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Viewer stole from my house?

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Calcaata · 18/10/2025 20:29

I have a Diptique candle, 3 wick and cost £180. I’ve had two house viewings today, not done by myself but by the estate agent. I’ve come home and it’s missing.

Aibu to expect the estate agent to reimburse me?? I won’t be able to contact them now until Monday.

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NotForTheMoneyandNotForTheApplause · 19/10/2025 18:43

Flinderskleepers · 19/10/2025 13:06

I can't believe how much this thread has derailed because of jealousy on what OP spends on her candle. Welcome to Mumsnet I guess!

You don't actually think posters are expressing surprise at the price of the candle because really they want to be able to buy them do you?

I think it's way steep for a candle but to suggest that's because I'm jealous is laughable. We're allowed to think things are overpriced because, you know, they are overpriced, there's no ulterior reason and if someone gave me £180 with no strings attached I wouldn't be heading off to the candle shop 😁

SushiForMe · 19/10/2025 18:40

Differentforgirls · 19/10/2025 16:40

See I think that with the WC. I have a 4 wick candle, but I also have their pot pourri in my living room and I don't need to burn the candle as, for me, the room always smells lovely anyway. Thank you btw.

Ooh I might try their pot pourri…

U53rName · 19/10/2025 18:31

Differentforgirls · 19/10/2025 16:15

A Magpie stole my engagement ring.

My DH says a magpie stole his metal watch from a windowsill. I always wonder if he’s full of it and misplaced it. Is this really a thing?

BaconCheeses · 19/10/2025 18:29

CoffeeCantata · 19/10/2025 16:25

Just catching up!

To be clear: I feel sorry for OP having property stolen. That is appalling in the context and I’m not minimising what is a crime and an unsettling one too, as well as a horrible breach of trust and professionalism where the agents are concerned.

But OP - you were daft to tell us it was a Diptyque candle costing £180! OMG - have you any clue how that’s going to come over to people on here who would spend only half that on a weekly shop, or indeed less? It’s really tone-deaf and for that, I think you need to take the teasing on the chin.

£180 candles….you must be either loaded or very gullible, or both!🤣

She doesn't need to take anything on the chin just because a few stuck up arseholes want to kick her while she's down to make themselves feel superior.

There are plenty of fun things in life that don't include making fun of someone else's misfortune.

Bullies have no class.

DBD1975 · 19/10/2025 18:12

Growlybear83 · 19/10/2025 17:41

I’m interested in how your estate agent reacted to you being present for viewings. Having read this thread, it’s confirmed my worries about leaving my house in the hands of an agent and going out if we put it on the market. Did you accompany viewers round the house?

No I didn't accompany the Estate agent, they showed the viewer around but I was present throughout the viewing and the Estate agent introduced me to the viewer and I then said goodbye to the viewer as they left (both on arrival and departure I chatted with the viewer and there is no way that would have been able to take anything from my property).

Cherrysoup · 19/10/2025 18:05

Nearly50omg · 19/10/2025 17:43

Get indoor security cameras - the ring one for £20 I had in my bedroom when I was selling my house and it was funny watching back some of the viewings once people realised there was a camera in there - they became a lot less interested in my drawers and contents of bedroom funnily enough! Since being burgled from cleaners etc and also previous house sales I wasn’t having a repeat performance

Omg, nowhere is sacred! I might invest in cameras, although I think we're doing viewings ourselves, need every penny for the next place, hopefully the forever home. I do have a camera looking outside, could definitely bring it upstairs.

Pilfer · 19/10/2025 17:53

CoffeeCantata · 19/10/2025 16:25

Just catching up!

To be clear: I feel sorry for OP having property stolen. That is appalling in the context and I’m not minimising what is a crime and an unsettling one too, as well as a horrible breach of trust and professionalism where the agents are concerned.

But OP - you were daft to tell us it was a Diptyque candle costing £180! OMG - have you any clue how that’s going to come over to people on here who would spend only half that on a weekly shop, or indeed less? It’s really tone-deaf and for that, I think you need to take the teasing on the chin.

£180 candles….you must be either loaded or very gullible, or both!🤣

It’s really interesting that you seem to have no idea how what you’re saying is sounding.

Salome61 · 19/10/2025 17:50

So sorry. I sold my house at auction and the very young viewing agent couldn't supervise the number of people they invited to viewings, I saw all the cars.

Somebody took my son's camera, I searched high and low, it had definitely been on the shelf when I went onto the market. They also broke the handle off the tiny door of the Aga where you light it, must have used some force.

Nearly50omg · 19/10/2025 17:47

Growlybear83 · 19/10/2025 17:41

I’m interested in how your estate agent reacted to you being present for viewings. Having read this thread, it’s confirmed my worries about leaving my house in the hands of an agent and going out if we put it on the market. Did you accompany viewers round the house?

Just do your own viewings and then you don’t have to worry about thefts. Ideally have someone else there too to keep an eye as if there’s a couple of them they may bring children and let the children go look upstairs on their own etc - make it very clear this isn’t happening and someone needs will go with them! The damage and theft caused by sticky fingers from children and old people was more than the main viewers I found

LittleMoreLegAction · 19/10/2025 17:45

@Calcaata OP, what have you decided to do?

