShaw · 18/11/2025 10:22

The misery is because it is illegal. There is no more reason why cocaine production and distribution should cause misery than sugar production and distribution.

The reason why cocaine is cut with other drugs is because it is illegal.

If you make something illegal it is because you want to make it less available. Sometimes that doesn't work at all.

The fact is that it is illegal now so it doesn't make anyone who take it less of a cunt if the misery only occurs because its illegal.

Maersk · 18/11/2025 11:20

JennyShaw · 18/11/2025 10:22

The misery is because it is illegal. There is no more reason why cocaine production and distribution should cause misery than sugar production and distribution.

The reason why cocaine is cut with other drugs is because it is illegal.

If you make something illegal it is because you want to make it less available. Sometimes that doesn't work at all.

The illegality extends the whole length of the supply chain. So those who argue for legalising it in Europe and the US would still have to deal with illegality in producer countries. And legalising it there would not lead to improved conditions for the small farmers. Just look at the Central American coffee producers.

Are you making the same argument about images of child abuse and rape? Just legalise it and the problem will be solved?

JennyShaw · 18/11/2025 10:22

The misery is because it is illegal. There is no more reason why cocaine production and distribution should cause misery than sugar production and distribution.

The reason why cocaine is cut with other drugs is because it is illegal.

If you make something illegal it is because you want to make it less available. Sometimes that doesn't work at all.

onlymethen · 16/11/2025 08:40

JurassicPark4Eva · 19/10/2025 09:02

I don't give a fuck if it's common.

I think dramatically less of anyone who uses it, including my 21yo BIL and SIL who used it in my local pub when we took them out for a meal. They will never be invited again.

I have been in law enforcement for over 20years. The misery of drug dealing, county lines, associated sexual abuse and rapes, the extreme violence, the importation, the dumping of drugs into water courses, the impact on the countries of origin for the drugs..... And people are also only now hearing the risks of things like ketamine and the effects on your bladder, the use of extreme synthetic drugs like nitazenes which has an extraordinarily high risk of death - and you wouldn't have a clue what the substance actually is until your body reacts because you assume your nice drug dealer knows what it is (and most of the time they don't know what it is).

All so some twat can sniff an unidentified white powder up their nose on a Friday night in a quiet local pub because they think they are cool?

Nah, fuck off.

Spot on. Anyone who watched the documentary on how cocaine is made and the absolute misery it causes from first production to up your nose at a dinner party and still takes it has no morals or heart.

Hiver · 28/10/2025 14:29

AliceMaforethought · 19/10/2025 13:28

I'm similar to you. I don't do coke that often and I'm not an addict, but I take it on occasion. I find it less harmful than alcohol!

How old are you @AliceMaforethought ? Do you take coke alone?

VoodooQualities · 22/10/2025 19:16

NDerbys32 · 20/10/2025 19:43

I think it's a much bigger issue than legalising it or funding more work against it.

We're now into multi generational behaviour where drug taking, cannabis upwards, has been normalised to a great extent. The communities I worked in were riddled with it even some years ago, and the great British public will absolutely kick back against anything that they see see as infringing their rights, even if it means kids being stabbed to death as a result.

How dare anyone tell someone else that their little visit to the toilet with a friend or weekend sniff is bad for them or anyone else?

I doubt they would listen now, or even care about it. That's where we are.

Parts of this thread are proof of the willing ignorance out there.

I made sure I brought my kid up properly and look after my family. That's all any of us can do, in reality.

Thanks for replying, but it sounds like you don't know what the solution might be. You've described how we have hit rock bottom.

I'm afraid there's nothing you've said that's shaken my belief that, since we've hit rock bottom (after decades of trying the same approach over and over), we need to try legalisation alongside robust education and safety nets plus regulated and safe supply.

Which is not, incidentally, incompatible with staying tough on black market supply anyway. We could feasibly keep the laws in place which put black market producers, importers and dealers in prison. And even (potentially) still fine users who buy on the black market or maybe make them attend a 'The truth about black market drugs' course like the speeding course I have to attend in a few weeks.

Sgustin · 21/10/2025 16:13

It is common now. It has become really easy to get hold of. When I was in my 20s, you needed to know where to buy drugs. Now you just buy them online from what I've seen.

