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Partner and weekend

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LavenderHazexo · 18/10/2025 21:57

Hello

So partner isn't happy I'm not in greatest of moods with him.
My mum is coming to stay with us next weekend, this was arranged 6 weeks ago. Partner exclaimed he needed time to clean spare room and assemble spare bed. I'd clear room but its all his stuff and there is basically no storage in this house. Every room has crap in it and boxes everywhere. I moved in with partner 6 months ago before having our baby. Baby is 6 months old. Before baby i would stay thurs-mon and go back home as it was closer to my work (he lived 1 hr away from me). This week I reminded him my mum was coming to stay next weekend. He made a comment that he had lots to do. We agreed to really crack down this weekend. Last night partner said "did i tell you my parents are up this weekend" - no he bloody didnt. So they've arranged to go to his brothers on Sunday for dinner and invited us. I said yes but only if dinner was early its always late and it makes our baby grumpy as we are always coming home during her bedtime. She then gets a good sleep in the car and is wide awake for hours when home. I also said he could go himself. He said no, he wants baby there and me. Anyway, today, he tells me we can meet his parents today and leave tomorrow. I said okay, whats plan, he said he didn't know then at last minute said he was going over to their motorhome to pick them up and take over baby cot (his dad built it for all grandchildren and it was last used 15 years ago so needs amendments). He said i could meet them at farm shop close to motorhome for lunch. I agreed but said I needed petrol first. We both looked on Google maps and overall journey with petrol stop was 1hr 5 minutes. I said okay and off he went and i left later. I left ten minutes later than we agreed as I had to get myself and baby ready / changed. Anyway, he gets to lunch place 6 minutes before I did. Asked if I needed a hand I said no. He came out to my car anyway just as baby was put in pram and bags popped under. He then took pram, said lunch orders had 5 minutes left and rushed away with baby causing me to follow behind. I gave my order quickly and went to loo. When i returned partner asked where id been as i was late. I said i wasnt late. But i was annoyed as partner got ready leisurely and alone while i got me and baby ready. Came back from loo and baby was being passed around his parents. Every now and then they kept saying things like "aw do you want to go to daddy", "aw can you not see daddy", "aw let's let daddy eat". My partner took baby back and his parents kept saying "aw come to us, let daddy eat". It pissed me off as not once did anyone say anything about mummy. Inalwaysbsit and eat with baby when we're out but because we met his parents, its like he had to push pram in, he had to sit with baby whole time etc then afterwards it was closing time we went back to their motorhome for coffee. In motorhome I held baby. I was offered coffee and accepted. When coffee was ready, partner said about giving baby to his mum, his dad then said "go to nanna and give mummy another break". Got home partner said I was off all day. I said there's lots to do. He said no there isn't. Feeling pissed off. He said im pising myself off as today was fine and im just moaning am I??
Now baby is asleep, he said hes off to bed so here I am now going out with dog and tidying room.

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Eenameenadeeka · 18/10/2025 22:32

It does kind of sound like you were grumpy with him all day because of wanting the room emptied, it's a bit awkward for his parents because other people can sense that so probably why they were saying things about Daddy because they aren't really sure why you're annoyed or how to interact, which leaves you feeling left out and more annoyed.

LavenderHazexo · 18/10/2025 22:31

Yes on mat leave at moment

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ShenandoahRiver · 18/10/2025 22:28

He sounds crap
Don’t have another baby with him
Are you working?

outerspacepotato · 18/10/2025 22:26

Throw it all out. Might want to include him.

LavenderHazexo · 18/10/2025 22:24

See above?

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GingerPaste · 18/10/2025 22:23

ShenandoahRiver · 18/10/2025 22:12

Could you start again and cut out all the waffle about who said what

And please break it into paragraphs. It’s difficult reading a solid wall of text.

LavenderHazexo · 18/10/2025 22:20

To cut a v.long story, short, basically:

  • Partner fot ready leisurely whilst I did tidy some of the room and then got me and baby ready
  • partner managed to find time before leaving to 3d print a sword for his mate.. dont ask!
  • partner asked if I needed hand before I arrived, I said no, he came out anway and got baby and pushed her in, leaving me to walk in behind.
  • I didn't hold my baby once at lunch partners parents kept saying "aw go to daddy, where is daddy erc" nothinf once about mummy
  • partner made comments about my time before asking why I was late, when I told him i wasn't and reminded him I got petrol he said okay despite us agreeing this before i left
  • going to his parents afterwards and his dad saying "give mumm another break" it felt like digs
  • now home, I had to settle baby as time disrupted her nighttime, I got puked on, I am now having to walk dog and tidy more room while he goes to bed
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LavenderHazexo · 18/10/2025 22:16

It is confusing the way I've typed it all 😪 never mind. Sorry

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Overthebow · 18/10/2025 22:16

I can’t work out what the issue is.

BeMellowAquaSquid · 18/10/2025 22:14

I am completely lost

ShenandoahRiver · 18/10/2025 22:12

Could you start again and cut out all the waffle about who said what

ThejoyofNC · 18/10/2025 22:10

I have no idea what you're trying to say. You're annoyed he didn't empty the room for your parents visit and went to see his parents instead? You've had weeks, why haven't you done it?

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