Nearly50omg · 19/10/2025 17:43

Cherrysoup · 19/10/2025 16:04

I’m selling the house next year and now shitting myself about allowing anyone to look round unsupervised! I’ll be moving any jewellery/large candies, but genuinely, what if they take a fancy to an ornament or something?

Get indoor security cameras - the ring one for £20 I had in my bedroom when I was selling my house and it was funny watching back some of the viewings once people realised there was a camera in there - they became a lot less interested in my drawers and contents of bedroom funnily enough! Since being burgled from cleaners etc and also previous house sales I wasn’t having a repeat performance

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/10/2025 17:42

19lottie82 · 19/10/2025 17:39

Oh ffs, I was waiting for this, there’s always one!! 🤦‍♀️

Always one? Loads of posters have said this on this thread! That £180 is a lot to spend on a candle. OP can buy what she wants though. Nothing to do with anyone else.

Growlybear83 · 19/10/2025 17:41

DBD1975 · 19/10/2025 16:42

I am not sure how you can prove the viewer stole the candle.
This is exactly why I have never allowed a viewer to view my property without me being present.
I know Estate Agents don't like it but tough, my house my rules!

I’m interested in how your estate agent reacted to you being present for viewings. Having read this thread, it’s confirmed my worries about leaving my house in the hands of an agent and going out if we put it on the market. Did you accompany viewers round the house?

TeenLifeMum · 19/10/2025 17:41

Pilfer · 19/10/2025 15:26

And I think that’s where other posters are coming from too.

I’d say most of them sound sanctimonious and mean spirited, but maybe that’s just me.

Edited

Some do but I think I block them out after years in here. This thread has made me consider my ex cleaner may have stolen my tennis bracelet. I can’t find it and looked everywhere but I did used to leave my jewellery out in the bedroom, so she would have had access. I was assuming I’d lost it - but that doesn’t really make sense as I’ve run out of places to look. I’ll never know.

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/10/2025 17:40

HeatingFiddler · 19/10/2025 16:10

Yes. Completely hysterical.

Cheap doesn't mean 'smoke damage'. What an oversimplification of a very complex issue. Although I am not sure why I am surprised given you have displayed a rather incredible lack of critical thinking throughout this thread.

Oh yes, cheap DOES mean smoke damage in some cases. And lots of nasty greasy residue on EVERYTHING as I said earlier. I have known people this has happened to. (I said this earlier too.)

For someone who claims to work in candle making, you don't know very much about candles. At all!

😂

!

19lottie82 · 19/10/2025 17:39

PuggyPuggyPuggy · 18/10/2025 21:22

Fuck me, people are paying £180 for candles? How the other half live...

Oh ffs, I was waiting for this, there’s always one!! 🤦‍♀️

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 19/10/2025 17:37

Differentforgirls · 19/10/2025 16:08

Yes. I'm just dismissing your posts as you are clearly hysterical and have no idea what makes a good candle. You probably buy the ones that that are cheap as chips, but which, by constantly burning them, means you have to redecorate every two years due to the smoke damage caused by cheap candles. I didn't ask you anyway.

Now this post DOES need a 😂 emoji!

Praying4Peace · 19/10/2025 17:29

OP how can you be 100pc certain that it was stolen by them?

susiedaisy1912 · 19/10/2025 17:14

If op had said it was a piece of jewellery for £180 there wouldn’t be half the criticism on here . Op has had someone steal from her. That’s a criminal offence and she came here for support.

BlackStrayCat · 19/10/2025 17:10

and it looks it.

Blondeshavemorefun · 19/10/2025 17:02

FreeTheOakTree · 19/10/2025 14:43

There are no 3 wick candles for these prices. Not in Tesco, neither in TKmaxx

Think my 3 wick was 4.99 from Aldi / got it last week

Viewer stole from my house?
MaturingCheeseball · 19/10/2025 17:01

Exactly - candle schmandle - it was a theft. I don’t see how OP can prove it happened, though.

dsis was selling her house and the ea turned up with an extended family - mother, father, kids and two sets of grandparents. They fanned out over the house and were touching everything like it was a boot sale and getting things out of cupboards and drawers. Dsis was very upset and ea was very apologetic.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 19/10/2025 17:00

Differentforgirls · 19/10/2025 16:51

So now it's the "grin" emoji. The point is - you are judging people on what they spend their own money on. I have bought your "small sellers" candles and tbh, they are shite.

If I don't see the cry laughing emoji on this thread again it won't be too soon.

Do people really think sticking one on the end of their post hides all the passive aggressive jibes they've thrown about. They must take us for stupid.

HeatingFiddler · 19/10/2025 16:58

Differentforgirls · 19/10/2025 16:51

So now it's the "grin" emoji. The point is - you are judging people on what they spend their own money on. I have bought your "small sellers" candles and tbh, they are shite.

I'm very sorry you've had a bad experienced, but not all small, independent, businesses are crap.

And I am very sorry my use of emojis bothers you so much you've felt compelled to comment on it multiple times. 😉😃😂😳

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 19/10/2025 16:55

@Calcaata - have you contacted the estate agents? They should have supervised the viewing properly, then no theft would have happened. It doesn’t matter whether MNers think you deserve a Dyptique candle, or should have given all the money to the Sanctuary for Alchoholic Snails - something has been stolen from your house - and that is wrong, pure and simple.

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