Anyway, most people I knew at university did some drugs, but they all gave it up when they became proper grown ups.

Now, proper grown ups do it too. I personally think it's nuts. It's so bad for your heart. If you're 21 you get away with it, but these big grown ups with stressful work and kids etc, necking wine and doing a few lines? Honestly makes me shudder. I have a few doctors in my immediate family and they say if anyone under 35 comes in with anything heart related, their first question is if they do cocaine.

I'd be "floored" if my husband started doing it absolutely. It may be more common to do it in your 40s now, but it is still really weird (to me) and I would worry about his heart and blood pressure. Wine on its own is bad enough tbh.

Edited to fix typos
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NDerbys32 · 21/10/2025 16:13

Tiswa · 21/10/2025 00:49

But isn’t that the issue with it, because it is a far more middle class/university education drug that allows the illusion of it not having the same effect as meth or heroin that you can take it and not have any negative effects from it - which is IMO what the OP is intimating.

i mean it has been around for years. Usage of it is probably less now than it was in the late 1800s early 1900s when Coca Cola was invented. I mean it isn’t a coincidence is it that both are called coke.

there is an argument/discussion of course around why we normalise alcohol far more than cocaine and nicotine far more than weed!

Hi - the image is that of a middle class drug, and that's part of the problem. It really isn't, and those middle class dinner party goers, who have exhausted the high from excessive drinking, three cars and nowt in the fridge, being all edgy and enjoying doing something illegal behind closed doors and swinging, yes, it's also common, have sought the next buzz.

I'd love to show them who brings it in, how it's transported and how it ends up at the comfy house on a Saturday night.

I'd like to think they'd be shocked, but I'd probably be wrong.

And, as for legalisation, having watched Johnson at the Covid enquiry and current political cross party shenanigans, I'm not sure I'd trust any of them with the Saturday big shop, never mind legalisation of controlled drugs.

Oh, and if you're using cannabis at home to any regular degree, your neighbours will know about it and, once a cop visits on any sort of enquiry, it's incredible what they talk about over a nice cup of tea.

As the lovely Nick Ross once said, 'don't have nightmares' folks, and stay safe.

Meandmyguy · 21/10/2025 16:05

ThatAquaRobin · 21/10/2025 16:01

If only this were true. (Spotting coke heads a mile off)
My ex was not obvious. No aggression or dilated pupils.
He seemed to be more 'on it' more intentional and the biggest thing was 'not grumpy' when I think he was using. Sniffing all the time with a runny nose certainly.
I either didn't want to see it or missed it completely until the mood swings became too much.

Good that he's an ex.

I'd have zero time for cocaine.

Meandmyguy · 21/10/2025 16:03

Tiswa · 21/10/2025 15:42

So your actual point is that you can spot someone doing coke even if you work with them because it does cause personality changes - which is exactly what the OP was saying isn’t true.

Unlike smoking which only your partner knows about and supports

No thank you admittedly trying to understand your posts has given me a headache given how lightheaded smelling next door makes me now I will give it a pass!

Plus I could just buy a CBD drink legally in Sainsbury’s and save my lungs

If someone was under the influence of cocaine, you might spot it, you might not.

It's not always obvious of course.

I'm sure I do work with people that do drugs, I doubt I would notice personality changes but there are other signs that would give it away.

You could always try the vape which has no smell but the green light might give you away😉

ThatAquaRobin · 21/10/2025 16:01

Meandmyguy · 21/10/2025 15:04

Of course. Is that what you were getting at because it goes without saying....

If we were colleagues etc, you would never know 😃

A coke head though, can spot them a mile off.

I think you sound like you could do with a little spliff.

If only this were true. (Spotting coke heads a mile off)
My ex was not obvious. No aggression or dilated pupils.
He seemed to be more 'on it' more intentional and the biggest thing was 'not grumpy' when I think he was using. Sniffing all the time with a runny nose certainly.
I either didn't want to see it or missed it completely until the mood swings became too much.

Tiswa · 21/10/2025 15:42

Meandmyguy · 21/10/2025 15:04

Of course. Is that what you were getting at because it goes without saying....

If we were colleagues etc, you would never know 😃

A coke head though, can spot them a mile off.

I think you sound like you could do with a little spliff.

So your actual point is that you can spot someone doing coke even if you work with them because it does cause personality changes - which is exactly what the OP was saying isn’t true.

Unlike smoking which only your partner knows about and supports

No thank you admittedly trying to understand your posts has given me a headache given how lightheaded smelling next door makes me now I will give it a pass!

Plus I could just buy a CBD drink legally in Sainsbury’s and save my lungs

Ombof · 21/10/2025 15:11

I do think I'm better than others because I don't drink, smoke or do drugs.

Meandmyguy · 21/10/2025 15:04

Tiswa · 21/10/2025 14:48

So he knows, so your partner knows and does it too.

Of course. Is that what you were getting at because it goes without saying....

If we were colleagues etc, you would never know 😃

A coke head though, can spot them a mile off.

I think you sound like you could do with a little spliff.

Tiswa · 21/10/2025 14:48

Meandmyguy · 21/10/2025 14:42

My boyfriend gets it for me when he gets his.

So he knows, so your partner knows and does it too.

Meandmyguy · 21/10/2025 14:42

Tiswa · 21/10/2025 14:37

And your supplier?

if you are that prolific a smoker somebody knows that is the whole naivity of the thread that people do know

cannabis is the least harmful of all the drugs including nicotine and alcohol so doesn’t bother me at all but to say no one knows and it doesn’t have an effect on your simply isn’t true though

My boyfriend gets it for me when he gets his.

Tiswa · 21/10/2025 14:37

Meandmyguy · 21/10/2025 14:34

I don't enjoy his 😄

And your supplier?

if you are that prolific a smoker somebody knows that is the whole naivity of the thread that people do know

cannabis is the least harmful of all the drugs including nicotine and alcohol so doesn’t bother me at all but to say no one knows and it doesn’t have an effect on your simply isn’t true though

Meandmyguy · 21/10/2025 14:34

EmeraldShamrock000 · 21/10/2025 14:17

The cow probably enjoys the aroma..
Sounds peaceful.✌️

I don't enjoy his 😄

Stripperyone · 21/10/2025 14:32

If the PP who smokes cannabis does it at someone else's place, comes home washes clothes and changes, I can see why nobody would suspect her unless they happened to bump into her walking home.

I remain friends with a prolific 'stoner', been friends since school. Whenever I visit her I am paranoid driving home becuase her whole house smells of it. But she smokes it all day, I'd probably smell like I smoke it too were I to encounter someone before I threw my clothes in the wash, having just returned from her house.

Stripperyone · 21/10/2025 14:28

Thatsalineallright · 21/10/2025 09:20

It depends. Legalising it would mean quality standards needing to be met and taxes needing to be paid. That might make the legal product more expensive than the illegal product, in which case there is still a huge incentive for the black market. I believe there is a similar phenomenon with cannabis in countries where it has been legalised.

It would definitely make it a lot more expensive, I think I said upthread that there'd likely still be an illegal market for it. It wouldn't be a solution to all of the issues it causes although it would likely reduce them. And quite possibly create some new ones.

Stripperyone · 21/10/2025 14:25

kkloo · 21/10/2025 08:47

I think she was very much implying that it's more common than we think and that we're all falsely believing that it causes behavioural issues because we know nothing at all about it, because everyone she meets when she's out is on it and yet all of them are fine......🙄

Haha okay, you've interpreted her posts quite differently to how I did.
I do think It's a lot more common than a lot of people think.

I don't think everyone is on it nor do I think every cocaine user is fine.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 21/10/2025 14:17

Meandmyguy · 21/10/2025 14:12

My next door neighbour is a cow, think I'm safe unless it learns to talk.

The cow probably enjoys the aroma..
Sounds peaceful.✌️

Meandmyguy · 21/10/2025 14:12

EmeraldShamrock000 · 21/10/2025 13:14

They know, and if they don't know, they're suspicious.
Not judging, it is common around here, the constant smell wafting.

My next door neighbour is a cow, think I'm safe unless it learns to talk.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 21/10/2025 13:14

Meandmyguy · 21/10/2025 12:48

I don't smoke it at home because I have children.

So no, no one would know.

They know, and if they don't know, they're suspicious.
Not judging, it is common around here, the constant smell wafting.

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